Wow, this waiting is the worst! All the second guessing and nervousness! But, I just re-read my D’s common app,and it made me so happy. She is wonderful! And if a cold, impersonal, admissions process doesn’t get that – their loss. I’m grateful everyday. Let’s all be HAPPY for our kids! (This from a mother who suggested a Xanex IV line in another post)
It will be ok… this too will pass. Yes, be HAPPY to have great kids.
Regardless of the outcome, try not to take things personally. At some schools, it’s all just a matter of supply/demand. LOTS of fantastic applicants, but limited number of slots. I suspect it causes the admission officers angst to turn down highly qualified students.
Also learn to dissociate yourself from your D. Be sure it is HER moment, not yours when decisions come. Letting go is hard. Be proud of her and stand back on the sidelines. You did your job- and well since you are happy with her application efforts. Our son never did let us read his back in the day.
I hear ya:-) This time last year I was in your shoes. I look back and it was really quite exciting, despite the waiting. March is the worst, because your patience runs thin.
Try to let your D tell you her news in her own time. It’s hard to resist the urge to pester (it was for me, at least), but it’s a big life lesson and I think it’s good for them to deal with rejections or acceptances in their own way. It’s often one of their first true adult experiences.
IMO the most important thing to realize about this process is that while the admissions officers render an admission decision for a particular school they in no way render a verdict about in individual’s value and worth.
Waiting is hard! I started a thread ranting about it, lol. But I do love your attitude. Your daughter will be accepted by a school that wants her just how she is! I do think it can be hard not to take rejections as personal because the application has become so personal - personal essays, interviews…for one school my daughter spent days in a supplemental video about a passion of hers, and boy did it sting when she got denied. But I agree with @happy1 that we shouldn’t perceive an admissions opinion as an opinion of our child’s worth.
Hang in there! Try not to talk about college much. I found it was a relief to stop talking about it once the applications were in. The good news will come!