<p>The threads/comments are already started to appear....'I logged into my son's account and saw he was accepted, can't wait to surprise him tonight' and so on.</p>
<p>Just....don't. </p>
<p>Of course it's tempting and we are all invested in the outcome. But the child made the application, it's his or her work and achievements that are being judged. This is not our moment, it is theirs, and this is a big moment in a young life. Resist!</p>
<p>Yes! Walk away from the computer…pass the mailbox. Let them live the experience.</p>
<p>I like the schools that have a big "You are IN’ on the outside of the envelope :D</p>
<p>S2 was at a school event the evening the admission decisions were posted for his top school, and he couldn’t stand to wait. He asked us to look for him. The servers were overwhelmed, and it took awhile to get through. It was a lot of fun to pass on the “You’re In!” info to him. </p>
<p>Would never have peeked without his permission.</p>
<p>I don’t even have my son’s login info and I don’t want it. I would never consider opening his mail either, ughh. Except with permission of course ^</p>
<p>Somewhere in the archives… 8 years back… is the story of how we received an improperly sealed envelope and the acceptance letter literally fell out of the envelope. (After reading it, and dancing around) I carefully put the letter back in the envelope and sealed it properly. :D</p>
<p>I will say that the parent needs to READ the admissions decision. </p>
<p>If I had not read it (after he thought he was rejected and crumpled it up) he would not have known that he had a few more hoops to jump through and THAT would result in an acceptance at his dream school – where he is currently a junior!</p>
<p>I absolutely could not agree with this more!! S2 was at an EC competition on the floor of a convention center with spotty coverage on the afternoon the decisions were released for his #1 choice school. We knew he wasn’t going to have connectivity, or time, to login. He’d be home around 11pm and we’d all know then. As hard as it was, there was no way I was logging it to see if he got in. I honestly though it would be incredibly bad luck for me to look first (and I’m not superstitious). DH was with S2, had his laptop and was able to let him login and see his acceptance decision. I was really surprised to get the call. He was ecstatic, and could tell by my reaction I hadn’t looked before him.</p>
<p>The only time I knew first was when my D was applying to transfer. Transfer apps don’t have any hard and fast rules about how long they need to give you to accept or decline. She was in at her second choice school, but waiting on her first. The second choice asked for an answer within a specific window of time, which was closing. D was at school (pre-cell-phone-days) and asked me if I would call first choice school to see if they had made a decision. They had, and she was in–I ended up telling her by IM (remember that??) It was fun getting to tell her “you’re in!” but never would have unless she’d asked.</p>
<p>Hearing, “mom, dad . . . I got in!” is so much more fun that saying, " . . . you got in."</p>
<p>I always wonder why people need to start a thread about this because at the end of day it is your believe, it is not the universal right way of doing things. I am not even saying that I disagree with OP’s statement because our kids wanted to find out themselves. But why would it matter how other families want to do it. They may have their reason for wanting the parents or other people find out first. I kind of feel like this is telling other people how to be good parents - my idea of good parents.</p>
<p>^^^
If you eliminated every post on here where people give their opinion about what other people should do, the reading around here would be pretty sparse.</p>
<p>I don’t think D even knows when decisions are being released online. I just wait for the mail, and of course large envelopes with “congratulations” emblazoned on the front are kind of a giveaway. D doesn’t bring in the mail, so avoiding the box isn’t really a plan around here.</p>
<p>I didn’t see anyone here asking “Should I find out my kid’s college decision before he does?”</p>
<p>I admit to running home to check the mailbox. Once the big envelope from CMU came, with Congrats or something on cover, I relaxed. This was in 2005, before everything was on-line. In the few days prior, son would come home from school, check e-mail, and come to me saying, “I didn’t get into _____” </p>
<p>It was such a relief knowing he’d be going somewhere.</p>
<p>I didn’t even know the decision dates when the older D was applying. Some were online, a couple by snail mail. For one she was at work when it came and I texted her to let her know (she was allowed to get messages at work). She asked me to open it, and I did. For the rest, I let her tell me. The mail was addressed to HER, after all.</p>
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You think people only give their opinon when asked a specific question and stick to the exact question asked? You need to read more threads. Start with the threads about how college isn’t worth it, or a particular college isn’t worth it, or particular schools are superior, or nobody should take out loans, or only certain majors are good and others are worthless. Not to mention poeple who ask about admissions information and then recieve psychological counseling and general parneting advice. Nobody waits to be solicited on here to give their opinion. Which of course is how it works on the internet. People seem to like it. If you don’t like it, then ignore it. Open your kid’s mail all you want. THat’s your business.</p>
<p>Try to have a cup of coffee, or maybe something stronger.
Seem to be started by the same poster most of the time, and that’s why I don’t read them.
Exactly.</p>
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Nice veiled insult. I don’t recall asking your opinion on what beverage I should consume. Why do you stick your nose in my business? You know about glass houses?</p>
<p>It is Sun morning, thought maybe a cup of coffee would calm down all the hostility. But if it doesn’t work for you then it is your business. Breathing helps too. Heading over to the thongs thread now.</p>