Help Me Quell (Or *gulp* Affirm) Mommy's Fears!

Transfer Students
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<p>I am certain that I want to transfer from my present college. My mother, however, is quite ambivalent. She has expressed a concern that I will harm my standing at my present institution if I don't get accepted to my college of choice. Her worries stem from the fact that one must receive two letters of recommendation from professors as well as a letter of good standing from the dean of my class (2008). She seems more nervous about the dean's letter, to be honest. Her main concerns are that I will miss out financial aid the next year or that I'll get shafted in terms of...well, anything. As in, since the profs/dean will be aware that I "don't like the school" they will not be as willing to advise or help me later on. Has anyone actually experienced anything like this? I mean, does this actually happen? I was under the impression that transfering wasn't all that uncommon and that it wouldn't be taken personally...I mean, it would seem unreasonable (and unprofessional) for me to be punished for...I dunno, not being a fit at a school.</p>

<p>In case it matters, I attend the College of the Holy Cross in Worcester, MA. It's basically the "gem" of the city and has a way with connections for jobs/grad school. Small, liberal-arts, Jesuit (gee, really?), very "community-oriented."</p>

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<p>Honestly, don't worry about it at all. I had to do the same thing, last year, and I found out that all the Deans Letter thing is just saying that you haven't been suspened or have a dicipline problem or anything. Its not like a recommendation or anything really important. Usually the secretaries handle them. </p>

<p>And as for your professors, if you like them enough to ask them for a rec, then you should know that they probably aren't the kind of people who wouldnt hold a grudge against you just because you wanted to transfer. Im sure tons of kids do it every year.</p>

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<p>rather than rephrasing what stargzr just said in order to make it seem like im offering something new, ill just tell you that i agree 100%.</p>

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<p>My brother who is looking to transfer feels the exact same way as you, flipflopgroove! He said that he will feel extremely awkward when it is time for him to ask them!</p>