Last week my roommate “N” decided to tell me and our other roommate “J” that she was switching out rooms , because we “aren’t compatible”. The semester doesn’t end for another month so J and I feel a little hurt that N would choose to tell us so early on. Then later that day J told me that N said she’s going because of me because I’m too secular and inappropriate.( especially my tv and music, but on the housing preference form I said clearly said I listen to ALL kinds of music) Now I want to confront N about it , because tings are pretty tense, but I don’t want to rat out J. What do I do ?
I would not confront them about it; you’re not going to change their mind.
Which roommate did you call “psycho” for wanting to lock the door?
Great burn. Thanks for that. That’s not why she’s a psycho, it was just one of the millions of annoying things that she did along with being a psycho, which admittedly may have been a strong choice of words . Yes it was the one who’s leaving. Great observational skills. You should be a detective. No , really, you should.
It was a serious question.
If there’s so much conflict between you and her, I don’t understand why you’re surprised she’s leaving. Would you want to keep living with someone who calls you a psycho?
What’s the point of confronting her? Just let it go.
If that was her reasoning , I wouldn’t mind, but the fact that she thinks I’m too secular but doesn’t have the guts to tell me to my face so I could have a chance to work on myself is hurtful. She’s never brought up any issues about it or attempted to discuss it with me.
There is nothing to be gained by confronting her. It sounds to me that you both will be better off with room mates that you are comfortable with. In life there will be much more important things for you to be bothered by, so forget about this one.
Decision has been made, move on.
@surroundedbymorons, I think your user name speaks volumes.
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