<p>We had the “if I don’t do X I won’t get into a good college!” conversation with DD over parents weekend. I don’t think it’s really about college at all. What it’s about is being exclusively surrounded by extremely smart and talented people for the first time and wondering what you will or can bring to that. I don’t see this as a downside of boarding school, it’s a part of the adjustment.</p>
<p>What I wonder is how the college pressure for students at boarding schools differs from the college pressure for kids who stay home. I’m not convinced that the kind of parental involvement in the college admissions race that we see today is 100% good. I expect that teachers at boarding school have a better perspective on this than parents, and that one thing that kids have a chance to learn in boarding school is how to make their own choices and understand their own needs. </p>
<p>On the empty nest topic, I’m dreading tomorrow evening when I get home from work and DD is back in school. I miss having her around the house so much. I fully agree with ExieMIT and others that this isn’t a reason to keep a kid from going to boarding school if it’s right for them, but let’s face it, it does kind of suck for us parents.</p>