<p>On the school applications it asks is you have had problems with the school or have been suspended etc.</p>
<p>I have been suspended but it was for a incorrectly understood situation</p>
<p>I was the new girl and my school is very small so everyone knew who I was. People were interested in me and wanted to get me better. Therefore, my popularity grew, I made many friends, and little did I know that I had an envious peer, <strong><em>. A few weeks into the semester this guy had a crush on me and supposedly the word spread around and got to _</em></strong> who had a crush on that guy. ( I had no idea) I had thought __ was my friend and trusted her because she was "nice." She had joked around with me about a rap song she wrote about "black and white" people. It was the day before "it" happened</p>
<p>One day I came into school finding ____ and her dad in the office I thought nothing of it. Then the principal called me to his office. He said that ____
told him that I had called ____ the "n" word and acted racist towards her. She had brought her father into it to make it seem more serious. I was appalled, I am also a minnority and have no reason to be racist. I tried to explain to the principal what happened but he did not believe me. Then ___ gave me a note that the principal saw and asked if I could bring it to him. It read" You try to hard and thats why you have no friends." The councelor and principal saw this as encouragement and advice! So I was senteced in school suspension. After the decision was made she smiled and told everyone in the school that i called her the "n" word, especially the guy who had a crush on me. She had always tried to make him not like me.
Later I found out that the principal had a bad reputation about being bias towards new kids from public school and gave them a harder time. Because of that one girl's jealousy and hate it has made my emotional, social, and academic life harder.</p>
<p>Should I include this and explain because they are going to get my transcripts and see that I had Iss.
Help please! Thank you</p>
<p>I normally wouldn’t post here. But, I think the school you applied to would trust the school over the student. Regardless of the situation. It will definitely hurt you.</p>
<p>The school will be sending your records to the school as part of your application. You’re correct in assuming that, in all likelihood, those records will mention an in-school suspension. Whether there are details included, one can only guess without asking the school directly.</p>
<p>As you’ve noted, boarding school applications typically ask if you’ve been suspended, etc. and then request the details from you. If you say, “No, I haven’t been suspended,” the odds are high that your lie will be exposed. I expect that will have a direct effect on your admission outcomes.</p>
<p>If you say, “Yes,” you still owe an explanation. There’s only one thing to do and to explain the circumstances…preferably without bogging us down with a conspiracy in which you were deliberately framed and the school railroaded you on top of that because they had it out for you. You should speak with some adults about the best way to approach your disclosure so that it won’t make an admission committee think, “Wow…that’s just a weird situation and let’s move on and look at other applicants whose files don’t make us sort through confusing fact patterns and rule on ‘he said/she said’ allegations with only a small piece of an apparently complicated story.” There are just way too many other applicants out there who are unburdened by this for you to think that an admission committee is going to try to sort this all out. Don’t ask them to try to decide anything. Be as matter-of-fact and forthright as possible.</p>
<p>You (meaning one of your parents) can also consider speaking with the school to come up with an agreed-upon statement of the situation. Remember, even if the school chooses not to disclose this, if your application asks the question you must answer it honestly. Whether the school reports it, you were suspended. There’s just one answer to the question. How you explain the details is subject to wide latitude…but it, too, must have the truth as the centerline. I believe the more you state facts and the less you engage in opinions (such as the principal being out to ‘get’ new public school students), the better off you will be.</p>
<p>I’m pretty sure this will be a big hurdle. I feel sorry that that’s the case, especially if everything happened exactly as you describe for the reasons you describe. But you won’t help your cause by lying and I don’t think an explanation of the events should be viewed as a chance to “appeal” the principal’s decision to an admission committee.</p>
<p>Dyer’s advice is sound. In addition, you have a legal right to view your school records. I would suggest you (meaning your parents) exercise this right in advance of application to boarding schools and even tell the headmaster of your reason for wanting to view your file. There is a way to do this that is not adversarial.</p>
<p>Your parents should be able to help you with this. If the contents of your file are negative and in your opinion, are not reflective of the facts, try to get the school to work with you to amend this. If they won’t, you may need an attorney to intervene. None of this is good for your future application, but it doesn’t necessarily sound a death knell either.</p>
<p>Just proceed with caution and keep your mouth shut about the entire BS process when when it comes to your friends!</p>