Do you ever feel like your friends just put up with you?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>you people are mean. :/</p>

<p>this year, especially, i saw my friendships start to shift in priority. i’ve sort of undergone that subconscious “who i want to stay in contact with after high school and who i don’t” thing in my head, and though i still maintain those friendships, i seem to be spending a lot more time with people whose goals are similar to mine.</p>

<p>take initiative! plan the croquet games, start a weekly taco night, host a harry potter marathon, be proactive. and if your fair weather friends seem to ignore you, at least there’s less than a semester left anywho.</p>

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<p>^I hate that thing. I keep thinking–am I really gonna maintain contact w/ this person post-HS? Makes me sad…</p>

<p>Sometimes I “just put up with” certain aspects of my friends. I think everyone has something about them that’s a bit annoying. A negative aspect of their personality. One of my friends comes off as narcissistic, another’s insecure, one a bit naive. But I tolerate, put up with these faults, because I truly do like my friends. It’s probably the same with how your friends view you–they tolerate your sometimes annoying rants because they really like you most of the time.</p>

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<p>TCBH just likes to exchange with you, maybe. That’s why he responds in such a way that will elicit a response, so he can keep responding, and so on.</p>

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<p>^^yeah you’re probably right. I guess I was just being overly self conscious…</p>

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<p>anyone ever feel really selfish with some of your friends? I mean, with some of my friends, not all, I only listen to them, give them advice, and talk to them so that they’ll do the same for me, not at all because I actually care, but just in case I need someone to take to, they’ll have to be there for me because I was there for them. That make any sense?</p>

<p>But with other friends that I’m really close to, we’ve made a pact not to talk about school together unless we’re studying together. That way hanging out with each other can be a time to forget all that.</p>

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Oh that scares me a little. At my old school, after I found out I was transferring, I kept thinking whenever I was with someone… are we going to be keeping in touch?</p>

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The people I associate with but feel I just “put up with” I wouldn’t consider my friends. My friends are not flawless and they may irritate me sometimes, but I can overlook it and appreciate for the most part (and I hope it’s the same for them).</p>