<p>Hey guys, i am in community college looking to transfer after a year and i am just doing very bad. like superbad. i dont know whats wrong with me. i had a 4.0 first semester then flicked to 2.0 in the spring. so i decided to take summer class of 9 credits and i ended up having one F and C the other i am still taking which is most likely gonna be below d. i dont know what is wrong with me. my father saw it yesterday and he was really upset that he wants to send me back to my mother. i don't know what to do. help</p>
<p>First take a deep breath! It will be ok. I would start with talking with the faculty member who taught the class to see if there is anything you can do to work to get the grade changed. I would also seek out tutoring and student support services on your campus. They provide lots of resources and can get you connected with the help you need to be successful!</p>
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The summer courses being over or nearly so, it is not likely that OP can salvage them now. Serious introspection is needed in order to determine what the issue(s) are.</p>
<p>I would really like to help you, mayyree, but there isn’t much to go on here. “i dont know whats wrong with me.” That can’t be the whole truth. Look, I don’t know what’s wrong with me, either, but that’s at a fairly deep level. Way before that level, I know lots of what’s wrong with me, the mistakes I make, the poor choices, the things I find really hard to change about myself even though I know I should. I don’t know completely why I do those things, or why I can’t do other things, but I sure as heck know what the self-destructive things I do are, and what things I’m not at all good at.</p>
<p>I don’t believe you have no idea why practically overnight you went from having great grades to near-complete academic failure to perform. It could be any number of things – traumatic brain injury, depression, you switched all your courses from things you were good at to things you were never able to do, you got distracted by things other than school, the person who was helping you before stopped helping you, you were partying too much or playing video games, you felt tired all the time and couldn’t go to class, you were a crime victim and can’t focus on anything, you were drinking or smoking or shooting too much – but surely you know which of those (or other, similar possibilities) are involved and which are not even close.</p>
<p>I totally understand if you don’t want to blab what’s really happening to you on the internet, even anonymously. But the first step for you in figuring out what to do is to find someone – and I hope it can be an adult you trust and who cares about you – with whom you can share what’s on your mind without holding stuff back. You need help, and you need it pretty quickly, because something is really wrong in your life. But you can’t begin to get help if you can’t be honest about the problems you are having. If what you need is medication, tutoring won’t help much. </p>
<p>So please please please: find someone immediately you are willing to tell everything you know about what’s going on. And ask for help, and listen to his or her advice. Your school may have counselors or advisors with whom you could start, if you feel up to it, or you may need to talk to an older friend or relative. Maybe even your dad – you will know in your heart whether that’s good or not. But find someone.</p>
<p>Tell us about your courses. A lot of the students I teach have a first semester like this:
Pre-algebra
Remedial English
College study skills
Psychology 101
Dance
And they do pretty well. Second semester they start taking regular classes, and things aren’t so easy. I’m not saying this is you, but if it is, then you need to take advantage of more services that the college offers.</p>
<p>9 credits over the summer is tough! THey have to cram a 15 week semester in much less than that. Your CC has some kind of academic success/writing/tutoring center. Go to them and tell them what you told us. THey may be able to help you figure out what is wrong…are you studying inefficiently? Should you be doing more practice problems? Also, talk to your professor. Ask them what are successful students doing to do well in the class? Like maybe successful students read the chapter before the lecture. They do the homework and if they get stuck they ask other students or meet with the professor. THey seek out extra problems to practice on/they do a draft of a paper early and go to the writing center for help. They go to all the classes.</p>
<p>to the Op- welcome to the U.S. My suggestion is continue to do your very best learning the language, and continue to do your very best in class. It can be tough for a student here if their first language isn’t English.
Is there a class tutor, or other kind of student advisor that could help you? Even your prof might help; they want you to succeed, too. It could be vey difficult to transfer if you don’t bring those grades up.</p>
<p>I had a similar problem in my second semester. I became complacent with my work because I got used to everything at my school the first semester. I realized that my “studying” consisted of flipping pages and socializing instead of actually studying. You have probably heard that you need to perfect your study skills and that is partially true. I didn’t improve until I looked at my study skills and made changes towards those habits. If you go out a lot you might need to go out less. If paying attention is a problem, try to study in 30-40 minute sessions instead of 3 hour sessions. You might need pictures/ diagrams to study with instead of book pages. Critique your habits in studying, time management and go from there. It seriously helps! 
