Fighting with the roomies before I even get there!

<p>Recieved my roomie assignment for my soph year a few days ago and contacted the roomies today. The one girl wasn't around, but the other was. She seemed sweet at first, until we talked about furnishings. First of all, I was shoved into an on campus apartment, a place I didn't want to be because it costs an extra thousand a year to live there and money is a big issue. The problem is I can't exactly afford to furnish an apartment. She wanted to split everything between us all and already had laid out plans as to what each of us would buy. Problem is I can't afford any of it. I'm supposed to buy two carpets, 3 lamps, a toaster, a recliner chair, and a few other things. Even at minimal, and she stated she refuses any cheap crap, that's hundreds of dollars. At this point, I have exactly enough for my books with very little to spare because of having to dish out the extra for the apartments. My parent's are refusing to help at all because those things aren't necessary. I tried to tell her that I would respectively not mooch or use anything she purchased but if she wants those luxuries, she's going to have to purchase them herself. She called me cheap and got angry and asked what I plan to do about the groceries. I told her I had a meal plan and wouldn't be needing any groceries. She hung up on me. </p>

<p>What do I do with this? I called Housing, they overbooked the dorms and it was either stick me in the apartments or not have any housing at all so the only choice I have is to drop housing or wait til after school starts and move around. If she'd been reasonable and understanding, and not demanded I buy new "cool" stuff, i wouldn't be so mad. But I can't just make money appear so I can buy a chair i'm going to use for 9 months and then either have to sell or give away because we have no room for it at home. Any advice on how to soothe the situation, or maybe how to approach the third girl with it.</p>

<p>It's normal to decide to split things and draw up lists, but she can't do everything herself. She sounds spoiled, demanding, and completely unreasonable, and probably destined to have a miserable college experience unless she grows up.</p>

<p>I'm sure others will disagree with this, but I would just show up with my own stuff, wait it out a few months while being perfectly kind to her, and then get a transfer. You have absolutely no reason to furnish her dream dorm for her. If she wants these things, she can get them herself.</p>

<p>Yeah just ignore her dumbass list and buy the things you need. She can't sue you for anything.</p>

<p>Oh wow, she seems like a brat. And that's putting it nicely. Don't waiver to her. She wants a recliner? 3 lamps? Carpet? That's really all luxury items. Just go with what you need and screw them.</p>

<p>spikespet128, I must say that I really feel sorry that you're in this situation. First, does your school furnish the apartment already? Many schools do provide most dining and living furniture with their apartments, and there might be no more room in your apartment for any furniture. I know that my school refuses to remove any furniture provided with each unit.</p>

<p>Second, hope that you will soon get contact with your other roommate. Hopefully, she will be in a similar situation as yours...or at least have a meal plan as well, cuz then 2 people can overpower the 3rd.</p>

<p>In the meantime, just ignore your roommate as everyone else says. :mad:</p>

<p>I agree with the others she sounds spoiled. Go with what you have. It's your place too and you have the right to be comfortable. I would definitely try to get the situation switched ASAP once school starts.</p>

<p>what school do you go to?</p>

<p>What a B****. You should play it like Survivor and make a team with the other roomie...but realistically talk to the other roommate and see what she has to say. If she doesn't have anything good to say contact the housing office at your school.</p>

<p>She basically decided to tell you how to spend your money...screw her</p>

<p>yea really wut school is this!?! You should tell her all the stuff gets ruined anyway by the end of the year...it will have so many stains on it, and will prob be a diff color ;) ahaha so go with the cheap stuff</p>

<p>I'm just wondering: Did she give you the list of everything /she's/ responsible for bringing, plus as estimated total cost of all of that? I guarantee you she's just trying to get you to buy her all the things Mommy and Daddy wouldn't spring for.</p>

<p>A soph who has no sensitivity, respect or caring for your abillity to contribute financially.....what a sorry excuse. I have known plenty of spoiled brats but they didn't expect others to pay for their enjoyment....they just bring too much and want it their way. Asking a roomy to pay is not spoiled it is unreasonable and a sign of lack of ability to pay herself. I hope you don't overextend your budget to gain her approval and why would she ever think you were going to contribute to her food budget???? This could be very intertaining if you have the will to hang back and laugh.....hang tough and she will sizzle.</p>

<p>tell her to go F:::: herself and buyt what you need,</p>

<p>tell her u like wood floors</p>

<p>You're not exactly lucky when it comes to the room situation are you? Like the Veronica person story? Eesh.</p>

<p>Stay the course and don't get engaged in her challenges. I'd recommend ignoring her once you have told her you are "common" buying nothing. It is her problem to adjust to your choices. She can sit on her furniture, on her rug and watch her TV....alone. Be sure to set some boundaries about guests if she over runs your ability to have your own friends over. You can do this.</p>

<p>Ugh, she sounds horrible. I can't imagine that you'd have the bad luck to end up with TWO roommates like that, so your third one will probably be more reasonable and understanding.</p>

<p>The purpose of common buying is to buy something that all the roommates want/need. If she's the only one who wants a recliner, then she should buy it. Tell her that you wont use it if she's buying it, but that you don't want it, so you wont buy it.</p>

<p>I think telling Roomy that you don't want something is avoiding the issue. Not being able to afford and not wanting are separate issues......if your Roomy has any empathy she won't continue to make an issue of shared items once you identify your inability to spend. If she has the financial wherewithal and is a generous person she will then focus the discussions on what you might agree to as far as want....or would use......but be clear that she is buying and owning but will gladly share with you. I see this issue as no different than inviting a friend of limited financial means out to eat.....being clear about the money....perhaps you want to include them, maybe you like their company....kids make generous offers all the time where I am in school....it is not a big issue.</p>

<p>I just have to say that I've been in lots of dorm rooms and apartments in my two years as a college student and I have NEVER seen a freaking recliner...I'm sure someone somewhere has one but it is hardly a necessity. That girl sounds a little off her rocker...no pun intended! ;)</p>

<p>Recliners abounded in my dorm at boarding school and there are some in my dorm at college......used, hand-me-down, serviceable chairs. Hey you can buy a cheap new one for $99......but if you don't have money it matters not. To propose that a roomy pay toward a joint purchase....crap.....buy what you want, share it all and if a roomy offers to split then have the discussion. The offensive part of this discussion is the presumption of split costs. Many dorm rooms have sofas, easy chairs and footstools.....none of this is unusual in my experience.</p>