Ok, I’m going to join a few other posters in support of the artists, even though like them I have no artists in my family or immediate circle.
I’m singling out artists (and musicians in particular, because that’s what I’m most familiar with) as opposed to those trying for other uber-competitive jobs/careers, because they’re the ones most likely to be told (over and over) to do something else. I’m pretty sure the reasoning is that those who don’t get the Wall Street or Google or med school acceptance have other good paying options.
I share the opinion that most artists are very aware of the odds of “making it” in their careers, and go in with eyes wide open. As others have pointed out, these young people have spent years learning where they stand relative to the competition, through auditions for competitive youth orchestras or choirs and summer programs, and on to which schools they get accepted to and how much scholarship they’re awarded, and who gets cast in school, and so on.
I understand the desire to push back against anecdotes, but typical outcomes may be no more than numbers on a page to some. These young artists have a more complete picture.
There is an active music major forum on this site that I pop into every now and then. Whenever a new student or parent arrives, the discussion invariably starts with “do you want to go for an intense music degree (BM), a general music degree (i.e. non-auditioned BA) , a dual degree in music and another subject, or major in something else and continue with music as an extra-curricular?”.
It is my impression that these artists and families give careful thought to their options and are very, very aware of typical outcomes and where they stand relative to the data. Some do indeed decide not to pursue music as a career. But to my everlasting gratitude many of them do indeed try, in spite of the odds. A few might make it to the top, some will be able to make a modest living, some will have limited success, and some will get nowhere. At any stage of the game there will be those that move on, including fairly successful ones, for a variety of reasons.
My point is, I really don’t think the issue is these young artists are not aware of typical outcomes. It’s that they are willing to (or even need to) try in spite of the very long odds.