<p>jym–</p>
<p>The neuropsych did mention that his corpus callosum was not “doing its job” or something to that effect. An MRI or CAT was not mentioned. If he were to be tested and agenesis was diagnosed, how would that change the life of a 20-year old? Especially a young man who wants nothing to do with any diagnoses of disabilities or learning difficulties?</p>
<p>He was first tested for LDs in 6th grade. His WJs were 25 to 40 points higher than his WISC-III. School refused services and told me he was “just lazy.” They also claimed they were educating him far beyond his cognitive potential and that I should be glad they were able to do so much with a kid who was “such a slow learner.”</p>
<p>I don’t remember all of his specific scores from those years. I do remember that private testing showed his SCAN was in the 1st percentile and SSW was “severely disordered.” But his TAPS was mostly in the average range. His CELF was incredibly inconsistent. No rhyme or reason to the scores.</p>
<p>Because he tested “at grade level” on end-of-year proficiency tests and because his WJs were in the 110 to 125 range, the school concluded he did not have an LD. Or SLD. We finally got an IEP as SLI, but it was a joke. The SLP was much better at speech articulation impairments than higher-order language processing impairments. </p>
<p>He finally got an SLD IEP for reading comp and written expression by having private testing using the UNIT. But I had to get the state involved to prove to the LEA that the UNIT was a valid IQ test. The LEA even insisted on seeing my son’s UNIT protocols. </p>
<p>Looking back, there was a pattern. He began talking quite late. Still within normal, but barely. His preschool teacher nicknamed him “deep river” because she knew he was a very deep thinker but rarely expressed his thoughts. We had a literature-rich home. My son learned to read very quickly but still spells phonetically. Looking back, he had a lot of sensory sensitivities. Not exactly on the Spectrum. But hypersensitive to textures, sounds and tastes. I understand that’s pretty common in people who are multi-sensory learners, as opposed to linguistic-sequential learners.</p>
<p>His youth pastor said that, when my son speaks during a discussion, everyone pauses because they respect his incredible insight. He is able to perceive things in ways that others don’t. And while he usually uses simple vocabulary, he expresses very perceptive and deep thoughts atypical of someone his age. </p>
<p>First IQ test was in 2nd grade when his teacher nominated him for the gifted program. I never got the actual score but the school psych told me it was borderline mentally ■■■■■■■■. I was encouraged to have his IQ tested privately. The private child psych tried but could not administer the test. He said my 8-year old son had extreme anxiety and completely shut down.</p>
<p>That was so strange because I saw a happy, contented kid who loved sports, loved music, enjoyed books and was very even tempered. He was very, very NORMAL!!! And I didn’t give a hill of beans if he were in a Gifted classroom or not. So I didn’t pursue more IQ or educational testing. He attended reg-ed classes through elementary school and got great grades. His teachers even used loopholes to get him into writing programs for gifted kids. They were convinced he was gifted, regardless of the IQ tests.</p>
<p>But that was the tip of the iceburg. He was able to hold things together until middle school when he started failing classes, seriously talked about killing himself, and the school’s only answer was that he “was lazy.” The neuropych’s only answer was to repeatedly slam his forefinger into a paper with my son’s scores on it and say, “These scores are impossible. It’s impossible for anyone to get scores like this. Your son will never graduate from high school.”</p>
<p>He did graduate with a 3.1 GPA in college-prep courses with very few IEP accoms. Mostly extended time which he rarely used. He received many, many awards for musicianship–mostly oboe but also saxophone and guitar. He also won awards as a soccer goalkeeper. He loved creative writing as long as spelling and mechanics were not part of the grade. His chemistry teacher told me, “He is flawless in the lab but can’t score above a 40 on a test on the same material.” He is now majoring in Coastal/Marine Geology and minoring in music performance. He doesn’t struggle to learn but really struggles to pass any test. In any subject. No matter how much studying and tutoring. Words in a lecture, on a page, or on a test just don’t hold enough meaning for him.</p>
<p>The scatter and inconsistencies in his psychoeds and in his day-to-day performance are baffling, to say the least. Because school is so much work for such inconsistent reward, he’s built up a lot of emotional “scar tissue” over the years. He becomes defensive and pulls away from the source of the pain. </p>
<p>I pour all this out because I am still seeking…still searching for ways to enable him to use his abilities and find contentment. What every parent wants for their beloved kids. I welcome your insight and ideas.</p>