<p>so your big question is social life - </p>
<p>and i get this a lot, i think i might make a post just on social life. so here is a short version for a longer one. </p>
<p>i had an absolute ball at columbia in any every sense of the word, and i definitely treated the city as my playground, but had a great time on campus. so i guess to break up social life into three categories - the everyday, the party/events life and the city life, in each i felt pretty complete. </p>
<p>so your everyday will depend on where you live of course. if you live in John Jay or Carman frosh year, it will be your floor. if you live in the LLC it is usually your suite. i was an LLCer, and so my everyday usually consisted of watching tv in the lounge while doing homework, joking with friends, playing videogames, cooking dinner with friends (or more accurately, buying groceries and having a friend cook for me). it gave me a really tight knit family, people i relied on, that taught me things i never knew, and also opened up opportunities for me because they were part of this activity, or knew a senior doing something. </p>
<p>so early on, i got involved because of a suitemate with CSE (Special Events, it is now by some other name) that threw parties on campus, and it was fun to be on the party side because you got to play with money, and just put on events to make people have a good time. i joined a fraternity, though can’t say i am the most likely candidate to join one, it was a great experience and introduced me to other groups of people, and close friends that i still have today. every wednesday i would go to the house and play pool or watch tv, just hang out and get away from classes. many of my weekends were spent with folks from the LLC as we would hang out making music, and challenging kids in Carman for southfield supremacy (so there is your residential college competition for you, it does exist). pwoods is right that it is not precisely the same thing, but there is a great degree of dorm-affinity.</p>
<p>i stayed really involved on campus life and went to many of the big events that would go on promoted by the school, or some organization. there is something going on it feels like every good weekend, so it is pretty easy to find something to do. and as the semesters went by i ended up developing more social networks of people doing everything from going to Orchesis to cheer on a friend who is dancing, to hanging out with the Russian club (RIA) at their off-campus wicked mixers. drinking (as my preferred medium of fun) was very accessible. i went out easily 3-4 times a week in some capacity by senior year - and managed to do everything else that came with being a senior (thesis, maintain gpa, be very involved). in my opinion, i don’t think i could have a crazier time anywhere, the availability of events and opportunities - as i said before, are unparalleled.</p>
<p>now the city is the X-factor. how much you use it depends on you, of course. i used it sparingly, but it was always a worthy venture. whether it was going to go dancing, try out a new place to eat, a comedy club, a grungy house party in brooklyn, a fancy dinner you are invited to by a columbia alum, the city really is pretty incredible with regard to your social life.</p>
<p>so i guess you have multiple things to think about - and here is just one perspective of course. i can’t imagine ever having a better time in which i shared the experience not just with columbians, but with average nyers, with other college students in the city, with big wigs and with the guys at 109 deli. and i did it all without breaking my bank, without feeling the pinch. it was also unpredictable - it was not stale in the sense that i knew what i would do every friday night, i had a choice, i could do something i had never done before (the night that started out at SOBs and ended at a small east village hookah bar), or the date that involved burning food in an LLC kitchen. i felt i was able to do everything i could imagine doing, without it ever feeling stale. that i developed friends that are still my best friends today (and will probably be for the rest of my life - we just had a mini-gathering the other night and it was as if things had never changed). so in a sense there is no artificial construction of community, but as a friend of mine put, columbia is a lattice of individual networks in which the richness of your own individual experience is magnified by the fact that you will find tons of people to share it with you. columbia has a fantastic community in the most real sense. it isn’t easy to grasp it by appealing to a concept or an idea, it is something to be experienced. </p>
<p>like any place you will feel some bad days and i think we all know it. you may be one who dislikes campus life and wants to spend more time in the city. but perhaps as an anecdote of the possible, i think when truly harnessed and a good balanced between the academic and social life - columbia can be an incredible time. i have no regrets. i only wish more people knew about how great columbia’s social experiences are.</p>