<p>I looked. But I’ll wait for her to tell me what she got, then act surprised. Luckily with on-line notification, there’s no tell-tale ripped envelope.</p>
<p>My daughter has asked me to look at those things, so I do. When she sent out her first application, she clearly told me exactly what her expectations would be when decisions arrive, and I will hold to that exactly as she asked.</p>
<p>My kids wanted me to look first…but they are that way.</p>
<p>I just got to say that I can’t believe people would look without their child’s “go ahead”. Of course, you child should TELL you what they got and probably show you it, but it’s their performance, their work, their password!!! </p>
<p>Really, I"m not trying to put forth guilt or anything, I’m just stunned that some people can’t wait for their child to share it. They did the work, it’s their privilege to receive the score first, unless they relinquish.</p>
<p>My kids always asked me to look at scores or open college letters ASAP and to text them with whatever news. Some kids think differently…</p>
<p>Again, if they ASK you to fine. But if they don’t…</p>
<p>abasket, different kids have different relationships with their parents and their scores. There is not one way to do this. Last time, we forgot about scores coming up. DS was OOT, I remembered in the morning, looked it up, and texted him what I thought was good news. His response “mom, you woke me up.” It’s not anything formal like asking. It’s something we all have an interest in, and whoever has access to it first, or remembers it first, gets the info and shares it with others. No biggie.</p>
<p>Yeah. My D didn’t really care if I looked or didn’t look. She has severe dysgraphia and we’d been through an ordeal to get her a scribe on the written part and it wasn’t a battle she could actually fight on her own without help from a lot of people so she didn’t really have a privacy issue around it. Younger D would kill me, though. Much more private about that kind of thing, never even lets me read her papers, even when she was in 3rd grade! So, yeah, kids are different.</p>
<p>I have no patience. I looked this morning while D was at practice (no school today, Yom Kippur). When she came home I told her the scores were up. She said, “What did I get?” and didn’t sound upset at all. She knows I have no patience, and it saved her having to look them up herself.</p>
<p>BTW, her composite was exactly the same as last April. Math went up 1 point, science went down 1 pt. Luckily her first choice school doesn’t use the science part!</p>
<p>I would have been really disappointed if my parents looked first. Whether they had a stake or not they weren’t the ones that earned the scores. I happily shared but would have wanted the excitement of being the first to know. Also would have given me the opportunity to decide how I would save face if I didn’t do as well as I’d hoped when my parents found out.</p>
<p>D wanted to look first. S probably still wouldn’t know what he got last spring if I hadn’t looked.</p>
<p>“S probably still wouldn’t know what he got last spring if I hadn’t looked.” LOL</p>
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<p>You’ll be lucky if your DDs college actually SENDS paper report cards or bills. My kids’ college does everything online…no paper report cards or invoices…so I have to have a password, too, to pay the bills…I can also see their grades that way.</p>
<p>I can understand NYmom’s frustration. My kids wanted me to text them their scores, acceptances, $$ awards, etc. If my kids had not wanted that and were still “dinking around” on afternoon while the scores & other info were available, I would’ve been tearing my hair out. </p>
<p>In our household, our kids knew that for them to go “away” (instead of local state), they had to earn the scholarships to help pay for some of the room and board (which alone can be $10k for each kid), so scores were a big deal in our home. We all wanted to know ASAP! LOL</p>
<p>mom2collegekids – My daughter’s school also sends grades out only online. And they don’t provide passwords to parents so we rely on my daughter to keep us apprised as to how she is doing. While they do send out paper invoices, they are mailed to my daughter not us. She is pretty good about turning them over to us asap. Not that she isn’t welcome to pay them herself, but I doubt her bank account is good for more than about a semester’s worth of her meal plan per year.</p>
<p>Well, we just looked, but only because our son texted us that he was having trouble logging on from school and asked us to. I always wait for him to check first or until he gives us permission to look. After all, he took the test, not us.</p>
<p>Bottom line to me is: each kid is different, each parent is different, each relationship is different. By the time the kid is a senior, the student and the parent both clearly know what the other would want. If they have a good relationship, they respect each others wishes and accommodate each other as best they can. If they do not, then there are other relationship dynamic that is playing out.</p>
<p>OP’s post #16 where daughter is cleaning her room and refusing to look her scores up and OP is also cleaning furiously and staring at the laptop suggests to me that this is not about her ACT scores.</p>
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<p>Oh, my kids’ school doesn’t provide passwords, either…the student has to give permission for the parent to set up a password…</p>