<p>I write to you 4 days into my hall change. This is the college dorm experience. This is a place where I am comfortable. I’m throughly overjoyed by how I don’t have a roommate that annoys me. No more coughing without covering your mouth. No more loud exclamations of crap I don’t care about. No more disgusting smell that I tried covering up with Febreeze and candles. No more of having to deal with my stuff being moved without my knowledge. No more unnecessary annoyances! Free at last! Free at last! Man, this hall is the best!</p>
<p>Dear diary (I feel so much more middle school than college writing that),
Please tell me which is better- having lots of casual friends, as in the type with whom you discuss favorite classes and funny life stories over cafeteria pizza, or having one or two best friends, as in the type with whom you discuss classes that are a waste of your existence and quarter life crises over dorm room snacks at three in the morning? I’ve been in college for about six weeks now; while I’ve got the former, I definitely don’t have the latter. And you know what? It’s bothering me. A lot. I know it shouldn’t be, and that forming profound friendships takes time, but I feel like I am missing something here. And as for the whole “classes that are a waste of your existence” bit, I’m taking six core classes this semester, and I only enjoy one of them. I just can’t stand that I’m spending the majority of this semester- half of a year!- on subjects that mean very little to me. I’m almost personally offended by my classes, and that’s not okay, is it? </p>
<p>I’ve learned that the cornerstone of college living is sitting around with people you hardly know, doing nothing. There’s a kind of emptiness to college life that I’ve suddenly noticed: We eat empty calories, watch empty YouTube videos and chick flicks, spend empty hours on empty conversations, and occasionally glance at the empty corkboards and picture frames we hung around our dorms and thought we would fill. I have so many friends here that I can exchange a light conversation with or share a meal with, but with whom can I exchange my deepest feelings, with whom can I share God? I’m actually going to go eat now- I’ve got to wander out into the hallway and see who else is hungry first, and maybe that will be the only thing we have in common.</p>
<p>Aleyna, something is not right if you are only enjoying one class…that means you don’t like five of them. Are you sure that you are in the right major? As for the friends part, I think having casual friendships is normal. First of all, in my personal experience, I have only been in school for four days. I have met lots of people and always have someone to eat or hang out with if I want to. I don’t expect to have any best friends right now because, well, close relationships take time, often many months or even years. </p>
<p>Six weeks is not a whole lot of time. Think back to high school. How close were you to the people you met the first month? Probably not too close. Everything will work out. And to answer your question, I think that having lots of casual friends/acquaintances along with a few close/best friends is hands down the best scenario.</p>
<p>Buttafly13- they’re core classes, specifically math, economics, health, freshman seminar, sociology (which would be awesome if I had a better professor), and then philosophy, the one that I love. I’d have to take some variation of them regardless of my major.</p>
<p>I’m back, and I manged to make a male friend. He invited me to room with him next semester in the on campus apartments (its a 2 bedroom place). I finally have done it, I have found a roommate who understands me. I am now complete. His name is…Stephen. <em>dramatic music plays</em></p>
<p>(Hint: For those of you who don’t know or remember my first roommate who I had a lot of trouble with was named Stephen…now back to the show!)</p>
<p>Yes, Stephan. Not the same Stephan, but a very Stephany Stephan non the less. Will I have he same problems as last semester? Am I destined to have a “Stephan curse” where I get nothign but Stephan for roommates and they all hate me? </p>
<p>FIND OUT NEXT TIME ON THE… Insane Dante Show!</p>
<p>that’s great. i didn’t make one of those yet. i just collected stalkers. they think they’re my friends but they’re not my friends. they’re my stalkers. you wouldn’t believe how much they forget this. but you can kind of see why, because i don’t have any friends i hang out with my stalkers (who else am i going to hang out with) and slowly they get the idea that now they’re my friends, but they’re not. so i have to remind them. you guys are my stalkers, im only hanging out with you because i’ve not got any friends. </p>
<p>so wait, the first one was stephan with an ‘a’ and this one’s a stephen with an ‘e’? i mean then its not even the same name is it. so do you really have to worry about being cursed. do you even pronounce them the same way? i had a friend who was a stephan but the way we pronounced his name was “stephon”. personally i like the “stephen” pronunciation better when it’s with a soft e.</p>
<p>its good you found a roommate who seems to understand you. my stalkers don’t understand me. they just like me. and while that nice what i really want to be is understood.</p>
<p>Wait my bad. They are both spelled “Stephen” with an “e”. I suck at spelling sometimes. And yeah they are said the same way. </p>
<p>Also I’m lost? What makes them stalkers? If you talk to them and hang out with them, that’s a friendship…like I’m lost. To me a stalker is someone who no matter what you do, does not leave you alone. </p>