<p>Its the end of junior year and I have to choose teachers for college recommendations.</p>
<p>But I have no idea on who to choose for two reasons:</p>
<p>1) This year has not been the best academically
(not failing or anything but my grades range from an A to C right now)
2) I've been on all my teacher's bad side some time during the year
(I annoy them greatly by not always turning stuff in on time)
3) Whenever I talk to my teachers outside the class, I either get scolded or the conversations die really fast
So basically I decided to ask my AP Bio teacher since he wrote recs for me earlier this year but idk who else though.</p>
<p>So now Im torn between a few people:
-my French teacher (Im doing well in her class but she doesnt know me well and i kinda think she hates me since we've bumped heads in the past) </p>
<p>-my 10th grade chemistry teacher (he wrote a rec for me before and we used to talk but I got busy and I stopped talking to him so I kinda feel bad going back to him all of a sudden)</p>
<p>-my social studies teacher (i switched into his class halfway through the year and Im a good student inside the class although Im kinda bad with my hw though)</p>
<p>All of my other teachers this year are not an option since my math teacher said no, my stat teacher is on maternal leave, my english teach is on medical leave, my art history teach only writes recs for those close to her and I dont talk/see most my other 10th grade teachers anymore (I tried talking to them but all attempts have failed)</p>
<p>So who should I choose out of the three for a second rec cuz I have no idea what to do.</p>
<p>Flower, I will try to answer this from the parent perspective, as well as from someone who has been in a teaching position. Success in college and in life is not all about the grade, but about your character and work ethic as well. The college can see your grades. Recommendations are the extra description that goes with them. You seem to have much potential but are not meeting it at the moment.
I think it is time for some self reflection about school. What are the reasons for your poor relationships with your teachers? Is it boredom, issues at home or school? Whatever they are, your behavior with homework and how you relate to your teachers needs improvement. Whatever the reason, you now have an opportunity to be responsible for your actions. This is a crucial part of being an adult.
All is not lost as you are very young, and if you learn this lesson now, you will be a better student and a better person. I know plenty of people my age who knew how to make a good grade, but are horrible to work with, or live with, because they refuse to be accountable for their actions and improve who they are. You have a wonderful chance to change and grow at 17.
Teachers are humans too. They want to be respected and they want their students to give their best effort in their class. IMHO, the best teacher for you to pick is one who will at least consider it, someone you feel you can talk to. First in order is a sincere apology for how you behaved, or for not turning in work or whatever. You know what you did wrong and they certainly know it too. Explain that you know it was wrong. Do not make up an excuse ( they won’t buy it- it makes you look bad). Tell them you sincerely wish to do better and how you will do better- homework on time, speak respectfully to teachers, study harder and improve your grades. Keep them updated on your progress early in the next school year and ask them to speak to your 12th grade teachers about how you are doing. Then keep your word and do it.
We adults recognize that young people make mistakes. We make them too and some of us went through similar things as you have. It is the person who learns from them and makes genuine positive changes after them that succeeds. You have an opportunity to turn yourself around and this is a powerful lesson. It will earn you much more than a good recommendation letter. You have shown by your post here that you are not only very capable academically, but also capable of seeing the part you play in your relationships with your teachers and wish you could do better. You have all it takes to be successful in college and in life if you apply it to your growth as a student and a human being.<br>
Best Wishes.</p>
<p>wow your comment literally moved me!
Thanks soo much Im gonna follow your advice verbatim =D</p>
<p>Penny what a very thoughftul response you provided.</p>
<p>Flower, you sound like a wonderful kid. It is very commendable how you took accountability. Do follow Penny’s advice. I have no doubt you will get a stellar recommendation. Keep us posted.</p>