<p>^^^Come November we’ll have not only cured stress, but apparently the reason why rape occurs.</p>
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<p>Are you sure that was the reason? Just asking because a lot of asian cultures kind of look down on public displays of affection, and some asians in the US seem to get doubly conservative with culture, especially Asian-Americans who might feel they’re in danger of losing their culture to general American culture (whatever that is).</p>
<p>100% sure ^</p>
<p>Because a lot of them were dating and held hands publicly and she didn’t care about her non Viet club or non judgmental friends seeing us hold hands. She would cuddle and kiss me in the middle of McDonald’s! One old lady even asked us, “Can you please not do that?” We weren’t making out or anything, we were just pecking.</p>
<p>And when I asked her about it, her exact words were that “traditionally Vietnamese aren’t okay with other Viets dating non-Asians.” I said, “Unless it’s a white guy right?” and she just stayed quiet.</p>
<p>Essenar,</p>
<p>If you read my previous post when I said you shouldn’t be okay with her dating only Asians and Whites and then I continued to say that a Vietnamese person could probably find more in common with a Mexican person than with a White person… Well, I didn’t read your original post well… As it appears you ARE Mexican… So… Yeah, that is pretty stupid how she treated you. But if you wanna date an Asian girl, you gotta work with her and make her comfortable with the fact that she’s dating you. She has to overcome her socialization. Don’t take that stuff personally as… If she’s dating you… Then that shows she likes you for who you are. But then you gotta show her that a major part of who you are is that you’re CULTURED just like she is. And if she can’t accept that… Then move on, my friend.</p>
<p>I find it funny how so many non-Asians who objectify Asian girls think they’re so bomb and are so good with Asian girls when in reality dating non-Asians is frowned upon by the previous generation and this generation. And, keep in mind, I’m not saying that this is you… As you clearly do not objectify Asian girls. ahaha</p>
<p>And regarding beating up the kid who was racist to you… Just just foolish, man, and that’s not something you should repeat to people as it appears you’re bragging about it. Expressions of physical dominance imply to people personality, intelligence, etc, etc deficits. Why not get to know that kid and show him your culture and take in his point of view as well? That’s the way to fight racism and that’s the way you’re going to have to handle racism if you want to date people from other backgrounds.</p>
<p>i dated an asian girl in highschool and the same thing happened to me, but instead of it happening with her friends around, it was with her dad.</p>
<p>I definitely don’t and do not objectify any females. I was raised mostly by a woman so being good natured is in my socialization. I understand the need to resocialize a girl from a different background as me, and I definitely felt an inflated ego when I realized that she had to like me more than other guys if she’s taking a chance dating me when it’s frowned upon. My whole issue is, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. (I never understood that figure of speech. Why would someone want cake they can’t eat?) </p>
<p>If she wants to date me and make me part of some social reform, she needs to keep me in the loop about it. And if she doesn’t agree with what her club thinks about culture, why associate with them? And I’ve been in college enough, to understand clubs and organizations. At the end of the day, if you’re a part of something you don’t agree with, you’re a hypocrite. There’s no rationale to argue otherwise. My issue was that she made herself a part of everything they did. She agreed with them, she took their side and in the end, she was deceiving them. </p>
<p>As far as me and Asian girls… The thing is, when I was spending a lot of time with UCSD students even though I wasn’t a UCSD student, I couldn’t exactly be culturally biased when it came to who I dated. It’s like in Harold & Kumar, when the girl asks that pot dealer kid, “Have you seen an Asian guy running through here?” and he goes, “Yeah, but only when I open my eyes.” That’s how it is at UCSD. Everywhere I went, there were Asians. And because I don’t discriminate, I date any girl as long as she’s cute and we get along. It just so happened, all the cute girls I met at UCSD were Asian lol.</p>
<p>^ They want to keep it, as in store it for future eating, and eat it in the present.</p>
<p>Essenar,</p>
<p>Wait, man, you know that I wasn’t saying you objectify them or anything… I thought I made that clear. I know you don’t and it’s obvious from what you were saying. And I totally know how you feel man… I’ve dated mostly Chinese girls and it’s not because I’m like obsessed with Chinese girls it’s just that… Well, I don’t know… That’s just how it happened. LOL (I’m half Japanese BTW)</p>
<p>I know, I was just elaborating. And you said “ahaha” so I thought you were being sarcastic lol. </p>
<p>You’re lucky you’re half Japanese. And I’m sure you even KNOW you’re lucky you’re half Japanese. The loopholes I have to go through. I just broke up with a Filipino girl and the interrogations I went through were intense. She said it wasn’t that bad with her Filipino ex boyfriend and she was sorry about it, but I understood. </p>
<p>日本語を話せるか。
私は日本語を勉強した。</p>
<p>If you don’t, I was just asking if you speak Japanese haha.</p>
<p>I like women. I like pretty women. I like women with big knockers. Are we in agreement? Race doesn’t matter as long as they qualify into those three categories. Am I right?</p>
<p>はい、ちょっと話す。でも、よくありません。あまり漢字を読めるない。あなたの日本語はいいです。今、日本語二のクラスに私がいいます。今べんきょうしていい。</p>
<p>Haha I didn’t really understand what you meant by the loopholes thing… haha Care to elaborate? And having Japanese blood isn’t all that great when you’re looking for long term relationships… Due to something called grandmas… They hate Japanese people (and considering what they went through… For good reason…)</p>
<p>Pscholler, race kinda does matter a little bit when you take your third sentence into consideration… ahah</p>
<p>^I don’t know how this thread transitioned into this, but note one thing, the Japanese of today are not the same Japanese of yesterday. What do you mean that “grandmas have good reason to hate the Japanese”?Thats the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard. Its like saying Americans should hate Germans, or the UK should hate America, or some other stupid s hit like that. Grow Up</p>
