<p>You’d be surprised how awful some people can be with their happy admission results. There was one dad the year before last who was boasting before March-10 that his recruited football player son got admitted into PEA & PA. Apparently the coaches leaked it to him early, in violation of policy. </p>
<p>This dad was so obnoxious that the moderators had to remove his posts. I hope the son had better sportsmanship than the father.</p>
<p>Try to remember to BE A GRACIOUS WINNER. There will be a lot of hurting people lurking.</p>
<p>I’m not telling anyone what to do… but it might be nice to hold off on " How I’m going to Decorate my BS Room" and the BS “Supply List” threads until after April 10th or so… Then by all means- let them rip. If you can’t wait- maybe keep those threads over on PS Café? I understand the excitement but I think that would be very kind.</p>
<p>My kids’ private K-8 has strict rules about the next school protocol. No one, student or parent, is allowed to talk about where a child has been admitted until the kids return from the 2 week spring break. At that point the kids are all free to talk about where they plan to go, whether its a BS, DS or LPS.</p>
<p>The Head of School used to tell an anecdote about a parent who broke the rules one year and showed up in the carpool line, hanging out the window of the car, opened letters in hand and screaming “You got in everywhere!!” The kid was embarrassed, her classmates were annoyed, the parent looked like a jerk, and the student was robbed of the opportunity to open the letters herself and experience her own successes and disappointments.</p>
<p>While I think it will be hard for students who have been admitted not to celebrate I’ll join GMTplus7 in urging them and their families to do it with grace.</p>
<p>Sue22, my DS’s school has this rule as well (although it is K-12, there are enough kids applying out for HS to warrant it). In addition to the reasoning that you give above, they are wary of peer pressure in choosing a school. They don’t want the kids getting together and talking about where they’re going, because they want the kids and their parents to make the decision. It can be hard if your friends are going to school A, and you want to go to school B.</p>
<p>^^ I like ThatcherParent’s advice, too. @GMC2918 and @Sue22- JBS does the same thing. With some families in WL/FA limbo- they wait for everyone to finish the race. The kids show a great deal of compassion for each other. The support is amazing.</p>
<p>If I’m getting “Over Capacity” messages now, M10 should be a very interesting day. Hold on to your hats! Good luck everyone! </p>
<p>Plus they don’t want the kids to mistakenly denigrate someone else’s top choice.</p>
<p>No one will tell you they hate your baby name after you’ve sent out the birth announcements. Tell them when you’re still considering the options and everyone will feel free to comment.</p>
<p>“WAHOOO” is something you yell at home, there is no need to type it on M10. A simple entry on the decision thread (Accepted: School X) will do. We know you’re dancing and we’re smiling with you but, seriously, the word “accepted” conveys all.</p>
<p>stargirl: You are not wrong. I was agreeing that WAHOOO is certainly an appropriate response to those acceptances. Everyone will yelp something when they come in. I’m just saying that there is appropriate exuberance at home and appropriate etiquette on the board that includes sensitivity to everyone’s feelings. Let’s just not be tone-deaf on M10. We’ve seen how very wrong that can go.</p>
<p>I’m curious as to what my reaction will be… I’m kind of expecting an “OH. MY. GOD.” (for good or bad) but I’m also a loud person… we’ll see!</p>
<p>All I know is that last year, I saw my waitlist letter online and my mom was pretty much asleep in bed in the same room. I nudged her and said, “Waitlisted.” Then I cried. Then we went to a friend’s party and my basketball banquet (where everyone ate pizza and I stared at CC on my phone looking for happy ending waitlist stories)…</p>
<p>Stargirl3: I have all of my fingers crossed for you this year. From what I have seen from you over the past year, any school would be lucky to have you. I hope your dreams come true. </p>
<p>Another thread to hold off on is the “Help Please!!! Andover or Exeter?” type post. Not that it isn’t a good question…a week later…but kindness and restraint, please, for the kids who need to process their waitlists and denials and maybe don’t have any choices</p>
<p>. It also helps if posters are very clear in their thread titles, so that the kids looking for some solace don’t click on the wrong thread: “What do I do now?” can head a thread from someone who has been accepted everywhere and someone who has been accepted nowhere.</p>
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