Don't know what to do anymore...please help

Chance Me / Match Me!
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<p>The title says it all. I'm a senior at a competitive public high school in San Jose, California and at a complete loss at the moment. A mixture of bad decisions and bad luck all throughout high school leave me feeling completely hopeless as to what I want to do.</p>

<p>Going into freshman year, I thought I was going to go into the Air Force. There was something about the way you could say "I'm in the Air Force" that was incredibly rewarding and I thought it was an extremely noble profession to be able to serve your country, but the conservative nature of the program didn't sit well with my very liberal family and threw that opportunity out the window.</p>

<p>My sophomore year I took a film class and then thought I could go into filmmaking ever since I made a short film about my autistic brother that won several awards, but as I realized how expensive filmmaking is and the average salary of most film students, the numbers just didn't add up and as I became more interested in more practical areas, it just didn't seem worth it.</p>

<p>My junior year things really got screwed up. I only got two of the three AP classes that I signed up for, AP English and AP U.S. History; both of which were impressive and classes that I enjoyed, but didn't push me in any particular direction for a major. Perhaps worst of all, instead of the AP science I signed up for, I got stuck in Zoology cause everything else filled up. It was basically a joke science that while interesting, I think severely limited my potential for further science-based careers.</p>

<p>I wasn't always the best math student either, so I tried to redeem myself by taking a MicroEcon, Calc, and Comp Sci classes over the summer, but I had to drop the calc class because the teacher didn't speak english, which made the brutal summer pace even worse. I liked the Economics and Computer Science though, and heard that I could consider both if I had a strong math background. Which I didn't.</p>

<p>But I thought I could improve myself if I took Calc my senior year to challenge myself. But I got my schedule this year and was horrified; not only did I get AP Stats instead of Calc, I got AP Environmental Science instead of Physics.</p>

<p>I tried to change out of both, but they explained that each class had a waiting list that exceeded 50 people, and that I could not attempt to get in without screwing everything else up in the process.</p>

<p>So that threw not only Business, Economics and Computer Science out the window, but probably most sciences as well since I don't have any physics on my high school transcript.</p>

<p>So here, I am. For the past 3 years I've spent every waking moment trying to increase my chances to get into college, but almost every time it seems that I do something wrong.</p>

<p>I'm absolutely paranoid; for the past year I haven't been able to hold a conversation without bringing up colleges or admissions, I've overloaded myself on classes and activities all throughout high school and in the process, isolated myself from many of my friends and family in pursuit of my work. Almost to the point of self-destruction. I attempted suicide my junior year and spent three days in a mental hospital, and once blacked out in class after pulling three straight all-nighters and eating little more than 3 apples and a bag of grapes in that time. But perhaps the worst part is that even with all my efforts, I still feel inadequate with only a 3.58 GPA and only 2 AP classes taken so far.</p>

<p>I was a slacker earlier in high school, and have basically been tormenting myself ever since to make up for that, but every day it feels more and more hopeless. I've made stupid, stupid decisions and every day try to redeem myself, but I feel it may already be too late. I know this isn't healthy, and a psychologist diagnosed me with ADD, but even his words and thoughts don't make me feel any better about myself. I'm still a pathetic failure in my own eyes, trying to make up for a past that was my own fault.</p>

<p>The only thing I am good at is helping people. I have over 300+ community service hours, which nowadays isn't even a lot, a student director at several organizations, and the "third parent" in a family with an autistic child and two other siblings who have parents who work late into the evening.</p>

<p>But other than that I'm not doing anything I enjoy, have mediocre grades, have distanced myself from my friends and family, and have had to consider going to community college just so I can think straight, something that disturbs the eager kid inside me who once thought I had a chance at UCLA.</p>

<p>I'm not blaming the world for my problems and issues; only myself.</p>

<p>I don't want to scare anybody or ask for sympathy...I just feel lost right now, and I don't know what to do anymore.</p>

<p>I'm scared.</p>

<p>I appriciate those of you who actually stick around to read this mess and wish you all the best of luck. Thank you very much :)</p>

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<p>Being able to help people, especially people with special needs, is a real gift.</p>

<p>Do I hear the soul of a social worker or a special ed teacher or a coach of some kind just trying to express yourself?</p>

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<p>Cheer up: very many prleople would love to have a 3.58 and your obvious intelligence. What you need is a shot in the arm, so:</p>

<ul>
<li>Do well on the SAT</li>
<li>Do well in your remaining classes in HS.</li>
</ul>

<p>…and UCLA is still a possibility, along with other UCs (and many many other fine schools…).</p>

<p>If your dream is to go to UCLA, and you do not get in as a freshman, don’t despair: go somewhere else for a year or two, do very well, and try to transfer.</p>

<p>I bet you will find that regardless of whether you ever attend a single class as a Bruin, you’ll find the hard work you’ve put into the attempt to be quite a reward in itself.</p>

<p>So… work your tail off and, if you don’t get into UCLA right away, know that it truly is not the end of the world. You’ve no idea what life has in store for you, so regardless of the hand you seem dealt, keep playing. Often our greatest blessings come when we’re not even looking for them/paying attention.</p>

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<p>Have confidence in yourself. Relax and if you have to, go to community college to set your head straight and get focused on the right path. In fact, many great colleges do accept community college transfers, especially if you do really well there. Seek help and reinforcement from the family members and friends that you’ve neglected, and they will help you make it through everything all right.</p>

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<p>I’m confused as to why you are already ruling out any careers in science. Millions of students have only taken basic level chemistry, biology, and physics and end up becoming doctors, engineers, scientists, nurses, physician assistants, researchers, and go on to get their Master’s or PhD in a science-related subject. Not taking an AP science course during high school is not an indication that you cannot go on to get a career in science. You will just have to spend a little extra time going over the course material in college since the material will be new to you, but if it’s a subject you truly love, you will do whatever it takes to understand the material and get your career in it. Don’t shy away from anything just because you think your opportunities are limited or completely over! You have the world ahead of you. Be happy with the AP courses that you have. Although you don’t like your GPA, you can do great in your senior year courses and prove to colleges that you’re serious. Of course, apply to UCLA but just have back-ups ready and understand that just because you don’t end up going to your dream college doesn’t mean that your dreams have come to an end. Whatever you wanted to major in and do at UCLA can be accomplished at another college in equal, if not better, ways and don’t ever put yourself or your aspirations down. You have the world at your feet-you just have to take the next steps towards your goal. There are so many people who would die to have that GPA and that GPA opens so many doors to you. You have tons of available options so just spend the next couple of weeks researching what those options are and how they correlate with your interests. Talk to your guidance counselor to further analyze your options and see what comes through. You’ll be surprised.</p>

<p>Cheers and good luck! :)</p>

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<p>I think you need more help than an anonymous online forum, full of people who have good intentions but who know almost nothing about you, can give you. You need to talk this over with a competent, caring adult, like a guidance counselor (but only one who actually KNOWS you!), who can give you a much clearer perspective on everything.
You are not a failure. You seem like you’re blaming yourself and torturing yourself over things that are NOT IN YOUR CONTROL, and for the sake of your mental stability and peace of mind, that needs to stop.
Not only that, but broaden your mind in terms of career; wordworker had a great idea. Science careers are not the only ones worth having, and a 3.58 GPA is more than satisfactory to get your future (a good future!) in control. Figure out what your strengths are, maybe take an online class over the school year if it will help, but embrace your strengths, talk it out with someone you trust, and don’t blame yourself for everything.
Good luck, and I hope everything goes well for you in the end (quickly!).</p>