Hi all,
I was originally in an eight-person suite at my college in which the eight of us would be sharing one bathroom. I did not like the idea of eight guys sharing one bathroom. This bathroom was tiny, with one toilet, one sink, and one shower. Yesterday, at the last minute, after some contemplation, I switched to a four-person suite, which had a bigger dorm, as well as a bigger bathroom with two sinks, two toilets (in closed stalls), and one shower. I have a new roommate who I’ve yet to meet, but he was assigned to me based on my preferences.
In short, my mom is furious about my decision. She thinks that it was ridiculous for me to switch to a completely new dorm with a roommate who is a complete stranger, who she believes could potentially be racist–I’m half white and half black, and I found him on Facebook, and he is white–towards me, psychopathic, a partier, or contain some other attribute that could make rooming with him difficult. She thinks that I should have stuck with my roommate, who was Asian, who I had already met but still didn’t know much about.
I feel guilty. I also feel like I’ve started my college career off with a bad decision, and I have very high expectations for myself, so that stings quite a bit. I thought that if I had the opportunity to switch to a more comfortable dorm–one that would help make my transition to my first year easier–then I should seize that. However, now I’m not so sure.
It’s not too late to switch back to my old dorm, and I’m wondering if I should do that to placate my mom.
Any advice, thoughts, opinions are really appreciated.
P.S. I politely informed my roommate of my decision, and made sure it was clear that I was not switching dorms because of him, and he was not upset at all. He’s actually hoping he’ll get to keep a single room now.