Hey guys, this is my first post and I just have a lot on my mind. I am currently in the last semester of my community college before I transfer out. I applied to both San Fransisco state university and cal state Fullerton. I am not sure if I will get in yet, However I am just so overwhelmed by the process of transferring. I am constantly checking my student portals for both schools thinking I will miss a simple email and not be accepted. Also, I am an older student (24 years still living at home) and aside from going to school, I work basically full time as a server and am an aspiring amateur boxer. I want to go somewhere new and experience something different. When I got out of high school I was diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression. I was on drugs basically hit rock bottom. However, I have worked hard on coping with my issues and I have literally changed my life. I worry because if I get accepted into SF state (my dream school), I will have to move up there ( I currently live in MV, California). What goes through my head is “how will I find housing?”, What will my loan or potential scholarships cover?",How do I know what classes to choose?" “is it worth it price wise?”, “will I still be able to box?”, "should I just go to CSF because it is cheaper?"I guess i am just looking for some mental relief to calm my brain down lol. If anyone has any tips or experience that can help me chill out it would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much for reading.
It sounds like you are trying to contemplate every possible variable at once. Try to slow yourself down and think one step at a time. You haven’t been accepted yet. You applied to two schools for a reason. Try to reframe your dream school thinking. If you don’t get into your dream school you will be disappointed, but you will survive it. Be excited about both possibilities. Once you get accepted then tackle each need that you will have one at a time. Hang in there. You can do this.
Housing: each campus should have a housing web page detailing options for on-campus housing and information about other housing nearby.
Financial aid: financial aid offer should come with admission offer if you are admitted.
Classes: look up the web site of your major department at the campus, which should have a list of degree requirements and often a road map. This can help you choose the courses you need to complete your major on time.
Boxing: do a web search for “boxing near [campus]” to find opportunities to do boxing.
To give yourself some rest, start researching the answers to your question for the two campuses you applied to. What are the good boxing gyms and coaches near campus, for example? Find out. What’s the housing situation there? Find out. By doing this type of focused research, you’ll channel your anxieties into productive activity, and this can help.
No doubt, each school will pros and cons to it. Do research to channel all this thinking. Make lists. I find that this type of research can really help, because you’re turning the anxiety into a positive - learning and planning for the future.
So start off with the fun stuff - do research on the boxing scene near each school. What are the best gyms? Who are the best coaches? Do the people at your current training facility know boxers or coaches in those two towns? Do the colleges themselves even have teams or gyms or…? Focus on the boxing first, because that’s really something you can control and throw yourself into, research-wise.
You can also research stuff around housing. The schools should have pages on housing, resources for you to talk to, etc. You can learn about all that now.
Then focus on the other stuff as you are able to get info that helps. For example, costs. You won’t know if you can afford the school in SF until you see their aid offer, so table that question for now. Focus on the stuff, like the boxing, that you can control. Channel your anxieties into these things that you can actually research now. You’ll be making positive progress on those things, and it may help you feel less overwhelmed by all this.