<p>*We all received stacks of letters “to the parents” from the likes of NU’s Office of Financial Aid saying, “Don’t be daunted by the high cost of education here; we work hard to make sure it’s affordable for you. If you are concerned that you can’t afford us, don’t turn away…call us. And apply!”</p>
<p>**We were then fed statistics on the relatively low amount of debt the average graduate carries away. **Fast forward to April, and we find we actually ARE expected to pay “list.” Given the low debt statistic, most families must be paying out of pocket or through private loans that aren’t coordinated or tracked by the school.
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<p>I wouldn’t believe what schools (businesses) say about how they will make their product affordable to me. I’ve been on Mercedes’ lots and have been told that they can make their pricey cars affordable …do I believe that? No. </p>
<p>Those stats on federal student loans that are in their FA packages are exactly that…stats on student loans that they put in their packages. They aren’t tracking what parents are borrowing…or what students are doing/borrowing outside of their purview. It’s none of their business to know/track what parents are doing, and it’s none of their business if parents are co-signing private loans for their children. </p>
<p>*Here’s where I think people’s thinking gets skewed. Colleges don’t “believe”, “want” or “think” anything at all (nor do they “expect” anything–another term I see a lot on CC0–as in “does College X really expect me to pay $YYY?”) They intend only for you to look at the financial aid package they’ve cooked up and give them a yes or no about whether the student will attend. They fully understand it might be a “no”, and they can live with that, because they will have no trouble filling that spot with someone else. As for your son not wanting to attend a less selective school that will offer him a merit scholarship, he should keep in mind that he will have plenty of intellectual equals who are there for the same reason he is, especially if he is offered a spot in an honors program. *</p>
<p>We need an APPLAUSE button. </p>
<p>MommaJ is exactly right. </p>
<p>Your son, and maybe you as well, has champagne tastes…he wants to spend 4 years in a very pricey environment that is concentrated with super smart kids. You can choose to pay/borrow/whatever to provide that luxurious experience, or not.</p>
<p>Your very smart son has used stats about lower ranked schools to come to the wrong conclusion. He’s assuming that if he takes a merit scholarship at a school where his stats are in the top 10%, that he won’t have a lot of smart kids in his classes. This is a common mistake people make. They look at the 2 middle quartiles of a large school (often a public) and see that there are good number of average stats kids on campus. They neglect to realize that those kids are not evenly spread out amongst all majors. The more difficult and challenging majors have the much higher concentrations of higher stats kids. When schools “buy” high stats kids, they know that about 6-8 of their majors are going to get a big boost in high stats kids…because those kids are largely concentrated in a few majors…Those kids are NOT spread out evenly amongst a college’s 100+ majors. </p>
<p>And, as MommaJ mentions, if the school has a good honors program, then he’ll have more opportunities to be surrounded by other smart kids.</p>
<p>I’m also detecting a certain sense that your son thinks that unless he’s surrounded by a bunch of other ACT 35/36 kids, his educational experience will somehow suffer. It’s wrong to think that an ACT 35 student can’t “learn” or have intelligent conversations with kids who have - say - an ACT 28 or 30. Those kids have scored in the top 10% of the nation. Surely, they can be academic peers in conversation and in the classroom. </p>
<p>BTW…if your son really has law school in his plans…then all of this need to be in a pricey private is sooo unnecessary. Save your money and help him with law school costs.</p>
<p>You and your son should be thrilled that you have UIUC as a school that is his financial safety. You’re an Illinois taxpayer, and you’re getting a discount to send your kid there.</p>