<p>someone posted on here earlier about a roommate horror story where their future roommate didnt even believe they were paired together -- and i just spoke with one of my friends about his soon-to-be roommate and i guess they really don't fit well together at all -- so i'm just curious to know...does this happen that often? if you know of a story, could you share it, and hopefully also let us know how it got resolved...thanks!</p>
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<p>Perhaps by duel? Winner gets the room to him/herself, and loser... gets premature death.</p>
<p>First impressions aren't always correct. He needs to give them more time to get to know each other. They could end up working out.</p>
<p>Really, everyone will meet someone they don't get along with during their lifetime. Part of growing up is learning how to deal with people you don't get along with.</p>
<p>This is why I chose to room with someone who was really cool and fun to be around at the fly-in weekend.</p>
<p>As for me, this is why I chose to room with my best friend. I don't want to risk rooming with a random person. There are many different human characteristics that can turn you of big time and I'd rather stick with my best friend than waiting a month to switch.</p>
<p>You might want to take a look at this thread.</p>
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and i just spoke with one of my friends about his soon-to-be roommate and i guess they really don't fit well together at all -- so i'm just curious to know...does this happen that often?
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Look, Honey...no one is going to know if s/he fits well with another stranger. As OKgirl said, first impressions can be and are usually wrong. The best advice I can give you is to keep an open mind and remember that your roommate does NOT have to be your friend. Despite the paranoia of first year students, roommates are not that big a deal. As long as you're not killing each other, deal.</p>
<p>most people just deal with it, but i do know a few people who swapped, which worked well for all of them. in one case two girls in my hall swapped ooms so that they could be better paired and get along(2 were partiers, 2 were loners/hard studiers)</p>
<p>Some people become best friends with their freshman roommates and live with them all four years of college and keep in touch the rest of their lives. Some people cannot stand their freshman roommates and dislike them so much that they ask for a room transfer. The majority of people fall somewhere in the middle. You're not going to agree with your roommate on all things, but chances are they are willing to be as respectful to you and your things as you are to them and their things. That's all that's necessary to get through a year in relative peace.</p>
<p>thanks for the replies everyone, much appreciated!</p>
<p>sometimes "getting along with your roommate" isn't what it takes to be "a good roommate." I mean obviously, if you hate each other and are dicks to each other it won't work, but if the only time you guys spend together is in the room, that's cool too.</p>
<p>My friend summed up roommate relations the best. Good roomates are people who are willing to be each other's *****es, knowing that what goes around comes around. You already invited a bunch of friends to watch some TV show, but he needs to study for his test tomorrow, so you bite the bullet and go to your friend's room to watch it. Then next time, if he's a good roommate, he'll offer to go to the library to study. My friend who made the statement, it was usually more that he would wake his roommate up and make him leave the room when my friend brought a "special friend" to the room. It was a silent agreement between them that whenever my friend kicked his roommate out, the roommate had one carte blanche for basically any favor of him at any time during the following week (silence, playing music, lights out early, lights out late, food, etc), and my friend would oblige.</p>
<p>Not to contradict any of you but for me my first impression of my roommate was correct. I knew it would be a bad year from the beginning but I didn't realize that it was going to turn for the worst. Don't get me wrong, we got along pretty well because I'm a friendly guy but he was one of the most disrespectul, rich, thieving, unapologetic, irresponsible guy in the world. Oh I forgot to mention that he was dumb as a brick and every breath of word he spoke was a lie. Nobody in my hall liked him and he was clueless.
I dont know. Just pray you get a good roommate. I'm doing random roommate again for next semester because I was supposed to live with three girls but then I decided I didn't want girl drama, awkward shower run-ins, and awkward random guys they would probably sex up.</p>
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My friend who made the statement, it was usually more that he would wake his roommate up and make him leave the room when my friend brought a "special friend" to the room. It was a silent agreement between them that whenever my friend kicked his roommate out, the roommate had one carte blanche for basically any favor of him at any time during the following week (silence, playing music, lights out early, lights out late, food, etc), and my friend would oblige.
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Yuck, I'm a tolerant person, but I would never agree to something like that. Especially if the person was sleeping. For gosh sakes, can't they just find another place or time...let the man sleep.</p>
<p>I'm not sure where else they could go (besides the girl's room). Better for the roommate to go to the library than for the couple... haha</p>
<p>It's kinda hard to "postpone" the moment too.</p>
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Yuck, I'm a tolerant person, but I would never agree to something like that. Especially if the person was sleeping. For gosh sakes, can't they just find another place or time...
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<p>...or ask if you want in?</p>
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My friend who made the statement, it was usually more that he would wake his roommate up and make him leave the room when my friend brought a "special friend" to the room. It was a silent agreement between them that whenever my friend kicked his roommate out, the roommate had one carte blanche for basically any favor of him at any time during the following week (silence, playing music, lights out early, lights out late, food, etc), and my friend would oblige.
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<p>My roomate let me watch. thats a true friendship</p>
<p>haha at UNC you have to hook up on the 8th floor of the davis library before you graduate..</p>
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Yuck, I'm a tolerant person, but I would never agree to something like that. Especially if the person was sleeping. For gosh sakes, can't they just find another place or time...
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Why am I not surprised that you of all people would give this cop-out of a response?</p>
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Not to contradict any of you but for me my first impression of my roommate was correct. I knew it would be a bad year from the beginning but I didn't realize that it was going to turn for the worst. Don't get me wrong, we got along pretty well because I'm a friendly guy but he was one of the most disrespectul, rich, thieving, unapologetic, irresponsible guy in the world. Oh I forgot to mention that he was dumb as a brick and every breath of word he spoke was a lie. Nobody in my hall liked him and he was clueless.
I dont know. Just pray you get a good roommate. I'm doing random roommate again for next semester because I was supposed to live with three girls but then I decided I didn't want girl drama, awkward shower run-ins, and awkward random guys they would probably sex up.
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<p>You and I would have gotten along very well last semester/year. </p>
<p>I specifically remember thinking "It's going to be a bad year" when he would cry at night on the phone with his girlfriend the first week of school and then realizing it had "turned for the worst" when he was still crying at night on the phone with his girlfriend months after breaking up and weeks away from the end of SECOND semester.</p>
<p>Not to mention we were polar opposites in every way.</p>
<p>Eff that noise.</p>
<p>Sadly, several of my friends who have entered college already have said that roommate horror stories are a lot more common than you may think. In my friend's family of 4 siblings, every single one had changed their roommate at least once freshman year (1 dropped out of school, 1 got kicked out, 1 got homesick and transferred, 1 completely uncompatible etc). And it is not that they are disagreeable, unfriendly people at all-just unlucky with roommates. </p>
<p>That being said, with enough compromises it is very possible to tolerate a roommate that is a complete 180 from you. This is not coming from my own experience quite yet so don't take my word for it (it is just my idealistic hope)</p>
<p>Even though I have horror roommate stories hands down, they actually happen far and few. I discovered that while I realized I was the ONLY one talking about terrible roommates with a bunch of people and they all stare at me!</p>