Totally agree with wayneandgarth.
Certain areas of business (e.g. investment banking and management consulting) are extremely prestige-oriented and Ross is on a very short list of places outside of the Ivy/Ivy-equivalents that are targets for such areas. The other schools that you’ve listed simply aren’t on that list (even if you managed to get into honors-type programs there). As a result, from a professional and academic perspective, Ross is clearly the best of your choices by the far and over 55% of the undergrads in that school there are paying out-of-state tuition for the privilege and advantages of being there. The fact that you would be able to get all of that at an in-state tuition price is arguably one of the best returns on investment that you could receive on a college degree from ANYWHERE in the country.
While I sympathize with the desire to get out-of-state, I think one of the biggest mistakes that I see with high school students is getting worried about how “too many of my classmates” are going to a certain school (such as their home state flagship) and then bypassing what might be a better academic choice (and very often a better financial choice). Take it from someone that went to my in-state Big Ten flagship and had over 80 people from my high school class come with me at the same time: I never saw ANY of those people unless I actually proactively wanted to do so since the student population alone is the size of a good-sized city. Michigan has an even larger out-of-state student population and Ross specifically actually has a majority of its students from out-of-state (as noted above), so it’s one of the most nationalized student bodies that you’ll see at any public university. Once you get on campus, it IS going to be very much a bubble that will make that 20 mile distance from home feel like it’s 2000 miles (especially in a place with as many amenities as Ann Arbor). On the flip side, the other public flagships that you’re looking generally have 80%-90% in-state students with all having higher in-state enrollment percentages than Michigan, so you’d be on the opposite side where it may feel like everyone is from the same handful of towns that you have no association with.
Finally, it would be different if you were comparing Michigan to a school like, say, Duke or Emory that is substantially different in terms of size or character. In those instances, I could see where school fit becomes more important. However, you’re looking at other out-of-state flagships that aren’t going to feel much different than Michigan in terms of size and culture (outside of Ann Arbor having a much more intellectual atmosphere compared to those other choices).
As a result, this seems to be more of an emotional choice of wanting to get away for the sake of getting away. I also see that your family all appear to be Wolverines, so this might be a case of wanting to forge a separate identity and using a different college choice to do so. Those are all valid emotions and feelings.
However, as hard as it might be, just picture where you actually want to be in 4 years. Going to Ross is one of the few places outside of the Ivy League and Ivy-equivalents that will allow you to work in every place in the country and you don’t have to worry about being in the top 1% of your class to get there. Wall Street hoovers up Ross grads and, to the extent that they don’t go to Wall Street, they get hired en masse in places like Chicago, Silicon Valley and pretty much every Fortune 500 company anywhere. The other schools on your list are significantly more regionalized… and that matters a ton in the business arena. If you were looking to be an engineer or wanted to head into a profession that required more schooling (such as medicine or law), then sure, taking lower tuition at a lower-ranked school could make a lot of sense. That’s not the case with the business field, though. Prestige rules in the particular area that you’re looking at and there really is a huge difference between the opportunities that would be open to you at Ross compared to everywhere else.
That’s all just my opinion based on what you’ve written here. No matter what, good luck to you on your decision.