<p>Agree. It is really eclectic. Except for the parts that aren’t. :)</p>
<p>“He lives in a a community that is predominantly religious conservative. He has never felt comfortable letting people know that he is gay… He has shared stories of being rejected by others in his community.”</p>
<p>First you start off with an unfair characterization of religious conservatives as being intolerant, and then you say that your relative has never told anyone he is gay but has been rejected because he is gay"</p>
<p>Huh?</p>
<p>sally305, no need to name call.</p>
<p>You think “gender neutral” dorms are a swell idea, and I don’t. And as I said, what consenting adults do in their bedrooms is there own business, and frankly I could care less. No homophobia or prurient interest here.</p>
<p>riprorin, why are you even participating in this thread? Are you helping the OP at all? You have spent the better part of the day chiming in with your critical and distracting little innuendoes on a subject that is deeply personal to the OP and her child, as well as many other people who have taken the time to write. </p>
<p>Also, if you don’t want to be called names, don’t do it yourself (“libbies”). I’ve seen you bait conversations on this site before. Isn’t there a game on or something?</p>
<p>Using a political label is name calling on par with calling someone a homophobe, or saying that they look at the world through a “prurient lens”? I don’t think so.</p>
<p>If the topic is so deeply personal, perhaps it shouldn’t be on a public forum.</p>
<p>What is a “gay friendly” college anyway and how can anyone answer this question? On any college campus with thousands or ten of thousands of students, you are going to find hateful people that you are best off trying to avoid.</p>
<p>And how do you know I’m even a football fan?</p>
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<p>Why yes, now that you ask, you are completely wrong. Otherwise, we could never talk about the sexual orientation of virgins. But we can. I can assure you that the children of the posters posting here knew their sexual orientation well before they began having sex, if they have begun. (I suspect my son, who is definitely straight, is backward in this area.)</p>
<p>Definition of HOMOSEXUAL</p>
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: of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward another of the same sex
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: of, relating to, or involving sexual intercourse between persons of the same sex</p>
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<p>So, nothing about sexual practices at all. I don’t know about you, but I do not think about the sexual practices of someone when I meet them or when I get to know them. That’s way TMI for me! When I see a happy couple, gay or straight, I don’t think about what they do in the bedroom. I think it’s sort of creepy for someone’s mind to run that way, in fact.</p>
<p>Dear god, can’t you please let it go? And BTW I was not the one who described your interest in this topic as “prurient,” even though I think it’s a pretty apt description.</p>
<p>A statement or joke that suggests that college students who are housemates or dormmates or roommates are going to make sexual advances to one another by virtue of that living arrangement, expresses a prurient view of that that living arrangement.</p>
<p>Remember what I said about the direction this thread would go in on the third page? This is what I was talking about.</p>
<p>Congratulations, riprorin (and, to a lesser extent, the others in this forum). You’ve managed to turn a perfectly legitimate thread written by a concerned mother into an awkward and ultimately unhepful display of senseless bickering. Can we please drop the subject and get back to helping the woman find appropriate schools for her son?</p>
<p>I’ll repeat what I said since you seem to have missed it:</p>
<p>What is a “gay friendly” college anyway and how can anyone answer this question? On any college campus with thousands or ten of thousands of students, you are going to find hateful people that you are best off trying to avoid.</p>
<p>As far as I know, there are no exclusively gay colleges. If there is a compelling need, and there’s a business case for it, a smart entrepreneur should start one.</p>
<p>One thing the OP’s son may want to look at is where kids from these schools tend to settle after graduation and then look at the gay friendliness or lack thereof of state policies in those places. Campus culture matters but so does life off campus and beyond graduation.</p>
<p>The OP hasn’t been back to the thread since yesterday. I think people have given a lot of good advice–look for LGBTQ support groups on campus, seek out colleges known for their tolerance, don’t write off an entire region of the country just because of stereotypes, and consider housing that might make some of the potential roommate issues less likely.</p>
<p>If the OP’s son’s top choice is University of Miami, and he is fortunate enough to get in and be able to go, he should feel very comfortable. The student body is liberal and diverse and he’d be close to fun, sophisticated areas such as Coral Gables and Coconut Grove.</p>
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<p>Just go back and look at some of your old posts where you talk about watching football.</p>
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<p>I totally agree with this.</p>
<p>“What is a “gay friendly” college anyway and how can anyone answer this question?”</p>
<p>Campus Pride has an index. Colleges must meet certain criteria set by that organization.</p>
<p>[Campus</a> Pride: Find Your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Friendly College or University](<a href=“http://www.campusprideindex.org/default.aspx]Campus”>http://www.campusprideindex.org/default.aspx)</p>
<p>The first factor in the assessment is LGBT Policy Inclusion.</p>
<p>Two guys in my dorm in college were best friends. One was about 6’4" 220 and the other one was 5’9" and pudgy. While they were both drunk, the pudgy guy challenged the big guy to punch him in the face. The big guy obliged, several times. I’m sure that there was a written policy that that was not acceptable behavior. That didn’t stop the pudgy guy from getting about 30 stitches to close the wounds on his face. I was in school 30 years ago, but I’m sure that idiotic things still happen on college campuses, and having written policies won’t stop them.</p>
<p>I wish the OP and her son well. He may want to get a single or find a gay roommate, and from my experience, college is a lot more enjoyable once you find a group of friends.</p>
<p>You seem to be implying that is the only way a gay kid can find friends and happiness in college (via a single room or with other gay kids). I sure don’t believe this. But you have been attempting to derail this thread for several pages, so I guess I should not be surprised that you would say something this silly.</p>