My freshman and sophomore year of high school, I did really well in school. 3/4 GPA. I’ve always liked school and Going in person just makes it even better. Half of my freshmen year was online due to Covid. I started going into a depressive state, but I was able to finish the year with good grades. Sophomore year came around and I did it fully online. It was kinda hard since going in person to school is probably the only way i can actually do good. A lot of things happened during this year, but I was still able to have decent grades by the end of it. During this year a lot happened. I found out I was pregnant around February/March. I did not know what I was going to do or what I was doing. I was in a terrible place. My depression and anxiety took over for a couple of months, since I was by myself trough this whole thing. I was afraid to tell my guardians so I kept it to myself. The time came I had to tell them and well it was either giving the baby up for adoration or moving out. By this time I had already gotten way to attached to the baby. I moved out with my boyfriend and had the baby in August. Anyways, Junior year came a month after. I applied to a online school since I wasn’t going to be able to go to school and take care of a newborn. I had to go to my old school for a few weeks since I did not get accepted right away. I was doing pretty good by then. As you may know, taking care of a newborn is tiresome, exhausting, and well you don’t have time for anything else. Plus ppd, and ppa. After being home-schooled, everything went down hill. All I did was look after the baby. I had no motivation for anything, no time, and no space. I tried my best to keep doing my school work but it was very hard. I wasn’t able to keep up. I failed all my classes my junior year. I know all of it is my fault but I’m going to try hard my senior year to finish school strong. (Btw I have already 30creds from my old school. Online school only requires 22. But I need to pass at least for of theirs to actually graduate. I’m also Class of 2023) Anyways, I just need to know what to do to better my chances in to going to school. Or if I have any? Am I not going to be able to go to college because of my junior year?
Yes, you will be able to continue your education. With the time-consuming responsibilities of caring for an infant, your best bet will probably be getting your GED, and then starting at a nearby community college. You can study for the GED at your own pace, on your own schedule. Speak with a counselor at either your old high school or the online school about preparation for a GED.
Do you have anyone advising you? Are there any local high school programs for young people in your situation?
I wonder if those failed grades can be erased somehow. Does the online school have an advisor?
You can certainly do a GED and attend community college, then go on to a 4 year if needed. Check out North Atlantic Regional High School for their diploma program. One of my kids, a dancer, did GED and then did NARHS later. She felt a diploma was important when applying for jobs, but colleges accept GED’s.
There is no hurry for going to college. And finishing high school or getting GED may still be hard as a single parent, without proper support. Wait until you can function academically at your best level.
How are you supporting yourself? Do you have to work as well? Do you have anyone doing child care?
Please don’t feel like a failure. Your focus on the baby is commendable. Don’t try to do too much. You have time. Try to find support. Maybe after graduation, start with one or two classes at community college (two are needed for financial aid).
You’ll be fine with some dedication. Focus on just graduating high school for now. Get on a good track. Try community college for 2 years. Excel there, and your high school grades won’t even matter. You’ll be able to transfer to many 4-year colleges at that point and nobody will care about the path you took to get there.
How many credits do you need to graduate if attending your old school?
Do you have any support/childcare if doing online school?
If you continue online school senior year, it sounds like you only need to pass 4 classes to graduate? Are there any core requirements left to complete? Are you able to access advisor/counselor to help you schedule the easiest course load you can to allow you to graduate?
If you have support and can get child care to allow you to attend classes and complete homework; and you can schedule an easy enough course load to just let you graduate, I would then choose CC for 2 years and then transfer to a 4 year when you’re able. But you’re still going to need support/help with child care.
Don’t feel like a failure - what you’ve accomplished on your own is amazing and you should feel proud of that. Most people cannot handle caring for a newborn on their own without support as an adult - and you are still a teenager who went to school full time on top of caring for a newborn.
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