<p>Honestly, I think he was stupid to do it. Sure, if I was as smart as him, I would be ****ed that I didn't get into that school, but c'mon, killing yourself? However, I do know how he might have felt, about not wanting to dissapoint friends/family, it's happened to me before with different things, a bad feeling, but again, nothing to kill yourself over.</p>
<p>RIP</p>
<p>California, its easy for you to say but you really don't know what else was going on, family pressure, peer pressure, pressure on himself, prior depression, there are so many variables that could have affected his recent state of mind, and perhaps the college denial assuming thats what it was was the icing on the cake. I mean you and I both know this is a major league pressure cooker this time of year. We all can easily say how stupid it was, what a waste for him to have done this but none of us really know what precipitated this horrible and tragic event, lets just all pray for him and his family that must be so distraught.</p>
<p>They talked to young people who tried to commit suicide, many did it on impusle, decided to just do it, and were most were happy, in hindsite, that the suicide attempt failed</p>
<p>Often they see it is the end, and that impulse to do it just takes hold</p>
<p>It could be that an hour later, the next day, the young man would have gotten over the desire to take his life, or if he had talked to someone and someone really listened he might be alive, or he might have still felt the same way, but a bit of time passing can put things in perspective</p>
<p>Stupid is the wrong word- sad, alone, scared, worried are more appropriate</p>
<p>ouch owned :(</p>
<p>I doubt he killed himself because he didn't get in. If the Ivy in question was one that no one except the college crowd knows about, well he's not missing out on anything, and there are a plethora of better schools than those. If it was HYP that deferred him, then he may as well have been playing Russian Roulette at that level.</p>
<p>his choice was columbia wasn't it?</p>
<p>cornell isn't good enough for him so he jumped it seems :P</p>
<p>they didnt name the damn school</p>
<p>wow.......</p>
<p>As the parent of a 17-year-old, as well as a 22-year-old prone to depression, this scares the cr*p out of me. I'm so proud of both my boys and I love them so much. If they didn't get into a particular school, or didn't get a particular job, or didn't win the next wrestling match -- it's not important. I'm still thrilled they have ten fingers and ten toes and normal vision and normal hearing. Everything else they have is gravy.</p>
<p>Kids: We put pressure on you because we want you to succeed (whatever that means). But even if you don't "win" whatever the latest prize is, we still love you and think you are amazing.</p>
<p>Why someone kills themselves often makes no sense to others, but to the person their world has collapsed</p>
<p>No one should judge what pushes someone over the edge, we should just watch, pay attention, not put this pressure on, let them know that mistakes are fixable, and while a person's path may not be perfect we still love and accept them</p>
<p>It is hard for teens and young adults to disappoint others and they think everyone is paying attention and will laugh at their percieved failures</p>
<p>So, he could have erred badly with his applications, he could have fibbed about his acceptences, he could have gotten in to a great school but was overwhelmed, the girl he liked didn't like him the same way, it could be some of that or none of that that, but when you are in the midst of a personal crisis, you dont' see all the possibilities you are instead caught up in the moment of whatever is hurting you and your feelings of hurting others, thinking, well, I failed them, so they won't miss me</p>
<p>Sure, none is rational, none would set most people to try and kill themselves, but for an impulsive young adult, it is all very real, sad to say</p>
<p>We need to be especially watchful when an event happens- getting dumped, failing a class, wrecking the car, college letters- that is the time to hold them close, and listen intentally, most likely, it will pass and all is okay, but you never know</p>
<p>We think these kids are tough and can handle it all...well, they sometimes can't...so we as parents can just do our best to support them, listen, learn, and do what veryhappy said </p>
<p>When a major life disappointment happens, or we sense something is wrong, we have to trust our gut and take what they say seriouslly</p>
<p>It might be just playing cards with them to get through the moment, to get to the time when you can talk</p>
<p>It is sad. All of us as high school seniors feel outside pressure. But the vast majority have outlets to turn to. It would be troubling for anyone, not to have such an outlet(s). But lets not trivialize the issue with a reference to Tyra Banks an overweight old model looking for TV ratings. Please!</p>
<p>trivialize?</p>
<p>I beg to differ, that girl almost DIED from anorexia and the pressure to be a certain way</p>
<p>Nothing is trivial about that...and if you don't take eating disorders seriously, young people can die and are in fact slowly killing themselves</p>
<p>the comparison was to show that well meaning parents don't see that they are often doing some damage with the pressure they apply</p>
<p>I can't believe you think that anorexia is a trivial concern for young adults</p>
<p>The same feelings that affect anorexics often are with people who are depressed, want to hurt themselves (cutters) etc...to think the comparison was trivial was to not understand the underlying issues that are common to young people but come out in various ways</p>
<p>To dismiss the other symptoms is doing a disservice and is dangerous for young hurting people</p>
<p>Feel free to differ without begging. Discourse is a good thing. Your opinion matters on its own---not because of what someone says or promotes on a talk show.</p>
<p>That's so sad.
Sends a chill down the spine</p>
<p>And just to let you know, I was thinking I would do the same which I got rejected from Cornell, but I got over it.</p>