<p>My teacher told her senior class some advice: “Girls be friends with guys. Guys be friends with guys.” </p>
<p>Girls can be the worst to deal with. Nobody wants to deal with them. Coming from a girl’ mouth right here. </p>
<p>I have girl best friends and I have guy best friends. You have to find the best out if both gender group to be sane with any of them. It’s just girls are the worst. There’s no sugar coating it. It’s true. Girls have the hardest time understanding that they suck.</p>
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This might be a reflection on yourself and not your guy friends…</p>
<p>I probably did stereotype in my last post, but not because I have something against girls specifically (I am one). I go to a Jewish, Orthodox school where about 99% of the girls come from two-parent homes and are financially stable. A lot of these kids have never faced real challenges in life and live in very insulated homes, with little exposure to “the outside world”. So yes, a lot of kids in my school are very immature and have never been given an opportunity to grow up and mature (which is perfectly fine for them, in fact it’s great that they’ve lived relatively easy lives!) People joke that my high school is more like Kindergarden because everyone still plays Red Rover and tag and they enjoy it. I did not come from this lifestyle and am the only kid in my class, and probably my entire school, with divorced parents. I don’t have friends that are guys, so most of my friends are girls from my class but because of our very different backgrounds and maturity levels, I have difficulty relating to them. It’s not even that I’m that mature, it’s that some kids are extraordinarily immature. So I probably shouldn’t be making judgements about the entire girl population, but within my school, there is WAY too much drama. As for everywhere else, I have no clue.</p>
<p>@redhuntinghat- I’m not trying to be rude, but I wouldn’t be so quick to jump to conclusions. I definitely believe that guys and girls can be friends without feelings involved, but it’s not always the case. Obviously I don’t know you or anything, so I’m not trying to make judgements, but friendships are not always what they seem. Sorry! :)</p>
<p>@Niquii and @CE527M well then, we should all probably stop, because this idea of girls doing more BS should really stop. every girl complains, yet most girls still do it? it doesn’t add up</p>
<p>@Niquii I did start the thread. and I wasn’t talking about complaining specifically in your posts, but about complaining in general for all girls. like I said, if every girl who didn’t like girls complaining (which is most girls) watched themselves a bit closer to make sure they weren’t doing it, this problem wouldn’t exist. there is something wrong with the picture of 95% of girls tired of girls BSing. it doesn’t make sense. if only all those girls who didn’t like how girls acted acted nicely themselves.</p>
<p>@stressedouttt- 95% is too high of a number. I’d venture to say that most girls don’t realize or care about their BSing, especially if that’s the way all their friends act anyway. At least that’s the way it is in my school. All the girls are SOOOO sensitive.</p>
<p>Niquii77, saying girls suck does not make you less of a girl. Unless you want to make inclusive statements like “we (girls) all suck”, you’re just annoying. I find hyperbole intolerable. A better statement might be “most girls suck”, or even better: “most girls I know suck”.</p>
<p>Usually I find when people (guys or gals) think that all or almost every girl they know is catty, it’s because they’ve stuck themselves in groups of these girls. Girls who generate lots of drama make wide circles of friends who do it too. Everybody else gets sick of them. If every girl you know is friends (or “frenemies”) with every other girl you know, you are very susceptible to this effect.
(Although, some schools, especially small, private ones, can often be overwhelmed by these girls. So unless you have opportunities to make friends outside of school (not through the kids in your school) this type may actually be the only thing available.)</p>
<p>The ‘drama girls’ are generally better known (more ‘popular’ around a school), although this isn’t always the case. Whatever their social status, they usually spend the most time on their appearance (whether they look good or like a stripper, as a result, varies). You find them in leadership, certain sports, and in popular classes. Oftentimes, these are the kids who make up a core attendance group at school dances and functions. If you hang in these groups, it can lead to the perspective that all girls behave this way (when, in reality, it might be more like 20%-80%. As an individual, I don’t have a good perspective of the whole)</p>
<p>The common theme I’ve noticed with catty girls is that they generally don’t have a lot to do. Their home lives could be perfect or absolute crap, but either way, they usually don’t have lots of responsibilities (job, being responsible for younger siblings often, non-self-focused activity that matters to them, etc.) Really, these girls are just board and are generating all of the action in their lives. They behave like little kids because, like kids, they don’t have anything else to put their energy/attention into.</p>
<p>There are some guys who prefer to have female friends just like there are some girls who prefer male friends…</p>
<p>There are also ones like me who tend to prefer male friends but end up with a lot of female friends who also prefer male friends instead…</p>
<p>This reminds me of a scene… Sophomore year, I had a group of 6. Two girls, four guys. The other girl said one day, “I really hate teen girls,” then looked at me and said “No offence.” I laughed.</p>
I’m sorry that you’re annoyed that I’m saying something that is true. Actually, I’m not that sorry, but I’ll be sensitive to you feelings and change my statement: “Girls suck most of the time”. </p>
<p>And you’re right some girls just don’t care when they’re BSing.</p>
<p>A huge factor for me is the fact that in my religious circles, we don’t really talk or hang out with guys. I technically am not allowed to touch a guy (excluding family) unless I’m married to him. So most girls in my class, and consequently my friends, have a lot of hormones that they have no “outlet” for. Thus, there are a lot of rampant emotions and drama in my school that wouldn’t happen if these kids didn’t have all these pent up hormones. </p>
<p>In addition, I find that the more religious kids are more dramatic and immature but the kids that are not as religious and insulated are more mature. Like 3/4 of my class would NEVER say that a guy is hot, no matter what. Those of us that would don’t make a big deal out of guys but for the kids that have NO exposure, a guy is a huge thing. It’s kind of ridiculous. :)</p>
<p>Niquii77, I think it’s hilarious (mostly in a sad way) how you seem to fill all of the negative stereotypes you have been attributing to girls. This thread is only getting worse.</p>
<p>@isaia That’s odd. I don’t remember ever interacting with you that would allow you to assume that I fulfill every negative attribution to girls. </p>
<p>I am catty. I’m mainly catty to the people who directly say something about me. Mainly. :rolleyes: </p>
<p>And don’t be sad, isaia, you don’t know who or how I am.</p>