<p>aw gross! that’s so disgusting lol</p>
<p>Or you get the roommates who violate the contract either way and an RA who doesn’t do crap to enforce it because she basically just uses her free room as her love nest.</p>
<p>^ LOL Corruption makes me the world so funny by hearing about how it effs up people’s lives, except when it happens to you…then it’s not so funny anymore…sigh</p>
<p>PS: @123456789bc: I met lots of Asians when I visited Berkeley that were very sexual, I’m not one of them but I think race doesn’t really play a role in how sexual you’ll be, and with the Christian Gale-Wilson, a decent number of those hyper-religious Christian conservatives can be hypocrites about their faith (trust me I live here in Idaho, VERY conservative, and no I’m not Christian), especially in college, but yeah I knew you were kidding lol.</p>
<p>Actually if you really want to avoid sexiling, go to the Mormon university in Utah called Brigham Young University where my Mormon friends (I’m not Mormon) told me you get kicked out if you have sex…lol I wonder how well that law is enforced and how they manage to enforce it if they do… (I guess the roommate would have to be a tattletale is the only way)</p>
<p>Did Dr. Laura just walk in?</p>
<p>I’m going to come back in here and strongly criticize Maharba’s idea of just outright banning sex in the room and MOS’s sleeping over. Making it clear in the contract that there’s a specific duration (over which additional consent is required) for which one can be removed, and that there is to be no overnight activity or activity while others are in the room, is perfectly reasonable, and there’s no reason to potentially **** someone’s sex life over because you’re too much of a prude to have one yourself.</p>
<p>I came in actively expecting not to get a girlfriend or ever have a sex life, as did one of my roommates, and we signed the contract with our third roommate (who did, and looked as though he would) specifically allowing these activities because we predicted that girls wouldn’t and that it was totally unreasonable for us to be dicks about it, particularly since it could potentially work out in our favor anyway.</p>
<p>Haha it’s hilarious how disgusted you all are. The roommate contract is a great conversation starter and a good time to tell them that they are not allowed on your bed (really only applies if you have a bottom bunks in a triple). But besides that, you can’t really do anything about it… just don’t be awkward and in the room all the time.</p>
<p>You CCers are in for a pretty big shock when you get to college haha. Maybe not the Foothill kids.</p>
<p>^Seconding LH.</p>
<p>And, as noted above, the Foothill kids may be no more exempt than anyone else. I’m not the only person in my nerdy circle of friends who wound up getting A LOT of action during spring semester. None of us regretted deciding not to be dicks about sex on the roommate contract.</p>
<p>A word about roommate contracts: they are not as useful as they sound. Confronting your roommate about anything is pretty difficult. Your roommate is the only person you are stuck with when you are at college. Everyone else you can avoid. Whether you want to or not, you will be spending a lot of time with your roommate. If you ask your roommate to quit doing something, and he reacts negatively then you have the choice of tolerating your roommate’s behavior or making him angry for the rest of the year.</p>
<p>Hmm I don’t know if this is an appropriate question for this thread, but is sex really as good as it’s cracked up to be? (Please don’t make fun of me for being a noob). I was raised in a conservative family where I was told to wait till marriage, but I’ve personally deciding if I truly love someone then I don’t care, but I was just wondering if it really matters and the risks of sex like STDs can never fully be eliminated even with condoms as I’ve read in articles, so how is it a good idea to engage in this type of activity?</p>
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<p>Yes. If you don’t want to engage in it before marriage then don’t.</p>
<p>lol I wish it was as easy as just telling myself “I’m going to wait till marriage” but if i fall in love and crazy things happen, the I won’t regret not waiting till marriage, but of course waiting is preferable.</p>
<p>Lol sorry everyone for shifting the subject of this forum. After reading all the responses I think this fall I’ll just tell my roommate that he can do it as long as it isn’t near my bed or stuff since I don’t want his or his gf/bf 's bodily fluids touching things that I will prolly touch, simply for health reasons.</p>
