<p>So you’re black if you wear FUBU now? LMao thats like saying you’re white if you wear Hollister. </p>
<p>People can dress however they want! FYI FUBU has been out of style for awhile… But dont categorize someone based on what they wear…</p>
<p>Okay, you guys really need to stop flamming each other.</p>
<p>What I was talking about is people who are so into a certain race they forget who they are. I apparently act white to a lot of black people. But the area I grew up was mostly white so when I moved to a largely black area I stood out like a sore thumb. There is a fine difference between growing up in a certain area and thinking you are a certain person. </p>
<p>Look at this vid (10 mins)</p>
<p>[YouTube</a> - Black Men in America- PT.6 Acting White/Movies/Music/News](<a href=“- YouTube”>- YouTube)</p>
<p>The guy in here grew up a certain way and you can’t say he’s trying to act white. If he, however, only chose to hang out with whites, that’s a difference story. If he’s going tanning, that’s a different story. </p>
<p>Let’s say he doesn’t like rap because it’s “too black” but as soon as one of his white colleagues says he likes 50 cent, he suddenly likes it. What gives?</p>
<p>Yeah I totally agree… it’s the same with Asians trying to be white, who absolutely refuse to hang out with other Asians. Like I said, it doesn’t affect me and it may offend some but I think it’s sending the wrong message – “I’m too good to hang out with my own kind” or something along those lines. </p>
<p>Exactly what I’m talking about. Or even minorities (as a whole) that won’t hang with other minorities. I think it’s messed up if you’re Indian and won’t hang out with a black person because they are black or are black and won’t hang out with an asian person. If you are already a miniority, don’t minoritize yourself even more.</p>
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<p>see this is why minorities hang out with each other, thread, no one wants to be “that asian guy” or “that one black guy” since it sucks being the minority.</p>
<p>i don’t hang out with minorities unless they “act white” though, so maybe i shouldn’t be the one talking?</p>
<p>So how would a chinese kid who listens to 80s west coast rap but follows UK fashion trends pretty much down to the core and speaks spanish and italian better than chinese (shameful, i know) have any problems fitting in in CA? its not that i dont hang out with chinese people, but since young i’ve been in international schools where everone is friends with everyone, and im moving to the states on friday. =.= ive heard that they can be pretty judgemental based on appearance and the way you carry yourself and speak, etc (stories from friends), but im going to a CC and i have no idea what to expect :S</p>
<p>I get told I act and sound like a white person all the time. I remember one time in high school this white guy told me that HE was more black than me.</p>
<p>I’m not exactly sure HOW you act like a race…I’ve been trying to figure that out for a while now but it hasn’t compute. :P</p>
<p>I think the problem comes with identifying a certain behavior to certain races. I’m black, but I don’t act black. I don’t act white either. Shouldn’t we all be acting as individuals? Why are we letting our race pin us into some narrow, pre-defined role?</p>
<p>Yeah I totally agree with what Xirus and Amber2010 said. I hate the phrase “acting white”. I’m south Asian/middle eastern and I’ve been told I’m “acting white” for the following reasons: </p>
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<li>I’m not very religious, and apparently not dogmatically following an archaic religion with many backwards beliefs equates to being “white”</li>
<li>I don’t dress like the stereotypically conservative muslim woman, even though many women who dress like that are being forced to by domineering men, which is sad - obviously not all of them though, it’s a choice</li>
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<p>Excellent point. Before I can be categorized as anything else, I am human.</p>
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<p>This was a brilliant post. Thanks.</p>
<p>We’re all human, right?</p>
<p>As a 2nd generation “south asian,” I feel just as comfortable around a white person as I am around a fellow brown person. I’m not “white-washed,” nor do I self-segregate with people of my culture. But sometimes, it’s all a matter of common interest. Our differing cultures can play a big role in our interests.</p>
<p>College is going to be one he’ll of an experience, I guess. I come from a mostly all Black high school and an all Black neighborhood. I’ve rarely had White classmates, or white friends for that matter. I’ve never faced the stigma of “acting white” or “acting black.” Being with Black people is all that I’ve ever known so I suppose that it wouldn’t be surprising if I initially gravitate to Black people when I head off to school. I’m not saying that that’s right, however, and I will personally strive to throw myself outside of my comfort level; isn’t that what college is about anyway? Trying new things? I’m game for it. I’m not going to lie though, I’m scared as hell. But aren’t I justified to be scared? Is it plausible to assume that people who cling together over similarities, whether it be in race, style, language, interests, exc., are essentially scared of immerging themselves into the unknown and the contrary? I think it’s perfectly human to be scared. I think what we can all respect is the person who at least makes an effort to step away from the status quo and explore a little. And if it doesn’t work out, that’s life … continue to sticking with what makes you happy.</p>
<p>^^you will do great things, ** justadream92 **, truly.</p>
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<p>Yes - it is totally irrational.</p>
<p>Would you say the say thing about a bunch of whites hanging out w/ each other?</p>
<p>And what screams insecurity are those (minority) who only hang out w/ whites and look down upon others from their racial/ethnic group who tend to hang out each other.</p>
<p>Also, shouldn’t it bug you more that one rarely ever sees a white person being a “minority” in a group of nonwhites (the “mixing” generally is done by minorities who mix in w/ largely white-dominated social groups)?</p>
