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<blockquote> <p>He withdrew everything from checking/savings acct>></p> </blockquote>
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<p>Ah but the money is somewhere. Take your most recent bank statement WITH the money in the account to the lawyer. I'm not a lawyer, but my guess is that they can easily find out who withdrew the money. The reality is that these assets are probably partly yours (depends on your state law).</p>
<p>Your lawyer needs to be a shark. Good luck to you.</p>
<p>I sent you a PM.</p>
<p>Cancel any joint credit cards immediately if you have not already. I would also notify any investment companies where you have joint accounts that there is a divorce pending and ask what they can do to block the accounts so he cannot withdraw any money.</p>
<p>I believe NY is a fault state, so take the phone records to your attorney. If he is having an affair, you may be able to use that to get a better settlement.</p>
<p>Finally, as to his announcement that he will only pay instate, I would take the position with your attorney that he has already agreed to pay more, since he was presumably OK with your daughter applying to all of the schools to which she applied.</p>
<p>It is one thing to make that announcement years before the event, but once the applications are in the mail, you may have better grounds for arguing that the kids are entitled to the same level of education they would have received had their parents stayed married.</p>
<p>Mombot,
Thank goodness we never had any joint cards. I notified all the other accounts. Can't get the phone records. It is separate from mine and my children's cell phone accounts. His is a business account. And I discovered that rat has two cell phones on a share plan. Don't think he talks to himself! I will talk to the attorney about the college choice as he did travel with her to several of the schools she applied to, he certainly was aware that they are private and costly. Thanks for the advice.</p>
<p>You may find the following website helpful in determining how separation vs. divorce plays into this. I'm not sure, though, what discriminates a "legal separation" from an informal one.</p>
<p>FinAid</a> | Financial Aid Applications | Head of Household</p>
<p>Did anything work out ? Or did you get an extension? CC was pulling for you.</p>
<p>Thanks for asking. I have been sooo busy. Thank you everyone for the great advice. Please know that I have taken all your information to heart. </p>
<p>I wrote to my daughters top choices and she ended up with four schools to choose from. She will be attending the College of Wooster with a very generous readjustment. The schools varied widely as to how they responded to my change in circumstances. On a positive note, the expereince taught us volumes about the character of the schools. I was just happy she did have choices. She had researched the college search so carefully it just didn't seem fair. So, she is happy with her choice.</p>