Facebook - why do you talk with someone on his wall, instead of over PM?

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<p>I dunno - it seems that A LOT of people prefer discussing matters of private importance on each other's walls, instead of each other's PMs. Most messages between people are in fact wall-messages instead of private messages. Why do you prefer that? Do you really want everyone to see your wall posts? I mean, if you were given the choice EXPLICITLY, wouldn't you say that you probably wouldn't want everyone to see them? </p>

<p>As for me though, I don't really care. I like posting my thoughts publicly.</p>

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<p>er...am I the only one who doesn't use facebook?</p>

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<p>Yes. /<em>10char</em>/</p>

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<p>I resisted as long as I could, but I now have a Facebook.</p>

<p>I don't think that people discuss private matters on their walls... I usually just post silly things on my friends' walls. I discuss "real" things with them through PMs. Actually, with my really good friends, I PM them more than I write on their walls. Because having five paragraph discussions on walls just doesn't work!</p>

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Facebook - why do you talk with someone on his wall, instead of over PM?

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<p>Because to some, wall posts are an indication of popularity.</p>

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Because having five paragraph discussions on walls just doesn't work!

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<p>I agree. :D</p>

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<p>haha, I wondered abt it, but I rather look at two of them as: wall is for not emergency or just regular casual stuffs, while PM might possibly be urgent or too personal. Like the other day, one dude PMed me regarding what book to use for SAT....so, it DOES make sense to PM at this point right? He wudn't want others to see that info! :p</p>

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<p>But apparently - people do post things on facebook that would otherwise be relegated to 1-1 discussions. I've seen this for numerous people. There also this one guy who just stopped responding to my e-mails once he took over my facebook wall</p>

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er...am I the only one who doesn't use facebook?

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<p>No, I don't use it either. In a group of about oh, 30 something people, I was the only one who didn't have an account. </p>

<p>I prefer message boards as a form of I-net communication, and more importantly, my anonymity.</p>

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<p>I had one for a week and then deleted it.</p>

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<p>You look real sweet.</p>

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<p>People prefer writing on walls because popularity is synonymous with 2125137807234074215437297923 wall posts.</p>

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<p>Wow, I must be reallllly popular, because I have 2125137807234074215437297924 wall posts!</p>

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<p>:O You should start a religion. Where people worship you.</p>

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<p>I highly doubt people care that much about facebook wall popularity (certainly not to the point where it influences their decisions to post on each other's walls rather than through e-mails).</p>

<p>After all, those same people don't go around adding random people to their facebook friends.</p>

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<p>^They do. Trust me.</p>

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<p>You're right. A Facebook wall doesn't cause popularity, but I think that a wall like LesOs' correlates with popularity.</p>

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^They do. Trust me.

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<p>Perhaps since we're exposed to different peer groups? The people I know who keep on posting personal matters on each other's walls don't care that much about facebook popularity. They just somehow like to use facebook wall-to-wall to facilitate personal communication.</p>

<p>In fact - some people send "how are you" messages right on each other's walls.</p>

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In fact - some people send "how are you" messages right on each other's walls.

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<p>So? If all they have to say is 'im fine how r u?' why should they bother to use a real message?</p>

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<p>Rockermcr makes a valid point.</p>

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<p>Well, I think that you're imagining this popularity the wrong way, Inquiline. What I meant is that for many people, number of wall posts (or number of posts on their wall per day, or number of inside jokes painted on graffiti walls, or number of pictures that they're in...) correlates with popularity OUTSIDE of Facebook. I don't mean that these people are trying to appear popular within a separate online community. They want to appear as if they have lots of friends to those at their school; they use their number of wall posts as a means to quantify their popularity.</p>