<p>On my roommate survey, they asked me things about cleanliness, where I liked to study, how outgoing or reserved I was, when I went to sleep and woke up. Stuff like that.</p>
<p>I’m in a suite, so I have fiveee roomates. We have this huge thread going on FB so we’ve all been talking for the past couple months. They all seem really nice, and look normal enough on Facebook. </p>
<p>I met two of the girls at orientation this month, and the three of us clicked well (: But I have to say that an awkward moment came up when one of them asked if she could bring a stripper pole to the room. I laughed it off at first, but then she just looked at me as if she wanted a serious answer. I had no idea what to say to that, lol.</p>
<p>I don’t think being uncomfortable with a gay roommate is wrong. Some people are morally against it, and that’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with having morals, as long as you aren’t hurting anybody else. I don’t care, I’ve been in locker rooms with lesbians, it doesn’t bother me, but if it bothers someone, they have the right to feel uncomfortable.</p>
<p>^You’re right, they do have a right to feel whatever they want to. The only thing is that occasionally these morals are hurtful to others if they aren’t expressed in a respectful way, especially if the person gets preachy. Happycowlover’s ex-roomie didn’t exactly come across as having a moral high ground; he could have at least phrased it more nicely. </p>
<p>For what it’s worth, i’m a straght girl with a gay guy who is a close friend. To be honest, as a person he’s hilarious and I feel like he’s a lot less judgemental as a friend. However, we’ve been friends since before he ever came out, so I don’t really know if my opinion applies to the “gay best friend” question.</p>
<p>As for the roommates - I’ll be in a triplet and both seem nice so far. One is from France, and she seems really sweet; although we don’t seem to have too much in common I think we’ll get along fine. I met the other, who is from Philly, at a student meet-up and she seemed pretty cool (also, we’re both going to be struggling through Calc II…bonding? Haha). So hopefully, I’ll be fine.</p>
<p>I’m incredibly jealous of people who go to schools that actually try to match you up with someone you have something in common with. Mine just keeps going downhill.</p>
<p>I’ve talked to mine everyday on FB and I quite honestly don’t think I could’ve gotten a worse match. He’s a **<strong><em>bag and a judgemental piece of *</em></strong>, and he already informed me that i’m a ‘■■■’ 3 times and he also asked how much sex I plan to have so that he knows how much he’d have to stay away at night; I had no idea and he used that as the opportunity to reiterate the fact that he will be having LOTS of sex and that he’ll put a tassalin on the door that means “don’t come in.”</p>
<p>And apparently we’re having a “room warming party” the first night of welcome week and he has atleast 10 people he knew from high school coming. He spoke of a beer bong being present so I’ll be glad to see him get caught with it and kicked out of the dorms.</p>
<p>Except he seems to have girls around alot based on his pictures, so that might make up for everything a little haha</p>
<p>^i feel bad for you. thats the worst kind of roommate it seems like, besides ones with extremely abnormal habits. idk hopefully hes kinda a nice guy hes just joking around when he calls you a ■■■. although a beer bong isnt enough to get kicked out. do u have friends that u know at IU? if i was u i would invite them or do something with them the first night.
“Except he seems to have girls around alot based on his pictures, so that might make up for everything a little hah”
ha, that kind of guy would post like every pic of him with a girl though, and the kind of girls that like those kind of guys are usually obnoxious.</p>
<p>Some of ya’ll play the “OMG! Homophobia!” card a bit early, frankly. Being uncomfortable with a gay roommate, and equating that with an irrational hatred of gays, is a bit of a stretch. Particularly in my case, since I worked on an election campaign in 2008 to elect the first publicly gay Congressman :(</p>
<p>Don’t pretend that sexuality is the same thing as race, either. You’re talking apples and oranges here.</p>
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<p>I’m not sure who said that. I specifically said this wasn’t the case.</p>
<p>“The only thing is that occasionally these morals are hurtful to others if they aren’t expressed in a respectful way, especially if the person gets preachy.”</p>
<p>I think that applies to a lot of roommate issues, not just sexuality. People shouldn’t go out of their way to be polite. No, they shouldn’t call someone a whatever name, but they shouldn’t have to go out of their way to be nice about it. They don’t need to say anything at all, either way. I would think if someone is strongly opposed to homosexuality, they would just switch rooms. I’m sure housing would accomadate a request like that, because someone could use religion as a reason. If it bothered me a lot, I would switch roommates. It’s fine to be uncomfortable with it and remove yourself from that situation. I don’t like the idea some people have that everyone needs to be accepting about it, because a lot of people and socities consider it wrong, and calling their beliefs intolerant or homophobic is actually intolerant and ignorant. I don’t like how people call others homophobic for saying gay people make them uncomfortable or they don’t agree with it. The people preaching to others about being close minded should try being as tolerant as they want everyone else to be.</p>
<p>You should preach tolerance and acceptance. Homosexuality isn’t harming anyone or anything. What kind of world would we live in if it was okay to judge other people? With what you’re saying, almost any type of belief could be justified if religion is used to back it up.</p>
