<p>Looking--I believe that if a candidate is offered an official visit, there is serious interest. Is your concern that he might do/say something that would cause the coach to lose interest? </p>
<p>In son's case, the official visits were just great and much more suited to giving the player a sense of his future teammates, the nature of the practices, the classes, the social life. They may have an admissions interview while there. They stay with players, may observe a scrimmage or practice, go to classes, etc. A regular college visit might give a sense of the school but not nearly as in depth, personal, or focused on getting to know the coach, the level of play, etc. I thought it was one of the special blessings of being recruited, actually. </p>
<p>Also, I am not sure how good an idea it is to turn down an offer of an official visit. It is quite possible that it might be taken as a lack of interest. The coach has to pick his recruits carefully and does not want to go to the trouble of "wasting" a pick on a kid who isn't interested, and thereby losing the possibility of recruiting another player who will actually come to play.</p>
<p>The seriously recruited players are called (religiously) once a week. Once you get comfortable with the process, it is not hard to ask the coach questions about the situation with admissions. In our experience, they typically answered with the stats they had from the last few years--e.g., I get one tip, or, I had 12 players on my list last year and 6 got in. </p>
<p>We were perhaps fortunate to have had coaches give us absolutely straight talk--nothing we were told turned out to be untrue. Hope everyone else has the same experience, but I know it is not always true. Perhaps others can offer the "other side of the coin" point of view.</p>
<p>Also, playing time is never guaranteed. The coaches have to win to keep their jobs. They may say things like, "You'll be a serious contender to start as a freshman" but he can never promise that no matter what the performance is, they will start. It always depends on performing to expectations.</p>