Denying an interview?

<p>i had never thought to send a thank you email. would it be strange to send one almost 3 weeks after the interview?</p>

<p>the thing is sending thank you notes to me is the same as being all fake and nice to be a teachers pet.</p>

<p>My Ambassador told me the actual meeting wasn't an interview, but that he wanted to tell me more about Cornell. Do all the Ambassadors still write a report to Cornell even if the thing wasn't an official interview? I'm getting worried since I fear I didn't leave a good impression, and I hope this thing doesn't negatively affect admissions.</p>

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<p>No. It's call etiquette. And you best learn it.</p>

<p>^ I agree. It should be engrained in your mind by now... just remember it for the future. A thank-you note never hurts. Just think, would you ever mind receiving one? Probably not. Now would you ever mind <em>not</em> receiving one? Probably</p>

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<p>Formally thanking someone for something that they don't have to do (volunteering takes time away from their family), is just proper manners which, obviously, you have not yet learned. Better learn it soon, however, bcos prospective employers will expect that you practice proper manners bcos it will reflect on them if you don't.</p>

<p>I dont know about most people, but for me, I may not always remember who sent me a thank you note, but I always remember who didnt!</p>

<p>There are two types of interviews. The required interviews for certain colleges, such as those for the hotel school where you have a scheduled appointment on campus, or if you can't get to Ithaca, they will find a hotel representative closer to you.</p>

<p>Then there are the Alumni Ambassador interviews which are done locally, by Alumni Ambassadors. Those are to give you, the applicant, information about Cornell, and to get more indepth information about you that the interviewer can provide. "This candidate was very informed about Cornell, definitely is excited about the school...etc. This candidate has been involved in additional activities that might not have been fully described in their application..." Every alumni who interviews an applicant is required to complete a report about the interview that goes to Cornell. </p>

<p>As to the thank you...my daughter graduated from Cornell last May and sent an email thank you to every person she interviewed with for a potential job. </p>

<p>Whether it is a college interview, a job interview, etc. ....sending a thank you to the person for "taking time out of their schedule to meet with me last week...".etc. and to reinforce your interest is good professional etiquette. </p>

<p>Whether it is three weeks late or your interview was yesterday, yes I would send it. " Dear Mr./Mrs. I apologize for the delay in sending this, however, I wanted to thank you again for taking time out of your schedule to meet with me and discuss my interest in Cornell....etc. A few sentences is all that is required. Come up with a standard thank you to send after interviews and meetings etc. and revise/edit accordingly.</p>

<p>If I have an interview at an office or home I send a thank you via mail - if meeting at a coffee shop with only email contact I send an email thank you. The thing with my Cornell interviewer was that she sent me a follow up to some of my questions immediately (nice of her to do some research for me, don't you think?) and I replied to that email and thanked her for the interview - I was kinda bummed that I didn't have the chance to send a thank you email in and of its self, she beat me to the punch.
I sent a mail thank you to my Georgetown interviewer (to his office where we met) and he sent me an email to thank me for my thank you. Of course I have been raised sending thank yous to aunts, uncles and grandparents since I could write.
Cayuga - only 2 thank you notes out of 20+? I am shocked - I really thought everybody sent thank yous. I also sent notes, via mail, to my high school, addresed to my teachers that wrote my recs. Regular mail is a little more effort and in my opinion expresses sincerity to a greater degree. If I am able to find inexpensive, quirky gifts I may give these teachers something at the end of the school year - a gift now would, to me, seem inappropriate since one is a current teacher (just a thought that may or may not pan out).</p>

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Cayuga - only 2 thank you notes out of 20+? I am shocked - I really thought everybody sent thank yous. I also sent notes, via mail, to my high school, addresed to my teachers that wrote my recs.

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<p>What's even more shocking is the number of the alumni children who do not send a thank you note. I'm okay with an email -- it doesn't need to be snail mail. But I'm going out of my way to help out students from my area. I gladly do it regardless of the recognition received, but I worry that it doesn't bode well for the student's other endeavors.</p>

<p>It's interesting that you note that you send snail mail for home and office visits, and an email for coffee shops. Did you realize that a lot of schools, including Cornell, strongly frown upon applicants meeting with alums in offices or homes?</p>

<p>Either way, I think we're going to see a tidal wave of politeness and etiquette return to this country in the coming years.</p>

<p>Georgetown was at an office - Harvard was at the interviewer's home and Cornell was at a coffee shop. The home interview was in my own town, if it wasn't I would have been wigged out a bit.<br>
Here's hoping to the tidal wave you refer to - My mom makes dinner for my buddies and I every so often and always grabs a couple of us to set the table - I think I am the only one out of ten guys that knows how to set a table, ya know - how to set the silverware out etc. just a funny observation. Oh yeah, and no milk bottles left on the table - I finally got her to let us put the ketchup bottle on the table! I've spent alot of time complaining about her fussy manners but in the end I am glad I have learned what I have learned.
Don't even try to put your elbows on the table!! She'll give you a wop with the handle end of her table knife. Now thats not much for manners but you'll learn your lesson pretty quick.</p>

<p>i dont believe its called etiquette. it is more of sucking up to have a higher chance of getting in which i am not willing to do.</p>

<p>I assume my interview write up is most likely complete by the time my note arrives so would not think there would be an effect on the interviewer's report.
Thank you notes are classic etiquette.</p>

<p>"i dont believe its called etiquette. it is more of sucking up to have a higher chance of getting in which i am not willing to do. "</p>

<p>You can believe anything that you want to. It is proper etiquette to follow an interview with a thank you note. At this point in time you can either choose to grow up and show people respect for their time or remain a child who believes that it is sucking up.</p>

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<p>Nope. By the time your formal thank you would have arrived by snail mail (properly), the alum would have most likely already have submitted his/her report. Thus, it would have zero impact on admissions.</p>

<p>I always submit a little thank you email the same day of the interview. I think it is awkward to ask your interviewer for his/her address.</p>

<p>btw, my interview went great!</p>

<p>keep in mind that the interview will most likely NOT make or break a decision, so "sucking up" wont sway an interviewer. if you had a good interview, and you send a note, it just shows that you are a well rounded and responsible person. a thank you note will not save a "bad" interview. if you are going to be rejected, its probably because of other factors in your application.</p>