<p>Shoving your head in the sand when it comes to homosexuality will not prepare you for the real world. What are you gonna do if you have a gay co-worker or gay neighbor? Quit on the spot? Move immediately? You can’t run away from people that’s different than you your whole life.</p>
<p>Me being gay won’t harm my roommate or get in the way of studying. And my college stated that it doesn’t room based on religion anyway.</p>
<p>College is a learning experience, both in and out of the classroom.</p>
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<p>That was directed at cross0328. Not you.</p>
<p>Anyway, if one is uncomfortable, they should be able to get out of their comfort zone! They’ll have to eventually! I always see people on here preaching to kids who state how they don’t like to party to get out of their comfort zone and drink/smoke/party/whatever. Why can’t you give that same advice about being able to get out of your comfort zone and get to know another human being?!</p>
<p>Plus the reasons that people state for being uncomfortable living around a homosexual are rather silly. “Undressing with him in the room”? Being scared that he’s “attracted to you”.</p>
<p>There are few things in life that I was uncomfortable with, but you know what – tough! I learned to overcome them because I can’t live my life feeling awkward around people or little situations.</p>
<p>This is to no one specific but … whatever floats your boat. I still think it’s a learning experience that you would miss out on. If you feel like rooming with someone who is homosexual makes you feel uncomfortable, I’m sorry you feel that way. I hope you are comfortable being in social situations with them. Sometimes you don’t even know whether that person is gay or not.</p>
<p>Guys, this is supposed to be a thread about your first imperssion of your roommate; not a debate thread about homophobia/homosexual people.</p>
<p>Edit: My first post count. Woooo! Kay, yeah.</p>
<p>Why not just fly solo?</p>
<p>^Was that directed towards me?</p>
<p>I don’t think I have that option. Maybe I will if he does change. He has to pay $100 and have a written excuse for his desire to change.</p>
<p>Cowlover, it was directed toward the participants at large. It seems that 99% of these problems would evaporate if we just kept to ourselves.</p>
<p>That said, I am thawing half a pound of ground beef for dinner as I type :D</p>
<p>I’m really nervous…I’m a freshman and never had a roommate before. I’m going to have two this year (I wanted it, so I could get a discount on the room), and I’ve tried to message both of them, but neither one seems that interested in getting to know one another. I was really hoping to become friends with my roommates, so I’m a little disappointed.</p>
<p>And since everyone seems to be talking about it…I’m gay, and have been really open about it throughout high school. I added my roommates on facebook, so if they read my info they would know the gender that Im “interested in”, but I haven’t actually said anything. I would understand if they are a little uncomfortable at first, but I’m not “in your face” with it at all, and I’m wondering how I should go about talking to them about it. I mean, of course I dont have to go up and tell anyone, but I also dont want to offend them by not saying anything.</p>
<p>SnappleSpice - If I was in your roommate’s position, I would probably want you to be honest about it, but I personally don’t feel that you need to tell them right away. In fact, it might be better if you can tell them in person, when you meet them, just because I feel like topics like that are better discussed face to face.</p>
<p>I don’t know who my roommate is is yet. Mine decided to switch to live with someone else. So I’m just hoping I can at least get someone clean and organized. There’s the thread if anyone feels like reading it. </p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/977877-did-i-do-right-thing.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/977877-did-i-do-right-thing.html</a></p>
<p>So not knowing whats going to happen I just hope it all works out by first semester for me. Personally I would except anyone as a room mate as long as their at least half serious about college.</p>
<p>I have a single with a private bath and air conditioning. I’m a freshman, but I was placed in graduate student dorms. My entire floor is all freshmen (who all have the same type of room), but the other floors are non-freshmen. It’s the best of all worlds.</p>
<h2>I have a single with a private bath and air conditioning. I’m a freshman, but I was placed in graduate student dorms. My entire floor is all freshmen (who all have the same type of room), but the other floors are non-freshmen. It’s the best of all worlds.</h2>
<p>lol, ***? private bath and air conditioning as a freshman? hahaha.</p>
<p>i facebooked my roommate, I can’t really tell what she’s like or what she’s into. it’s art and design school, so she’ll probably be into art and design like i am, which is good. as long as my roommate isn’t a complete jerk who wants to intentionally hurt me, or tries to convert me, or hides hardcore drugs in our room, i can’t see having much of a problem. i’m extremely messy and loud, but i’m willing to keep my side of the room clean and be a bit quieter in my room if it’s a big deal.</p>
<p>I’m in an eight-person suite, that has four double bedrooms, so although I’ve obviously only got one roommate, I’ve got six other ‘suite mates’!</p>
<p>The eight of us will be sharing a kitchenette area, a common living area and a double facility bathroom.</p>
<p>All eight of us have been in touch with each other via e-mail and social networking sites and I’m really looking forward to meeting them in person.</p>
<p>My actual roommate seems really nice. We haven’t got tons of things in common, but both of us have said we like that, because we see college as a chance to meet different types of people and perhaps discover new interests.</p>
<p>One of my ‘suite mates’ has quite a few similar interests to me, and we like all the same bands, and she has already declared us ‘gig buddies’.</p>
<p>Roll on next week, when we’ll all finally meet!</p>