<p>I don’t understand… how can you have 600 friends? In have 25 in fb… i delete the people who i deem unworthy. still., none or my friends have hardly any activity on their wall.</p>
<p>^ Facebook is no fun if you only have 25 friends…it’s best when you have 500+ friends. How big was your high school? Sure you knew more than 25 people in high school?</p>
<p>I doubt my HS had 500 students… but I graduated in 2001.</p>
<p>I don’t just add people I’m close with. I add anyone I’ve really been in contact with…people I meet at parties, people I randomly meet through other friends, etc. If they’re annoying I delete or hide them.</p>
<p>I don’t add people I’ve never met though.</p>
<p>I don’t see how it’s fun with 500 friends though. I highly doubt you’re friends (as in you keep in contact on even a somewhat regular basis) with 500 people. Dunbar’s Number is far less than that.</p>
<p>Who says you have to be in close contact with them? Sometime it’s just fun to have a large community like that. I sometimes like to know what is going on with people I used to know, even if we don’t really talk. It’s also fun to post things and see how different people will react. I often see good conversations going on statuses from people who don’t even know each other, yet have a mutual friend. </p>
<p>I don’t know. I just don’t see what’s wrong with having 500 friends. I have just over 500 and it doesn’t seem overwhelming or whatever. If I’m not in close contact with that person, I’ll just skim over their stuff rather than pay attention like I would with a friend. But, through that skim, something might interest me. </p>
<p>Plus you never know if you’ll develop friendships later on. I added my friend’s roommate after talking to him once. I knew he went through a break-up just like mine so I asked him for advice on a whim. We’re now really close friends even though he lives on the other side of the country.</p>
<p>I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with it, I just can’t fathom having 500 myself. I’ve done facebook stalking plenty of times… it’s kinda fun but meh, I wouldn’t feel empty without it.</p>
<p>Why would having 500 friends not make Facebook fun?</p>
<p>I suppose it depends on your definition of ‘fun’ as well as what one does on Facebook. I open it, read anything new on my news feed then close it. Unless someone’s left a post on my wall or something.</p>
<p>i add pretty much everyone i meet in real life whom i talk to long enough to get their name. that’s basically it - if i know their name and their face, they’re my friend on facebook. i have just under 700 and i have friends with twice as many.
and if you open it and read new things on your news feed (i do the same), then having more friends would lead to more new things, as well as new posts on your wall or messages in your inbox etc. so… i don’t exactly understand, haha.</p>
<p>I used to have nearly 300 friends and it didn’t lead to any more posts or messages.</p>
<p>Sounds like an ego thing to me. Why would anyone need to provide an actual number like that? A lot of people just need to admit that they add as any people as they can just to get a self-esteem boost. when did Facebok coma along? I remeber starting to use
it 2 years ago. Are those people with 1000 friends adding new people every day? All I know is i’m obviosuly anti social. I only meet someone new and care to remember their ae like once a year. my roomates dont even have fb.</p>
<p>Anyone remember when Facebook was reserved for the college-age crowd and Myspace was reserved for the underlings?</p>
<p>I remember hs.facebook.com</p>
<p>if your news feed is set to show posts only from friends/pages you interact with most(the default), then adding new friends will probably have less effect on your news feed than if you were to set it to show all. themoreyouknow.jpg
and you don’t need to add people every day to have 1000 friends. ~300 friends are from UC Davis alone. another 200 from high school. 80 or so from traveling internationally/youth exchange programs and 60 from raves. the rest are whatever i can’t fit into any other categories.
only reason i know this is because i have all of my friends organized into groups so it’s easy to find people in chat.
i can’t believe i’m actually discussing this on a forum. lol</p>
<p>I just don’t like FB/Anti-FB converters…you know the ones who make it their life mission to get everyone to join FB/delete FB. I def. feel that there are somr FB converters here (i.e. “if you dont join FB you’re missing out.”).</p>
<p>Anyway, I agree w/ LeoLibby. I just wish people would be a msn/woman and just be honest about them feeling good about themselves/getting validaton about having 500+ friends. I mean why lie and beat around the bush w/ the whole “i dont mind having people who I dont know all too well” or “its fun keeping in touch w/ people I dont talk to that often.” My thing is, just be real…if having all of those friends boost your self esteem then more power to ya. As long as you arent hurting/killing anyone, you are bueno.</p>
<p>This whole thing with the friend count reminds me of Myspace. People would just get as many friends just to look “popular”, the majority of the time they don’t even know who the person even is. When I had Myspace if someone added me I would approve. That changed when I got myself a Faceboo, and I add people who I actually had a conversation with, a long one. Which is why I only have friends in the 300 range. Sometimes I see people with like 1000+ friends and wonder do they even know all of them. When I say know I mean know.</p>
<p>@romani; Why do you need “500 friends” to make you feel good about yourself? Self confidence and self esteem should come from within; not from validation from others. You’re so sad.</p>
<p>I don’t think friend count really makes people feel any certain way. I enjoy being friends with people I’ve just kind of met because…I don’t know, you kind of get a sense of community, especially if most of those people are friends of your close friends, like mine are. You just get a sense of what’s happening in your own social scene in all your groups of friends, even ones that you don’t hang out with much. You can also easily contact people with just a click and ask them if they want to hang out. Lots of people have way more friends than I do, I don’t get any sense of self-worth by the number of friends I have. But I like to be friends with lots of people so you get a general idea of the social picture wherever you are, as well as keep tabs on people from high school or other past times in your life. It’s interesting to see what they’re up to and nice to keep in touch. I don’t understand how anyone can think no one should have Facebook. Perhaps we don’t need it, but my life has been significantly improved by it and I really like it, and I know lots of people feel the same way.</p>
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<p>Apparently the hacker group Anonymous thinks this lol. </p>
<p>But on a more serious note, I definitely see your side when you say it like that. But it also goes back to the point how we’re all different. You see, you want (“don’t mind”) to stay in touch with people from your past. For me, I don’t care about people in my past, to be blunt. I accept things for what they are. I accept the fact that people come in and out of our lives. For me, as long as I have my family, best friend, and friends I’m good. I gain nothing out of holding onto things that should be in my past. Also, to be blunt, I don’t care what anyone I don’t talk to in life is up to. I’m already in touch and know what’s up with everyone I care about. </p>
<p>But yes, though I don’t have a Facebook and probably never will, I still think it should be up to the person to have one. That’s why I get ****ed when you have people who are against Facebook go on a crusade and try to tell everyone to delete Facebook simply because we should live and let live. And vice-versa; I don’t like when you have people who are pro Facebook trying to shove Facebook down the throats of everyone who doesn’t have one. It’s not for everyone and simply live and let live. My motto is if you’re not hurting or killing anyone, what’s the issue?</p>