<p>So I transferred to a UC in the Fall of 2012. And I was having a really difficult time to adjusting to a UC, especially to living on my own. I became VERY homesick and lost motivation. None of my transfer friends understood because they adjusted just fine, so they basically told me to suck it up. Anyways, it has been hard adjusting so my grades this first year are extremely HORRIBLE. How can I bounce back from this experience? Any advice? Thank you so much!</p>
<p>Suck it up, you’re in ur 20s now.</p>
<p>Not to sound too harsh, but you really can’t use excuses anymore. I understand that transferring might be a little difficult, but you were accepted in the first place so the UC you attend actually believes in you. You simply don’t just “lose motivation” because you are homesick. I never buy someones story who says they have trouble adjusting to their new college. Why? It really just seems like a lame excuse for people who have trouble making friends or who don’t study enough in classes. Your community college days are over and you can’t just breeze through everything like you used to. </p>
<p>So what can you do? Go out there and do something. Join some clubs, orgs, frats, anything really. The friends you will make from those groups will help with any type of homesick feeling you might have. Second, just go study. The reason you are attending and paying for college is because you want to advance in life with whatever degree you are interested in. If you graduate with a 2.0 and tell any prospective employer that your GPA was low because you had trouble adjusting, well… good luck with that. You need to look ahead and see how your current situation can impact what you have worked so hard for. So go to the library and study. Attend TA hours, office hours for profs, and actually take notes in class. I have a hard time believing someone who puts an honest effort into studying will receive bad grades.</p>
<p>You’re in a UC now, please take advantage of all the things your school has to offer. Go talk with your academic counselor if you want some help that is more tailored for you. Just don’t waste your time and money by not acting on anything.</p>
<p>You could post this same question in the parents forum. Many students have a hard time with transitions and parents of those students might have specific suggestions. Have you checked with the transfer services program? Academic advising and a referral for counseling are possibilities. You could try something calming and focusing like yoga or tai chi. Or if you really have discipline, meditation. Good luck.</p>
<p>Go talk to a professional. Make an appointment with a CAPS counselor and tell them why you’re stressed and not doing well. It’s one of the first things they likely went over during orientation is that you get free psychological counseling as a UC student.
[SHCS:</a> Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)](<a href=“http://shcs.ucdavis.edu/services/caps.html]SHCS:”>http://shcs.ucdavis.edu/services/caps.html)</p>
<p>I think midnightgolfer made a great point. If you really try to take advantage of the resources you have at your disposal and put a genuine effort into trying to make the social and academic transition there really shouldn’t be any excuses. There are numerous resources to help you socially, emotionally, and academically at any of the UC’s you just have to be proactive in using them.</p>