<p>So yeah, one of my closest friends in high school is mad at me for the most ridiculous reasons. We were having elections, and she just blatantly told me that she would be president while I could be vice-president. I was stung by that comment because she just said it without regarding my opinions or feelings, but in order to save our friendship, I agreed. Then she decided to become vice-president when she realized there was no hope for her and anted to be co vice-presidents with me. Again, I agreed to save our relationship.
Elections came around, and it was a double meeting where members should invite their friends who were interested in the club as well. I brought a couple of my friends over and some food because 1. the president said to bring some and 2. my friend said she was going to bring some and advised me too. I brought my friends who were both interested and were willing to cooperate with the voting so that they came out even.
She told me that we should have the same campaign speech,so the people would not be able to judge us and to share ideas too. I did so, and after I won, my friend accused me of "stealing her ideas," "bringing food to tempt the members," and "bringing my friends to vote for me."
I was shocked because she was the one who told me to do these things. I was willing to help her out, but she just left. Then I heard later one that she told all our friends about my "cheating ways" when I wasn't there. Everyone knows that I wouldn't do that, but they still look at me funny. She talks crap about me in front of my face and is now ostracizing me.
I always helped her out with clubs, grades, homework, letting her work do her work during my time on the school computer (we share). However, now I feel so tired about all this. She's been acting mean to me for weeks, and after I tried apologizing, she's still mad. It's the end of the school year, and I don't want it to end like this. Please give me advice on what I should do. Thank you. =) (I needed to vent as well)</p>
<p>Ugh, I’m sorry you’re going through this. I just went through something similar with one of my very closest friends, and we’re adults! She started yelling at me at a party - apparently she’s disagreed with how my husband and I have been handling family matters for the past year! She said some very hurtful things, and I found out that she was sharing her feelings with mutual friends.</p>
<p>I realized I had to make a decision, and that’s where you are right now. In my case, I told her that although I love her, I cannot devote the energy required to repair the relationship, so I thought we should “take a break” from each other. That was seven months ago, and now when we see each other, we just exchange a brief hello. It still hurts, but I think I made the right call.</p>
<p>You could try talking with her one more time, letting her know how you’re feeling. If she reacts poorly, I’d say it’s time to step away from the friendship, as much as that will hurt.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>i think it sometimes hurts more when your friends get the thing you wanted - if it’s a stranger you can just forget about it, and go back to your circle of friends. but if your friend gets it, then you have to live with a reminder of the thing you didn’t get, as well as the fact that your friend has it (if you sustain the friendship).</p>
<p>but that might be harder than just ending the friendship in order to put distance between yourself and that painful event. but how to end the friendship?</p>
<p>you can’t just admit that’s why your ending the friendship … because it hurts you so much … that would be humiliating. so instead you end it because your friend did unspeakable, traitorous thing to steal from you the thing they got. this is such a convenient thing to believe that you might end up even convincing yourself it’s true.</p>
<p>but wait, maybe later with a cooler head you realize it was totally wrong of you to do such a hurtful thing like that, accuse your friend of doing things you know she really didn’t do. </p>
<p>but now you’re stuck. you can’t just admit it was all a big mistake and really you just invented those things in order to justify ending your friendship because that’s what you felt you had to do - where would your pride go? no, you have to pretend you stand by what you did, even if it hurts…</p>
<p>i’m not sure which one it is though, whether she is really made at you still or only pretending to be mad in order to justify that what you did was wrong (like you know how when someone stays mad at someone else for so long it almost forces the other person into apologizing even if they didn’t do anything wrong. because how it seems to work is the alternative - that they did nothing wrong but every second of the other person’s being mad at them was unjustified - becomes less acknowledgeable with every passing second.</p>
<p>Sorry for the late response, I’ve been busy with finals and whatnot, but thank you for all the advice given me. I think my friend has calmed down a bit, and we’re on very minimal speaking terms now. However, that’s better than before, and maybe it will get better. Anyways, thnx =3</p>
<p>Your friend honestly just sounds manipulative and just a straight up jerk. If I were you I would honestly just block her out. Why would anyone want to even try putting up with that.</p>
<p>I would set your friend straight. You need to sit her down and tell her everything that went on. Tell her everything that you just told us, and tell her how it made you feel. She can’t go around doing that and still expect you to be her friend. That’s stupid on your part. Tell her what needs to happen and what you won’t stand for.</p>