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<p>lol You’re funny too. I love how to stray away from the questions.</p>
<p>I’m not sure why, but I will try to answer your question, Insomniatic. My son is finishing his junior year in HS, so this is still hypothetical for me, but if he were to identify a school that he loved and that offered him something unique and desirable and useful, and if he were able to get in but it was a financial stretch for me, I would be motivated to make that effort and ‘scrimp’ a bit because he is my son and I love him and I am proud and happy to be able to help him. Similarly, if I can afford to send him a bit of spending money each month, even though his basic living expenses are covered, and he is responsible, why wouldn’t I? Do you really think deprivation is the only way to learn the value of something? </p>
<p>In any case, I will have to wait until tomorrow to read your reply as it is time for me to stop, too.</p>
<p>My folks paid for my college. I have been gainfully employed in the same field in which I earned both a bachelors and a masters (paid for by the parents) for over 40 years. We are paying it forward for our children. They respect and appreciate the gift. D, who is still a full time student, has two of our credit cards, which she never abuses. She buys her books with it, her flights home. Occasionally she’ll call and ask if she can buy a pair of shoes for x dollars. We are grateful to be able to support her through college, and she would never abuse her privilege. If she did the credit card would be history, instantly. It would never happen. S works his butt off at his job, and invests his $ wisely, even though we paid for his schooling. </p>
<p>I’d rather our kids get the most out of their schooling rather than spend time working at a job that teaches them… not much. If the grades were to drop, the situation would be completely different. Hard work comes in many forms, not just in paid work. We are very fortunate and grateful.</p>
<p>Soprano: Hmmm…I think we may have the same daughter :)</p>
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<p>I think spending your own money is one of the ways to learn the value of the dollar.</p>
<p>Insomniatcic: okay, got it. Not expensive is either a Community College, or a commuter college or a merit aid package for a genius.</p>
<p>Now. as far as
…I have answered your questions…giving the extra $$ bring us JOY JOY JOY JOY JOY JOY JOY JOY. I like JOY…I like that I’ve been able to get to a point in life where I can do this for my kids…thus bringing them JOY…myself JOY…our family JOY. The answer is JOY!. It puts a smile on our face and the face of our kiddles. I understand this is not an acceptable reason from your perspective, but it is an answer to your questions…just not one which you like. Part of living in the adult world is sometimes the answers to our questions is not what we want…stomp stomp, scream, roll around on the floor temper tantrum!</p>
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<p>Every job will teach you something. I remember my first job I got after taxes about $7.75 an hour. It was ok, a little boring, but I did the job well. It motivated me to go to college, get my degree, work hard in school, and that resulted in getting me a job that that I now love.</p>
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<p>What’s wrong with a community college?</p>
<p>I went to a school for less than $60k and now I have a job that I love.</p>
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<p>So if you didn’t give your daughter $200 every month, you wouldn’t have joy?</p>
<p>Insomniac: Where did I say anything was wrong with community college? Oh my…I’m sorry to have upset you so very much.</p>
<p>As for the joy portion I would have LESS joy if we did not share with our daughter. And now, on the couch with hubby rubbing my feet, eating the first crop of cherries from our 7 year old tree (hahahahha we FINALLY beat the danged birds to the punch)…while waiting for $200/month D to come home and find the card on her pillow…life is very very good. May you experience the same, good night.</p>
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<p>I guess I can understand your point, but money doesn’t necessarily bring me “joy”. But I guess I just have to accept your point. Have a great night.</p>
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<p>This is the Internet. I come on here to have fun and to discuss things. Nothing upsets me on here.</p>
<p>I gave you answer of $10-$15k and you said:</p>
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<p>Did anyone ask it to? No. It brings dietz joy to give her D money. It has nothing to do with you or what brings you joy.</p>
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<p>I was just trying to understand her point. Nothing more, nothing less.</p>
<p>Insomniatic - get a grip. Not everyone lives like you do, for good or bad. I am not here to judge you, and it is not for YOU to judge other people. YOU would drive my kids crazy as a friend. While my kids are on my payroll, they live like we do, which is to be able to go out to dinner every once in a while. Once they are off, they are pretty much on their own. My older daughter is managing fine with what she is making. Just for your information, 200 a month is considered fairly normal for spending money. I just recently got a petition from D2 to raise it. There are parents who give more and there are parents who give less, every family is different.</p>
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<p>Where did I judge anybody? Can you provide some examples.</p>
<p>I was simply just understanding their reasoning and (if you read the thread), I chose to accept their reasoning.</p>
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<p>In what world do you live in? It’s NORMAL for a parent to give their child $200 in spending money (after paying for tuition, rent, and groceries)?</p>
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<p>Your daughter sounds like a spoiled, privileged girl.</p>
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<p>Privileged, spoiled kids drive me crazy, so I would never be their friend.</p>
<p>You think you are normal because that is all you know. Have you ever met my kids? On what basis would you say they are spoiled? Because they have what you don’t have? They have friends who have a lot more than them, and those kids are very nice also. Money doesn’t define a person, unless you let it. I have been on both sides, and I am still the same person.</p>
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<p>This: “Just for your information, 200 a month is considered fairly normal for spending money. I just recently got a petition from D2 to raise it.”</p>
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<p>I don’t live in “fantasy land” like you do where you think it is “normal” to give your kids a $200 month allowance in college.</p>
<p>Insomniatic - just out of curiousity, how would you define spoiled, privileged kids?</p>