<p>Oh, please, put them into context with their generation and experiences. A White person in America hating Black people (dominant group hating subordinate group) is very different than a Korean grandma hating Japanese people (historical subordinate group hating dominant group) because the Japanese stormed her country, imperialized and raped her people.</p>
<p>And duh the Japanese of today aren’t the same as the Japanese of yesterday. Do you seriously want to try and lecture me on Japanese culture?</p>
<p>And, by the way, Japan is a very xenophobic country itself. So, even though the Japanese of today are very different than the Japanese of yesterday, Japan is a very institutionally racist country. If you’re Korean/Chinese/Vietnamese/White/Black/Japanese-American and you move to Japan you will be discriminated against hardcore. If you’re of Korean blood and you live in Japan for 10+ years and you have a Korean-blooded child… That child will not be allowed to vote and isn’t considered a full citizen.</p>
<p>Of course I don’t advocate discrimination as, if you read my post, I am literally the SUBJECT of it. But, unlike my brothers in Japan, I am willing to admit that Japan did despicable things to their Asian neighbors and I am willing to admit that the severity of those things can very well be unforgivable to the generation that was inflicted by them.</p>
<p>How did I say anyone “should hate” anyone else? And, if you knew the history of Japan with Korea/China, you would see that it is very much NOT the same as America hating Germany. (If you want to make a comparison, it’s more like an elderly inflicted European Jew hating Germany. Of course hate is never right… But wouldn’t you at least UNDERSTAND that if someone HAD to hate someone else, an inflicted elderly European Jew hating Germany is at least for a relatively good/understandable reason?) And that’s besides the point anyways as I never said anyone SHOULD HATE anyone else. </p>
<p>And… Off topic and light heartily… I think it’s kinda funny/ironic how your username is “iHateCeltics” lol 
(because Celtics also refers to a group of nations)</p>
<p>私の日本語を話すのが上手じゃありません。＾＾
今年とても授業をとるので、日本語の授業を取らない。</p>
<p>I learned a lot about the Korean/Japanese issues. They’re trying to move forward from a lot of that, but it’s really hard to change things that have happened so recently. My roommate is Japanese and he’s very open socially and so are his friends. But I did date a couple of Japanese girls before, so I know that with that culture, those are some of the hardest deep rooted social issues to get past.</p>
<p>Essenar,</p>
<p>It’s really rough. Many parts of Japan’s government (including the educational sector) will not even openly admit any wrongdoing in Korea or China. Because of this, many Japanese students never even learn about the “comfort women” in Korea, etc. This desire to ignore the past is troubling. And furthermore, it’s even more troubling considering the institutionalized xenophobia. It’s like this (but not necessarily AS serious): Germany doesn’t discuss/openly admit to their wrongdoings in Poland nor do they teach about it in their education system. Then, Germany doesn’t allow long-term residents of Polish-Jewish blood to vote… Nor do they allow the descendants (born in Germany) of those people to vote… That’s a very serious problem.</p>
<p>And young Japanese people educated in America will, of course, know about these things. But it’s Japanese people living in Japan that are largely unaware of these things. </p>
<p>It’s pretty serious… Like… If I was full Japanese and I moved to Japan, they still wouldn’t consider me “nihonjin.” Nihonjin is reserved for full Japanese people (blood and culture). And it’s perceived that only nihonjin are citizens. So it’s like a perceived official culture that is expressed institutionally.</p>
<p>Everyone’s guilty at some point in time. In the US, they don’t teach children about us raping and stealing land from native Americans. They don’t talk about how pretty much 45% of the west coast belongs to Mexico and the Mexican-American war of the 1840’s. They conveniently word those events as being “the expansion of the United States”. Grown adults that I talk to hardly ever even know that the United States has lost a war before. They say, in a smug republican overtone, “We ain’t ever lost a war!” and my response is, “What about when the British Canadian colonies defended an attack from us, came to Washington DC, kicked our ass and burned down our first white house?” </p>
<p>That’s right, boys and girls, Canada, who we oft coin as being “America’s hat” is the only country (granted they had the help of Britain) to defeat the United States in a war. Some consider it a stalemate, but in all honesty, the fact that Canada EXISTS as a country means they won. (The war took place because we were trying to occupy and take over Canada.) </p>
<p>There’s a considerable amount of controlled knowledge, but that’s universal. Do you think Christian schools teach their students about genetics or the science of homosexuality? The possibilities of extraterrestrial life forms or dark matter?</p>
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<p>I lived in Japan for four years (I’m a cracker) and although I think pretty much EVERYTHING else you posted was dead-on correct Mikei, I don’t think this one is across the board true. </p>
<p>If you are Korean, Chinese, Persian, Vietnamese, Filipino, Indian, or Black, (in general either non-Japanese or any shade of brown) then yeah, it’s like America in the 1950s. Back of the bus, jack.</p>
<p>Whites and Japanese-Americans (btw, they can tell you aren’t nihonjin because you have an accent) get a special status as just outsiders. Not explicitly discriminated against, but not accepted either. This, btw, just drives foreigners in Japan who are there to teach English, absolutely ****in’ bonkers. </p>
<p>The trick is to realize that being an outsider also gets you exempt from dealing with all manner of cultural hassle that Japanese people regularly have to deal with. It’s actually an advantage to be the outsider.</p>
<p>Just don’t be brown.</p>
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<p>We didn’t exactly win the Vietnam War either. Also the result of the War of 1812 was a draw.</p>
<p>i’d consider it a draw as well…though only because britain needed all of its resources for the napoleanic wars…otherwise the us probably would have lost</p>
<p>I hate you guys for turning this thread into what it is now. I preferred the stereotyping of the colleges. I am officially done with this thread and starting a new steretype thread.</p>