<p>That depends on who’s been cracking it up. It’s very enjoyable, but it’s not the only thing that’s that enjoyable, and it’s only exceptionally fun if both you and your partner know what you’re doing and there’s some mutual emotion in it. There’s nothing as overrated as bad sex.</p>
<p>Any safety issues are pretty simple to get past; condoms are pretty readily available and the dominant cause of failure with any birth control (including coitus interruptus, as confirmed by some studies earlier this year) is user error. Don’t let idiot purists tell you that there’s a huge difference between condom and no condom; if the condom’s a decent quality and properly sized, there isn’t a whole lot of difference. If you’re particularly concerned on safety, it’s not that much of a hassle to get tested for STDs between partners.</p>
<h2>I’m not going to touch on the “wait until marriage” bit, because I’m not going to go into my ideology on this sort of thing on CC unless specifically asked.</h2>
<p>Honestly, the only kind of person who would ever do it particularly near your stuff or let anything touch your stuff is a peculiar breed of ******* who in all likelihood would never get laid in the first place, so you should be fine.</p>
<p>I was also told to withhold on sex until after marriage, and to this day I’m sticking with it, in spite of having arguments over it while in relationships. -__- I don’t mind friends who do it as long as they don’t try to drag me into their mindset. When you reunite with high school friends after a year of college, oh the things you might hear… </p>
<p>My reasonings.
- I’m a girl. I’m told that the first time will hurt. And if the relationship doesn’t last, I want to honestly tell the next guy that I’m still pure. I’m into the whole “one partner for life” thing.
- I don’t “need” sex. And with the possible risks, why do it.
- There are ways to have fun with your significant other without putting a ***** to a vagina, you know. Many, many other ways. Be safe. : p </p>
<p>The only real counterargument I’ve heard is that “it feels good.” Yeah, okay. There are other things that feel good, too, and don’t hold the negative connotations. At this moment in time, my analysis is that costs>benefits. </p>
<p>To reiterate on topic, even with my virgin ways, I would put up with sex in the room as long as it’s not disruptive. There are worse things a roommate could do. To say something like, “You can’t have sex in our room, even if I’m not there.” is kind of wrong and will only **** off your roommate (and if he/she wants to, your roommate may have sex in the room anyway without your knowing). </p>
<p>P.S. When I read “sexy-ling,” I thought of a sexy Zergling. It’s no wonder that guys want to tap this.</p>
<p><edit> I find it interesting that the word for a guy’s genitalia would be censored, but not a girl’s.</edit></p>
<p>This thread wins.</p>
<p>Wow how inconsiderate! Most people on my floor used the showers.</p>
<p>@Calbear: I would regard using morals or contract to obligate someone to have sex in a fashion that is physically hazardous, less pleasant, and considerably less sanitary is far more inconsiderate than that someone asking politely for you to stay out of the room for a specific - usually quite short - period of time so that they can do something private, but that might just be me.</p>
<p>Without being too graphic about it, some people would probably use the shower on their own accord even if the room is available to make things more interesting.</p>
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Love this!!!</p>
<h2>True, but I inferred (perhaps unjustly) that the reason was more a sense of obligation than an actual desire to do it.</h2>
<p>Also, the only truly sexy Zergling is a crackling.</p>
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<p>lol yeah I completely agree with you icesplendor, btw what’s a zergling?</p>
<p>Actually I agree with everything except the pure part. I think purity is a sexist creation by a male dominant society since there is an extremely sexist and sometimes inaccurate way to judge if a girls a virgin, but there’s so such way to judge a man. Because of that I feel it is unjust and wrong to judge a girl based on her virginity and and “purity”. Virginity lasts only once in person’s life but a girl’s personality usually lasts a lifetime.</p>
<p>PS: I’m a guy but I’m not a feminist, I just hate double standards of any kind, like minorities being allowed to say racist things but when Caucasians do it they’re called racist (I’m not a Caucasian either).</p>