<p>As a person who worked with social worker for 6 years, I really want to say many kids actually have potential in their study. The fact is that they don’t know how to deal with problem they face in the new environment (changes, friendship, time-planning, etc). </p>
<p>We encounter some cases which students did badly in the academic result, they tried very hard to improve but due to lack of time (low-income families). They are afraid to tell their parents about their case. </p>
<p>Such problems are likely to be seen in October ~ February, it’s because so actually maintain to hide the bombs in the 1st seminar. As a graduate of one of the few “mature students”, I know how is like when realizing the study is tough, it took me about 2 months to find the right study method while maintaining my jobs in the morning. I took all my lessons in the afternoons, I had no choice but to plan a 6 days school life as I need to balance my work and my study. I gradate from high school in 19, and have my first foot in university in 28. </p>
<p>I came from a low-income family, my parents were too old to find job, so I went to work after I graduate in high school due to the poor result in the public exams ( even though I did very good in my high schools tests). What I am about to point out is that don’t let a problem be another problem! </p>
<p>E.g.1: no money goes to work, work no time to study, stop working no money, no money feel guilty.
E.g.2: choose a choice because of interest it was something you haven’t expected, having lack of knowledge work hard to learn, work hard to learn result still not improve, poor result feel guilty.</p>
<p>The examples may sound ridiculous for many parents, but to be honest many kids are facing similar situations. It’s tough for them as school won’t teach them how to handle problems when they are in middle of the road. Having lack of experience, and confidence, support from his/ her trusts, family, it’s likely to see them come up problem inside a problem. </p>
<p>For students, please don’t feel guilty or shame to tell your parents or trusts when you start to encounter problems. People experienced different in life, some of you might think “My parents are low educated, they won’t help me much”, but the fact is that they experienced more in the society, some might have larger group of friends who might help. A real case is mum A asks her friends mum B, C, D for help and advices for her daughter’s study. Unfortunately, none of them can help. Mum B, C, D went to ask for help from their friends. Luckily, mum G is willing to ask her kids to help and provide free tutor lesson for mum A, mum A’s daughter start to improve her study with the new methods of study she learnt from past graduate. </p>
<p>Parents are always willing to do things beyond your imagination when it comes to their own child. Therefore, give it a try, I know it’s hard. To some of you it might be little but that little something might just be the fuel for your engine. Especially for the lazy students, if you won’t learn from your parents’ tears, then I have nothing to say…(I have seen many commit in crimes in ages before 16, even though people gave them chances. They don’t treasure it, believing they can’t make “THAT” difference in people’s eyes, believing a bad person will never be able to step back but that is wrong, there are people out there who are willing to help, you folks just needs to find them and show them your willingness to make that difference!)</p>
<p>As for parents, I suggest keeping conversation with your kids once they step in the college. Of course show them your concern in their study and school life. Let them know you are doing it for good if he / she is relatively strong and independent because for those who are indoor and shy, I believe most parents would have start family discussion in their childhood.</p>
<p>Try saying something to show them your care, and let them know how important your cares are when they start encountering problems in school.</p>
<p>E.g.1:
“Son, you will to studying in college in September remember one thing “we” are always there for you when you need us, call us or tell us about your problem in schools when you have tough time.”</p>
<p>E.g.2:
“It’s a new world in college, remember to learn and ask for helps when you need it. We just want to let you know no matter how old you are, you are always our son. We will always be there when you need us, and we treasure you as much as you treasure us, so talk with us when you want to share your joy and depress.” </p>
<p>I only pointed out these points because kids nowadays are quite different from the past. You can hardly find one who says he / she don’t like playing computer or phone. Some of them haven’t experience how the life is in the 60~80s, even if parents are willing to share their memories, they might just don’t see that big difference and learn to treasure their chance in their own hands.</p>
<p>I am not saying these to minimize my work, I choose to work in committee service to help those who are in need, sharing my stories to let them know don’t make “THAT” first wrong step, even if they are lack of support, there are people out there sharing the same or similar experience. So like I always say, feel free to speak. If there are problems, don’t let them be there. The best way is to talk to the ones you trust, I don’t want to be the only one you trust, so remember to open up your heart, there are people out there who care you little kids, you just don’t know it…</p>