This may have already been mentioned, but since your daughter likes the feel of a LAC and is interested in theater, she might want to consider Muhlenberg. It has a strong theater program (I know of a student who was accepted into NYU’s very competitive program, but couldn’t afford to attend and is now at Muhlenberg) and, while not as selective as Vassar, it is known to have strong academics (and generous merit aid for top students).