S1 never came home for summers in college (great summer jobs) and headed to the west coast after graduation. He comes back here 1-2 times a year, a day or two each time. OTOH, he is happy for us to come to his house for a 7-10 days. His GF finds us more chill than her parents.
S2 was home almost three years after college, working various jobs, taking care of his mental health, and saving $$ to go overseas and improve language fluency. (He was getting through several stages of language proficiency tests with various contracting firms, and coming close on the last level.) We didn’t charge him rent. Didn’t have a car, but coordinated with us and paid for gas as well. He’d text if he was going to stay out late/overnight. He cooked for us frequently (he’s quite good at it and bought groceries for same), did his own laundry. I closed his bedroom door to avoid looking at the mess. He needed that extra time to launch. We worried, but mostly to ourselves.
Five years later, he’s a happy expat and engaged. He really needed to get out of here to believe he could function successfully without us. I miss my sports buddy, but he is doing well for himself and using what he learned in college, though not quite in the ways he expected! The job market for his skills over there is strong and the COL is very low (even before current events there). He and his fiancee complement each other quite well and have many shared values about humanitarian service and family.