Thank you to @prosaic in #106.
This thread has been a reminder of why I haven’t posted on CC in a very long time. I stop by occasionally to see what may be of value in the pre-med threads, and I noticed this thread because a young man I helped with the college search had emailed me the article in question and so I was familiar with the article.
I see that much of the knee-jerk defensiveness, defenses of elitism, riffs on what classes of people suffer more, etc carry on per usual.
The kid wrote an interesting article. He wrote about a particular take on the Ivy (and elite college) experiences that, at a minimum, contains very important grains of truth. It’s not an indictment of Columbia per se, but a comment on aspects of the arms race towards the most elite schools and some of the effects therein.
Do folks not know that Adderall is common on college campuses across the country? Is it a surprise to hear in the lottery-like environment of elite college admissions that kids (and their parents) can become obsessed with resume-building, EC-building, GPA and SAT worrying, etc? And is it a surprise that there are pressures that influence social interactions and how one chooses to spend his or her time once on campus? Doesn’t it make sense that we’ve evolved into a culture where, and very much because of the astronomical costs and trend towards concrete, measurable production in general, the end-product trumps all? Where the ultimate [career] goal trumps any nostalgic exploring and discovering “who you are” sidetracks along the way? Don’t some of us wish our kids could go down a wrong turn or two and treat college as a place to try on many different relationships, ideas, and paths, but we’re understandably nervous in the meantime about the end result of our 250K investment (and even if we don’t like it have to adjust ourselves to the undeniable undertow towards a pretty direct (and concrete) ROI?
I took the article for what it was. I enjoyed it. Much of it rang true, while knowing that it was being written from a certain angle. If I was a professor I would WANT this kid to express himself, to express his views, and then to go even further in exploring (both with himself as a cultural phenomenon) some of his insights and perceptions. Why are there assumptions about the kid being unhappy, or unproductive? Do we know that? The kid is a rising senior. He’s still there. I’d guess he’s going to be “successful.” Didn’t he also write this?
“Just because you go to an Ivy doesn’t mean you’re what I’ve talked about above. I know people who’ve overcome insane circumstances, poverty, and discrimination to get here. I know people who came from the elite upper-class and are still incredibly interesting, ambitious, and good-hearted.”
Please note that I’m responding as a very happy parent of a kid who just graduated from college. He’s a few feet away furiously studying for the new MCAT that he takes in a few days. If I read an article right now critical of my kid’s school I too would be defensive and would say most of it doesn’t reflect my kid’s overall experience. But on the other hand I also know that elements would be true, and that my kid handled those elements, and indeed HAD to to handle them in order to remain viable for his ultimate goals. And in the meantime, it’s fair to ask what goals might he had uncovered if the game was played a little differently, and if the environment wasn’t so driven towards the linear.
Given what we like to think college should be, there is quite frankly considerable intolerance. I mean really? I kid can’t write a thoughtful (albeit provocative…and since when did provocative become out of bounds…and what does THAT mean?) piece without getting smacked around like a two year old?
It seems many don’t want to hear a negative word about their iconic institutions. I recently, and for the first time in 30+ years, sent an alumni update to my own college. It was a riff on the Class/Alumni Notes genre. The editors edited out the riff part, and with sweet consistency, made sure my offering sounded just as routine and narcissistic as everyone else’s.