<p>Curious to see if these opinions are similar to the guys'.</p>
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<p>Short of not marrying at all, that’s the only option. :D</p>
<p>Seriously, though…I don’t plan to get married, but I’d probably prefer someone slightly dumber than me if I did. And I’ll freely admit this is because I have an inferiority complex re: my intelligence. </p>
<p>I don’t care about money.</p>
<p>Ahahahaha lol. Nice sister thread.</p>
<p>And yeah, of course I would. But if the difference is substantial (e.g. if the guy’s jobless or earns little to no money), he’ll obviously have to contribute in other ways – he’ll have to do most, if not all, of the housework, busywork, childcare (if we have kids), etc.</p>
<p>As long as ‘dumber’ doesn’t represent too big a gap… Money doesn’t really matter.</p>
<p>I don’t know if you can measure it sufficiently well, but you’d have to figure that most marriages have one person smarter than the other, although the “rounding error” might be greater than the difference. Maybe it’s my orientation talking, but my guess is that more than half of the time, the woman is smarter than the man :-)</p>
<p>In my case, my first wife was dumber than me, and my second and permanent wife is much smarter than me. Her decision to marry beneath her is probably the only mistake she’s ever made :-)</p>
<p>FWIW, I became a stay-at-home-Dad and very much enjoy it, and my wife’s career has done well because she doesn’t have to worry that the kids are being short-changed.</p>
<p>Well, I wouldn’t want too big of a gap because I would like to still be able to have intelligent conversations. </p>
<p>If that is possible I wouldn’t even consider not marrying for that reason. </p>
<p>Money doesn’t matter, one of us is going to make more than the other either way.</p>
<p>Yes, definitely, but I mean, I wouldn’t want to marry someone who didn’t value education at all and was really stupid and what not. </p>
<p>As far as money, yea I would have no problem making more than him.</p>
<p>I’m not so sure I’d marry at all, but I guess I’d be more willing if I were to be with someone who really really clicks with me and wouldn’t mind being child-free. I really don’t think I could marry someone who’s dumber than me, though, since I would just inevitably become really impatient and frustrated. I’d really like someone who’s my equal and always wants to learn more things, and who also helps me learn more (we could learn from each other). Same if they didn’t value education… I don’t think I could even date someone like that. (A friend wanted to ask me out a few months ago, and I like his personality and he seems intelligent, but I just can’t stand how he doesn’t care much about academics/he’s lazy about it, so I said I couldn’t do it.)</p>
<p>I wouldn’t mind making more than him, I think.</p>
<p>They have to value education and I would like them to be driven and have a passion. Meaning, if they’re unemployed and not trying to get a job or anything I’m not interested also, if they’re in a job they don’t really like and would rather be doing their passion, I would wanna see them pursuing their passion. I would like to be equal with partner in terms of intelligence because then I’m bored or if they’re smarter than me I don’t want them to patronize me and feel like they’re better me. I also like if maybe we’re smarter in different subjects or topics than the other is, if that makes sense.</p>
<p>Hm, I think intelligence-wise, they need to at least be at my level. I’d like to have intelligent conversations with my future spouse lol. For the money… It’s not a big deal if he makes less, but it would be nice if he makes a good amount (mostly for financial security. Like, if I lose my job, he should be able to support us both).</p>
<p>Question: what do people mean when they say they want to be able to have intelligent conversations with their partner? What kind of conversation would this be?</p>
<p>I think it’s kind of about the depth of analysis and understanding that goes into a comment. Like, “Syria is bad” VS “The use of chemical weapons in Syria is awful”. It doesn’t have to do with vocabulary as much as a decent understanding of the world and its issues.
I want that person to say things that make me reconsider viewpoints I’ve held for ages.
Also, haven’t you ever had an infuriating conversation with someone you found unintelligent? I’d like to avoid that lol.</p>
<p>As a guy I’ve only ever dated people who were just as intelligent as me. I’m very picky and will only date the perfect person which is why I have a relationship with the mirror going and its getting serious. We’re thinking of moving in together.</p>
<p>Well, there are varying shades of intellect and different types of intelligence. I, myself am a news junkie and history buff, but I don’t mind being with someone who was much more math driven and didn’t know much about politics or western literature. However, he does have to be as intelligent as me in some type of respect. He also has to have drive and ambition.</p>
<p>As for money - as long as we’re both doing jobs we love, I do not care who makes more money… I’m just trying to make as much guap as possible. If he makes more, fine. If not, oh well, looks like I’m the breadwinner.</p>
<p>First off, for me, it’s kind of hard to tell because I’ve never fallen in love (not even the slightest crush) and no one has had a crush on me ever since I became nerdy.</p>
<p>Anyway, I’d like to say I don’t care about how much money he makes, but I want to be a scientist/mathematician when I grow up, and they’re not exactly rich. I’d have enough trouble supporting my own weight; how could I support his? He needs to make enough money to support himself.</p>
<p>As preamble1776 said, there are multiple types of intelligence. I <em>LOVE</em> science and math. My husband would probably have to be a STEM guy; if not, then at least a doctor.</p>
<p>Dont think it matters, but I perfer smart guys. The amount of money they make doesnt matter to me at all in the concisence of looking for someone to marry. The money between a couple is just material, the love between them is valued higher to me.</p>
<p>Nope. Plain and simple.</p>
<p>If he’s much less intelligent, no. If he makes a lot less money then it wouldn’t be ideal but not a deal-breaker.</p>