Help with making friends

<p>I'm going to be a sophomore at Tufts U. next year, and I still haven't got a solid group of friends. My friends are mostly scattered around campus and have their own groups who they hang out with on a more regular basis-any tips for making life long friends at college? I'm trying to get more involved in campus activities, etc, but am a little worried about next year...</p>

<p>The way to make lifelong friends is to simply meet more people. Every person you don't meet means about 2-3 more people that you won't meet. So meet as many people as you can, and enjoy the process!</p>

<p>You're bound to find some lifelong friends out of those people. Ironically, making more close friends and meeting acquaintances are not mutually exclusive, as one might think.</p>

<p>The truth is that deep friendships are rare. Go instead for friends to hang with....and the more you do with a group or activity, the more you are hanging out with them. So find an activity from student t.v., radio, intramurals, a job or whatever....that will lead to friends. My closest friends I met at church in sunday school.</p>

<p>Lifelong friends just "happen". One day you meet this one person, the next thing you know you have lots of common interests, then you two start calling each other and hang out or whatever, and even after college, you still keep in touch frequently. That's pretty much what happens.</p>

<p>Usually, the best way to make friends in college is by getting very involved in a couple of campus activities that deeply interest you. Birds of a feather flock together.</p>

<p>Hey Bonga,</p>

<p>A Tufts '07 alum here! Sorry to hear you haven't found The Group of people to hang out with yet, but here's my two-cents.</p>

<p>My freshman year at Tufts I had a great group of friends, but towards the end of the year, and especially over that first summer break, I realized I didn't have as much in common with them as i would've liked. Turns out that by the time I graduated, my best friends were all people I met my sophomore and senior years (I was abroad my jr year). </p>

<p>Don't worry -- I think it's totally normal to not have found The Perfect Group of Friends in that first year. The good thign is that you seemt o know a lot of people so you're not totally lonely either! Knowing one person will lead you to another, to another, and so on.</p>

<p>And I really agree with the above parents' suggestions to get involved in campus activities that really interest you. My involvement in certain publications on campus led me to some really great people.</p>

<p>Good luck and have fun at Tufts!</p>

<p>Go Greek, going greek will help you gain friends not only friends but brothers/sisters.</p>

<p>Wow,at least you got some friends,that's cool.I even doubt whether I have a few or not so far.</p>

<p>lifelong friends?It's pretty difficult to get one by some..tips.Just try to know more people,be nice..things like that.Again,there's no secret to make sure you can have a longlife friend.</p>

<p>Going Greek is not exactly the best option at Tufts...</p>

<p>Yeah it is sad that deep, lifelong friends are rare. It seemed easy to find a best friend when you were a kid (at least for me). But the vast majority of people you meet will be casual acquaintances, friend of a friend, the guy you hang out with, people you can talk to about school. It's hard to find someone who shares similar interests, and is really like you. I know one person who I trust immensely and have known for years. I can talk to him about anything, trust him with anything. I've had one fight with him in 6 years, and there was no yelling. This is one person. He didn't go to my high school. My "best friends" in high school was a kid who was co-captain of a club with me that we talked about school, and a person who was a really good acquaintance. Not quite a friend, but a high-level acquaintance because we were part of different groups and I was sometimes uncomfortable around him, he didn't appreciate me as much as I did him. Most "friendships" are superficial. The bff super duper friends like in Superbad, Stand By Me, Weird Science are few and far between. My dad is 50 and he has 2 maybe 3 "lifelong" friends that visit, my mom seems to have 2 she always turns to. Same for my uncle. These deep relationships, this platonic love that two friends have for one another seems so rare its sad. Sure I can hang out and laugh with plenty of people? But do I "love" (again platonic love). Sadly only one person, and he's in another state.</p>