I’m a bit surprised that the OP’s daughter’s friends were looking at Hamilton, Bates, Colgate or Colby over Haverford—if they are going off of academics and post-graduation placement.
I graduated from Haverford 15 or so years ago. When I applied, it was consistently 5 or 6 in USNWR. I thought of it as being a tad less prestigious than Williams, Amherst, and Swarthmore, but certainly on par with places like Middlebury, Bowdin, Pamona, Claremont, and Wesleyan. Heck, just a few weeks ago Ross Douthat mentioned it in the New York Times: “the slice of the American elite that’s privileged enough and intellectually-minded enough to choose Swarthmore or Haverford or Amherst over a state school or a research university.” Although, he and I are about the same age, so maybe he’s just showing that he is out of step with 17 year olds at NYC prep schools.
My wife went to an elite (but non-Ivy) research university and I have friends who went to most of the Ivys and other NESCACs. In general, my Haverford classmates have perused the same careers as graduates from Ivys, et al. I have friends in White Shoe law firms, Wall Street, Silicon Valley, tenure track positions at well-known universities, medical research, and in the more competitive medical specialties. The only big lacuna is electoral politics, but we are still young. I know that my Haverford degree was seen as a big plus when I matched into a prestigious residency in a competitive field. FWIW, I’m now an extremely well compensated medical specialist.
I would say that compared to NESCAC and Ivy+ schools, there are fewer in finance, consulting, tech, and politics, and more with PhDs and MDs. I attribute this to the Quaker ethos which tends to favor service and shun filthy lucre.
The biggest difference I noticed between Haverford and some of its peer schools is that there is much less social posturing and overt displays of wealth. My wife’s freshman year roommate had a closet full of Chanel clothes, many of which she never ended up taking the tags off of. This woman has since married a centimillionaire and lives on Long Island. I have a friend who went to one of the Big Three and had roommates who would throw parties that cost a few thousand dollars (remember, this was 15 or so years ago) and then would ask my friend, who was of relatively modest means to chip in.
Haverford had very little of that behavior when I was there. For someone who came from a lower-upper-middle-class background, this was generally a blessing. I socialized with the children of centimillionaires and billionaires and never had my face rubbed in it. I think that this was a carryover from the school’s Quaker heritage. Everyone was very friendly, although pretty nerdy and mousy.
The downside of the culture was that if you were a little more conventionally “cool”, into the beautiful person scene, liked to wear pastel colors, etc. there was a lot of informal social policing. Haverford just didn’t do exclusive or over the top. In retrospect, it was better for me to be at Haverford than at say, Princeton or Duke, but when I was 18, I think I would have liked the sports/frat scene, even if it wouldn’t have been good for my psyche (or grades). I did seriously consider transferring to a bigger school that was a bit less nerdy.
Maybe things have changed, but Hamilton, Bates, Colgate or Colby had reputations of being more “preppy” with sports, parties, and social status having a more prominent role than at Haverford.
TL;DR: Haverford is a great college that will get you jobs very similar to NESCAC and Ivy+ schools and is filled with thoughtful, understated, and unpretentious students. But, the sports, party, frat/club scene is essentially non-existent.