<p>Or is it understood that if you wanted to come you would've sent in your deposit/SIR by May 1st?</p>
<p>it is courteous to reply with a no. for statistical reasons they like to know where you are going instead. but if you dont send in a deposit then they will assume you are not coming.</p>
<p>They normally send a form for you to fill out if you're not going. And if they don't, it's nice to tell them that you won't be attending. Don't just ignore them.</p>
<p>should u send something in writing or call the admissions office?</p>
<p>Either would work, but I think that I would write a letter--maybe explaining why you chose the school that you did and the reasons that you aren't going to their school.</p>
<p>It's simple courtesy to let colleges know by May 1 whether or not you're accepting their offer. That way the colleges know whom to expect and whether to take students from their waitlists.</p>
<p>Think about it this way: How would you have liked it if the colleges that rejected you had not sent you a letter turning you down? Using your logic, they could have said, "Since we didn't send the student an acceptance, surely the student realizes they've been rejected."</p>
<p>Often colleges will send students who turn them down a brief form asking where the students will be going and why they chose that college. It's also polite to return that form.</p>
<p>Using your logic, they could have said, "Since we didn't send the student an acceptance, surely the student realizes they've been rejected.</p>
<p>well even though i agree that you should send something in saying you decline their offer your logic is flawed...if we had a deadline to hear from a college and don't hear by that time it would be acceptable for a college not to say anything and assume you don't get in by whatever date. </p>
<p>one could make that analogy if there was no may 1st deadline and you just had whenever to enroll after you're accepted</p>
<p>just playin devil's advocate here</p>
<p>i also think there are other reasons to do so: it helps them plan their waitlist; it makes your school look bad if you don't respond, hurting people that are applying next year; if you want to go to grad school at one of the places that you are turning down, it could hurt you if you are rude to them...</p>
<p>btw for the record....i responded to all my schools that i would not be attending and think that it is a courteous thing to do</p>
<p>did you write down the reason?</p>
<p>It kind of irks me that people need to ask this, where is common sense, manners, and just plain thinking?</p>
<p>what about for the UCs? How would you respond to them? Is there a site?</p>
<p>no i didn't write down the reason except for one school that asked in their reply letter. The ones where i wrote emails i basically said thanks for the opportunity but i have decided to go to __________ more or less.</p>
<p>My D filled out her "no" postcards today. Although she's confident of her decision, she felt sort of bad rejecting the others after they have treated her so nicely. I made her do it though for manners, karma and to help the schools with their statistical analyisis. (Personally, I look forward to reading all the cross-admit statistical boasting and braying that will start to happen soon I'm sure.) Plus you never know where you'll apply for grad school and maybe there's a little box to check in your PERMANENT RECORD that says "Rejected us politely". Anyway, for me & D it ended up being the official tail-end ritual of this whole college app process and now we can move on to buying extra-long twin sheets and warm winter clothes. Part of the process. It was also interesting to note which schools provided postage paid cards and which expected us to buy a stamp to reject them politely.</p>
<p>I sent in all of those cards on like April 3rd after I was accepted to Harvard. It definitely hurt a lot turning down schools like Upenn and Cornell...I almost didn't want to do it, but I think its not only a courtesy to the school, but a courtesy to all those people on the waiting lists. The sooner you get your cards in, the sooner they can happily take your place!</p>
<p>One of my colleges insists that I inform them of my decision online. But their website keeps telling me my SID is incorrect, when I know it is right. Whatever, they offered crap financial aid anyway.</p>
<p>I just wanted to check! And for the record I am mailing them out tomorrow.</p>
<p>Is an email inappropriate?</p>
<p>Forget about the politeness to the school. I assure you they have no place to open files on everyone who was rude for four to six years until they hear from them again for Grad! That is nonsense. </p>
<p>But you should definately let schools know just to be loyal to your fellow seniors on Waitlists. You know what they're going through. Make it less painfull. We have to stick together!</p>
<p>Hire David Spade to do it....you know the Capital One guy....that would be HILARIOUS BEYOND BELIEF. :D</p>