<p>qwert271, are you talking from experience. and if so, how long did your relationship last with this person? i dont think you can actually talk about this topic with such fervor as you are without actually knowing it first hand. believe i know more about this than you are making out. ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now. im talking from experience here. i love him but sometimes it gets boring.</p>
<p>no i have no experience in this. i told you i was only nursing this philosophy. but still i think that youre considering iq, maturity, and ability to converse intelligently as one characteristic. because i would think that the intelligent conversation that you talk about and the poetry and current events conversation would get just as old as anything that you talk about now with your current boyfriend. what i think is your problem with this guy is that you identify yourself with your intelligence and therefore arent fully compatible because he doesnt or you dont consider him to be intelligent. im really not saying this to be derogatory, its cool if youre smart and want to be able to be smart with someone. i dont think that i see myself as smart first and foremost before i see myself as (blank), so i dont need someone to be able to hold my iq.</p>
<p>Talking about poetry and current events doesn't necessarily make a person intelligent, it just makes the person aware...of poetry and current events. I feel like people put on the facade of being "cultured" to over-compensate for a lack of intelligence. Intelligence is more a way of thought, and it is important in a relationship, if that relationship is going to last. People who are together should have similar ways of thinking, otherwise they will be unable to entirely understand/relate to each other. Intelligence should not be mistaken for knowledge, however. Discussing things like poetry and current events is pretty superficial, and while it might be interesting for a time, it does not make a relationship. Relationships require intimacy, and pretending to be cultured and being a psuedo-intellectual will not lead to that. Although intelligence can help a relationship withstand time, being loved by your partner is far more important, and has nothing to do with smarts.</p>
<p>I don't know. I'm not convinced I could romantically love someone who isn't smart/talented. Music is also very big for me, especially performers but not exclusively. I like musicians or at least people who are openminded about it and willing to learn and listen. That's me. I'll be open-minded about music in return. I understand you guys aren't me and probably look for different things.</p>
<p>I tend to agree with you, Jono--not the music part (I'm not a musician), but the idea of not being able to have feelings for someone unintelligent/untalented.</p>
<p>thats true spanks, but how about having both, because just having love as i said gets boring</p>