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<p>Who was paying for your classes? your dad? or financial aid? </p>
<p>What were you doing during your non-class time? socializing? watching TV? playing on your computer? gaming? texting friends? surfing the net/Facebook? </p>
<p>Yes, analyze your behavior: Do you sleep the same hours each night (like, to bed at 10 p.m., up at 6 a.m.)? Do you attend each class meeting, with all homework and studying completed? Do you study enough outside of class (the rule of thumb is 1 hour in class with 2 hour outside)? Do you have the academic/language skills/abilities demanded for your courses (or are you in too deep and perhaps need remedial or beginning courses)? And, do you know HOW to productively study? </p>
<p>If all that is square, ask it you’re abusing substances, have a mood disorder, are sick, or might have a learning disability/ADHD — something getting in the way of your academic performance. </p>
<p>These pretty much boil it down. Use tutors, your faculty, and the school’s counseling center to help you immediately. </p>
<p>Good luck. You can figure this out. </p>
<p>I agree with @JHS’ excellent post. We can’t possibly offer advice knowing no more than what you’ve posted here. But that is a dramatic drop in grades and you can’t just say “I don’t know what’s wrong with me” – you have to figure out what’s going on. (Did you have a high GPA in high school, so this is completely new? Or was the 4.0 first semester of CC the anomaly?)</p>
<p>In any case, I think the advice to find someone to really talk to is good. </p>
<p>Honestly, I have some experience with doing poorly in college without knowing why, though it was limited to a single course and did not result in a failing grade. Still, I wouldn’t necessarily disbelieve the OP.</p>
<p>Messing up and not knowing why is a horrible feeling. It makes you question yourself, and it makes you feel completely helpless. For me things went back to normal as soon as that one class ended, in terms of academic performance, but my confidence in the quality of my own work took a long time, and many kind words from my instructors, to recover. I can easily see myself spiralling down the rabbit hole if I weren’t fortunate enough to have dedicated teachers with the time and desire to ask me about my feelings, assure me I was a good student, and practically hold my hand through a couple of assignments until I felt capable of good work again.</p>
<p>However, the OP’s problem seems different from mine, which in retrospect I’ve been able to diagnose in general terms as an inability to get along with the instructor and adjustment to a new set of academic expectations, in that it seems to have carried over from the beginning of the second semester and extends to all courses the OP is taking.</p>
<p>So, OP, I have to agree with everyone else that there’s a reason this is happening. You may not see it right now, but if that’s the case, you need to sit down and think about it really hard. Is it something that happened once and has affected your ability to do work ever since? Is it a permanent change in your life, academic environment or course selection? If you’re not able to think through everything that’s happened to you since you started struggling and identify the reason, you may want to talk to an academic or mental health counselor. That person would hopefully know the right questions to ask to pinpoint your issue(s).</p>
<p>edit: My dad paid for the summer, but i ended up getting an f on that last class and apparently i’m on financial aid probation… i dont even know if i am going to be able to live in dorm(which i highly doubt i will)
is there even something that i can do to fix this or i dont know… if you guys have any advice.
i feel such an idiot for making a huge mistake, it wasnt like couldnt do it. my boyfriend goes to same school as me and he got a 4.0 for his summer courses and he took 3 classes.
i am so embarrassed to tell him that i got two f’s, it’s humiliating. i am so disgusted by myself right now. could i even get right back up? i am trying to get at least a 3.8 in the fall…but i dont know if it is still gonna affect my fa and would i still be on probation? </p>
<p>edit: My dad paid for the summer, but i ended up getting an f on that last class and apparently i’m on financial aid probation… i dont even know if i am going to be able to live in dorm(which i highly doubt i will)
is there even something that i can do to fix this or i dont know… if you guys have any advice.
i feel such an idiot for making a huge mistake, it wasnt like couldnt do it. my boyfriend goes to same school as me and he got a 4.0 for his summer courses and he took 3 classes.
i am so embarrassed to tell him that i got two f’s, it’s humiliating. i am so disgusted by myself right now. could i even get right back up? i am trying to get at least a 3.8 in the fall…but i dont know if it is still gonna affect my fa and would i still be on probation?</p>
<p>Did you even read the responses to your original post? A lot of people are trying to give you advice, but it’s not going to be helpful if all you can do is say basically the same stuff you said at the start. We certainly can’t tell you anything about whether your F’s will affect your financial aid or whether you’ll be on academic probation. You need to ask someone at your college about that.</p>
<p>Why are you even in college? I mean, is there a reason other than “it’s what I’m expected to do”? Do you know what you want to do with your life? Maybe the best plan is to drop out now, get a job, and learn a little more about yourself and life before you spend more money on an education you don’t know what to do with. College will always be there when you decide to go back – it’s the one really nice thing about our college system, that you can always go back at any age. </p>
<p>Homework needs to be done for every class. It needs to be done on-time and it needs to be done well and correct. You need to read material ahead, before the lecture, so that you know which questions to ask if you do not understand the lecture and you know that it is not covered in a book. You also need to understand that somebody is paying for your classes. So, stop wasting their money. I do not know how you can get even a B if you do what I said. If you do it, you shoudl have straight As. Your program as well as any UG program does not require any genius or talent or special ability. All you need is to be at the lectures and complete your homework at the hihgest level of your ability. </p>