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<p>That is so true. It reminds me of how you can tan but not bleach your skin. </p>
<p>I usually have something about people where I don’t see any diversity. I mean, I don’t judge, but when I see your facebook page and there is not once ounce of color in it, I start to question.</p>
<p>For the record I’m not saying I look at peoples groups and judge them. It’s just that…you’ll know. </p>
<p>Then again, you could say since white are a majority in America then its easier to just associate with your “race” if you get white I mean? If you go to South Africa, you’ll probably see blacks having mostly black (if not all) friends. I think its the way statistics work.</p>
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<p>Really? Because I feel most comfortable with people who share my values not skin color. I’m not apt to befriend a thief or murderer just because he/she has the same amount of melanin as me. Likewise, I’m not apt to avoid a good person just because we are of different races. </p>
<p>Since when does having the same skin color equate to having “lots in common.” Individuals are so complex, we couldn’t even begin to classify ourselves with such tiny details. What about personality traits (there are thousands), and opinions (there are billions)? Not to mention more trivial things like our favorite place and sport. </p>
<p>So quite frankly, it’s not as “simple as that.”</p>
<p>I feel my comfortable with people of the same culture as I am; however, I like making friends from all different races as long as, yes Scarlett.B, they share my values and treat others how they want to be treated (:respect). It’s more so because there are more similarities when it comes to listening to music, television drama series, etc to talk about.</p>
<p>I don’t really mind it too much if people of the same race stick together, as long as they are not racist.</p>
<p>Really, it depends on the different opportunities that you have to make friends. Freshman year, I had mostly asian friends, because I happened to sit beside them (and there are alot in general engineering). The same thing happened in sophomore year, except with a much more varied group of people.</p>
<p>Edit: However, in many cases, Scarlett, it is as simple as what RAlec said.</p>
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<p>Speaking of South Africa, one doesn’t really see much of a single white person mixing in w/ a group of blacks (I’m sure it happens, just not as often as the other way around in the US).</p>
<p>Along the same lines, there is something to be said about many whites feeling uncomfortable being in the “minority” - hence, “white-flight” from towns where the minority pop. gets too big.</p>
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<p>True, it’s not as “simple as that” - but generally speaking, people tend to have common values/experiences, etc. “based” on skin color.</p>
<p>For instance, while a white person from an affluent NE suburb may have little in common from a white person from a small town in say, Alabama - the white person from the affluent NE suburb has the greatest chance of sharing values/experiences w/ another person from an affluent suburb - and the majority of those people tend to be white (so, it’s the not skin color that is controlling, but rather the chances of meeting others having shared interests/experiences which have a high correlation due to skin color).</p>
<p>So I’m Pakistani but I don’t really speak Urdu/Punjabi and I consider myself agnostic. I can befriend desi’s pretty easily (my best friend is Indian, we grew up w/ each other w/ her renting my house but she’s actually a lot like me w/ the agnosticism, not traditional) but whenever it comes to religion, I don’t really relate. My mom says I’m pretty Americanized and that I don’t dress Muslim but I’ve always been completely honest with her within being respectful – a lot of first generation Americans have this problem and so yes, I can see how it would be easy to befriend them but you have to remember that even though a lot of people self segregate seemingly to their own race, they befriend people of their race who have the same characteristics as them. I don’t like judgemental Pakistanis who look down on me for being Islamic or not speaking Urdu/Punjabi. Could I befriend someone who was really religious/traditional? Yeah, I really think I could but I don’t know about being close. My own spirituality really defines me and it probably defines them and I’d feel like our conflicting ideologies might be an issue. As long as we’re both open and accepting though, I don’t see how it’s a problem. But do you see the point I’m trying to make? That there are people who are not always comfortable gravitating to their own culture for whatever reason? It’s kind of an inverse. </p>
<p>But I want to make another point that self-segregation isn’t only to race. I’ve noticed that I always make friends with the “new kids” or people who’ve moved. I identify with that since I moved to TX from NY four years ago (which by now seems like a long time but is still kind of fresh to me). I also seem to approach shy people a lot and find that they’re really outgoing. </p>
<p>My highschool is like 80 percent white where the schools I went to in NY were mixed w/ high concentrations of desi people and black/latino/hispanic peeps. I want to have desi people near me because let me tell you, you do need someone of your culture to vent to because they understand the disparity between our American society and your culture’s traditions/values better than let’s say your white friends who can trace their genealogy back to the 1800s. Or sometimes I just want to squeel about Shahrukh Khan/Aamir Khan/Indian Idol and usually it’s my desi friends who know about that. LOL.</p>
<p>But I still truly believe everyone should have a balance. I know that when I go to college, I won’t self-segregate. I think having a full spectrum of diversities (that doesn’t just include race) is exciting and I want to learn about people. Maybe that’s why I’m heavily interested in Anthropology. xD </p>
<p>What I’m trying to stress is that people have tendencies when picking out friends. We go for what’s familiar to us, what we relate to, common interests, similar passions, compatible ideologies, etc. And that isn’t factored just on race.</p>