<p>hi thanks for reading. im new to cc. i posted this question on the parents thread but want a different perspective from you all also. my bff is super smart and worked really hard in high school. she had her heart set on duke but didn't get in. i mean she got into a lot of good schools- state with full ride, Williams, Claremont McKenna, Brown, Princeton, and Stanford (where she is going). It was only Harvard and Duke who were mean enough to reject her. at first she seemed ok with it but recently has been acting differently, sort of depressed, and I confronted her and she confessed that it was because of not getting in. I was hoping that maybe you all would have some advice on what to say to comfort her? Thanks a million</p>
<p>She got into Stanford. I would give my left nut to go to Stanford. Stanford is an excellent school and she'll be getting a top notch education there. I think you have to somehow get it through to her that she has to look ahead (and looking ahead to STANFORD is not a bad deal at all). She can't do anything about what happened so the best thing to do is to keep her head up and look forward to a GREAT 4 years at Stanford. Rejection is not the end of the world.. And her fallback schools definitely prove that more than anything.</p>
<p>I'm sorry that you're friend is upset, ella17, however I'm afraid you're not going to find much sympathy for her on this board. She should consider herself INCREDIBLY lucky that she got into the schools she got into and had the choices she had; most people would kill to be her (see chemical_relapse for a more "colorful" explanation :D). </p>
<p>Getting into Stanford (and Brown and Princeton and Williams and Claremont McKenna) is nothing for her to be depressed about. I'd recommend you remind her of how lucky she is to be going to Stanford and how lucky she was to have the choices she had.</p>
<p>Wow, that is kind of pathetic. Tell her to quit being a baby.</p>
<p>She got into Stanford and Princeton!!! No sympathy for her miserable life.</p>
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<p>LOL, sorry, but that was kinda funny. Rejections can be harsh, but it's not because the school was "mean." Selective schools pick and choose prospective students carefully so they have a well rounded freshmen class, which can or won't include your bff. </p>
<p>It's hard to not get into your first choice, but she did get into VERY good schools and should be proud. If she ends up not liking stanford, which is highly unlikely, then she can always transfer.</p>