<p>My girlfriend and I have been together for six months now and by chance we are going to the same school. She choose it for the acedemics and I choose it for sports. I have been reading The Naked Roomate by Harlen Cohen but that book doesn't help me with this. Should I break up with my girlfriend? I dont know if there will be enough time for me to spend with her because of school, sports and work. Please help me out.</p>
<p>Don't break up with her. Let it play out on it's own. I went to the same school as my gf of 2 yrs and we broke up after about six months in college. But I do know several guys that ended up marrying their hs gf also. So my advice, just let it happen, but don't stop doing something you want to do. Leave the college experience to its fullest, those will be the best memories of your life.</p>
<p>As long as you both make other friends and have your own hobbies/activities, I don't think you should break up just because you are going to the same school. If there are other reasons, then sure. Just let it play out and have a good time! Have you talked to her about your feelings?</p>
<p>You might not want to live really close though...like the same floor of the building might be bad. A different building or a few floors away would give you your own space, and if you broke up it would be better. Also, you're still close enough to hang out.</p>
<p>dont break up with her right away, with you two goign to the same school it gives a better chance of the relationship surviving. dont become attatched at the hip.. try to create seperate lives/friends/activities because things could get ugly if you guys broke up. my cousin went to the same college as his girlfriend and it was miserable for him there after they broke up for a while because they would see eachother at parties and run into eachother.</p>
<p>college is a big change regardless. make sure your understanding to the new lifestyle you and her are both going to be living. many hs couples break up in college.. if you chill and take things as they come you could be one that stays together. id say give it a change because you never know waht can happen</p>
<p>My brother and his girlfriend went to the same school. They graduated and are now engaged. </p>
<p>Unless you have a reason to break up with her (you want to date other people in college) then don't. See what happens.</p>
<p>Naked Roomate? whats it about.
just do it, but remember you are going to school for your education first most. if somehow you guys dont work it out, then it wasnt meant to be. and six months just doesnt seem like a long enough time to gauge the long term yet.</p>
<p>I have that book :)</p>
<p>Anyway, I agree with everyone else saying to just see where it goes unless you actually want to break up with her.</p>
<p>whats the book about!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!</p>
<p>It's just an advice-type book for a lot of the common issues that come up in the first year (and beyond, really) of college. A friend of mine who's a year ahead of me in school gave it to me as part of my HS graduation gift. It's actually a pretty good book, if you're interested:</p>
<p>...and apparently there's an updated one out now. I have no idea what the new stuff in it is about, but here's the link to it as well:</p>
<p>I second what many people have already said. Don't cling to each other - make separate lives with separate friends (or if you share friends, please don't be that couple that coos in the corner at dinner in front of everyone - ick!). Take it on a day-by-day basis, and perhaps have a discussion (before leaving) about 'what if one of us meets someone else' - it may come up, or it may never happen. Make sure one of you doesn't become the type that wants to know EVERYTHING about what the other is doing - college is about personal growth, and you need to support each other. Also, please don't live in the same floor - or even dorm, if you can help it. This will help you meet other people, and create those separate identities.
On the bright side, please appreciate the fact that if you need to do lunch together, you can. Those of us in the long-distance boat hate you for it, so enjoy it. :)</p>
<p>seriously they couldnt make a better cover? thats gotta be awkward to be reading anywhere.</p>
<p>Haha, but if you are reading it in public sometimes random people come up and start talking to you cause they want to know what you're reading. Not as bad as if you have an engineering project sitting on your lunch table (seriously, the older engineering folks were swarming like buzzards and we had at least ten people come up and talk to us about it), but you still might get a few overly-curious and really funny people with that title/cover.</p>
<p>Don't break up, try to make it work and if your grades start slipping then break up with her.</p>
<p>thanks</p>