for those who lost hope?

<p>ya I'm not holding my breath any longer. Now I can't wait to get my rejection from Harvard after that brutal deferral. Anyone feeling the same? Hopeless?</p>

<p>I was feling hopeless, but I finally realized that this stuff doesn't define who I am and I don't want to be one of those suckers who "paid for the name" so to speak. I love my safeties and I am tired of being inundated with all of this "dream school" stuff. It was fine before but now reality is setting in and even if I do get in, how will I afford it? I have a sizable trust fund but I think it would barely cover such an expensive education and I want a little something left for grad school. Beyond that, I love my parents and my home and I don't want to travel thousands of miles away from my support system because it is my friends and family that I owe my success to in the first place. It would be nice to get accepted, but my LAC is sounding nicer each day.</p>

<p>yeah the deferral was brutal. and yeah I feel 'hopeless' too in the sense that I know I'm getting a rejection email on April 1, one that I richly deserve because i didnt give the H app the time and attention it deserved...I'm reading the essay i submitted and cringing in horror!
But that's OK because I'm blatantly unfaithful to my first love anyway:p</p>

<p>Hey, let's see what happens! Who knows? They can't only pick kids who have won INTEL, you know.</p>

<p>I have no intentions of getting my hopes up anytime soon...</p>

<p>i'm so sporadic lately...</p>

<p>It's over for me too. My friends are having a Spring Party on March 31st, and I don't know if I can enjoy myself if I get a rejection letter by e-mail at 5:00 P.M. It really doesn't define who I am, but it is something I want. I don't think I can really compare with other applicants, but we'll see what happens!</p>

<p>Some of you guys depress me... :(</p>

<p>Your future does not depend on Harvard! Be happy for what you have already achieved, and look forward to all the acceptances you will receive come April. Don't even think about Harvard. Maybe a pleasant surprise will sneak up on you, and if not, life will go on at another equally great school. But there's no reason to lose faith and sleep.</p>

<p>"This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it." - Psalm 118:24
One of my favorite Bible verses. It reminds me that no matter what is going on in my life, I still have so much to be thankful for. I should appreciate the mere fact that I am alive and able to see a brand new day with new opportunities and experiences around the corner.</p>

<p>I'm so optimistically sappy and idealistic...but hey, someone's got to be.</p>

<p>thanks mack</p>

<p>"So do not worry about tomorrow: Tomorrow will take care of itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own"</p>

<p>o, come on fellow deferree's....</p>

<p>no one ever got anywhere by feeling sorry for themself...you wanna get into Harvard? Flood them with letters, recs, essays, etc...DO SOMETHING! The last thing we need is pity.......I don't remember seeing pity as a good strategy for "deferral-reversal." </p>

<p>After being deferred, I still remain overly optimistic about my chances. I don't buy the whole fall in love with your safety school garbage. We're Harvard applicants, damnit! I don't care who argues otherwise, we had the guts to apply to the best damn school in the country, the one with the lowest acceptance rate, the strongest applicant pool- and the highest yield. What's that tell you??? We already displayed a huge example of freakish self confidence by going out on a limb and taking the time to apply. Every one of us on this Harvard board who applied wants to get in, but what separates those who get in and those who get left on the wait list, is the simple combination of wanting it enough, and doing what you have to do to get it. You want to get in, show me with your actions- not your words. Stay up a little extra studying for that test...turn that TV off a bit sooner and hit those SAT Vocab flashcards...stop chatting on useless college discussion forums, and perfect your deferral-reversal letter :D</p>

<p>I don't wanna sound like I'm preaching, I know I've had my moments of insecurity and doubt. But take it from someone whose in the same shoes you're in- there IS a chance for deferred kids like you and me. Don't look at all the numbers and get discouraged...learn to walk by faith, not by sight. Sight shows you that 23,000 amazing applicants have applied to the same school you have, but faith shows you that the only number that matters is 1- the number of slots necessary for you. I have nothing but faith that each and every one of us who actually WANTS Harvard bad enough, and does the work necessary- will get in come April. The fools can wait till the second to do their work, because April 1st will be known as our day, the day we were accepted by Harvard.</p>

<p>there is always hope.</p>

<p>though the admission decision doesn't define who you are, it certainly wiill shape who you will be..
i lost my hope too......especailly after my interview</p>

<p>ha, i haven't got my interview yet...</p>

<p>uh....did you or didn't you?</p>

<p>Take it from a forty-something-year-old: seventeen is too young an age for feeling hopeless. You all have a lot of life ahead, and you will find many interesting things to do wherever you go to school.</p>

<p>i didn't. i will have my interview on march 2nd. <em>sorry, i got too many interviews this month that i forgot which is which.</em></p>

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The last thing we need is pity.......I don't remember seeing pity as a good strategy for "deferral-reversal."

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<p>Pity was definitely not my deferral reversal strategy- I sent in quite a lot of other stuff and put in my best...but I'm still braced for the disappointment of 31st March
And I didn't even have an interview first time round and theres no chance I'll have one this time either...even if I got a call I'd have to say no</p>

<p>for those of you who think that getting into harvard was the sole aim of your education-you don't deserve Harvard.
Harvard should just be a place you pass through in your intellectual journey.</p>

<p>If you're changed by Harvard's deferral, rejection or acceptance, you really don't have what it takes to be a student there. </p>

<p>Straighten yourself up and apply there for grad school.</p>

<p>"for those of you who think that getting into harvard was the sole aim of your education-you don't deserve Harvard. Harvard should just be a place you pass through in your intellectual journey."</p>

<p>I don't think any of us dedicated our high schol career to getting into a certain school, in this case Harvard. Yes it'd be great if I did get in, but you're right, it's not the sole aim of education and it should never be. I simply stated that I no longer has any hope on my Harvard's acceptance because right now. That doesn't implied that I worked my life to get into Harvard.</p>

<p>Even though we know that there's still so much more besides Harvard, I'll still be disappointed in myself. I mean, I try to tell myself that I don't care, but it's hard! Theoretically, if I get into a school like Stanford I want to be even more happy and not care about Harvard, although I doubt that'll be the case.
I try to tell myself that it doesn't matter, and that I shouldn't get my hopes up, but it won't work cuz I know there's still some hope. </p>

<p>I try to keep my mind off Harvard.......................obviously thats not working right now =)</p>